Say you start dating someone and you end up really liking them but then they either lead you on, rebound on you, cheat, manipulate you, etc.
You may be happy you found signs early on but it takes you awhile to get over them because of how close you felt to them, you just have a difficult time getting over it?
Im going through this right now and I've gone through it before. It's a rather shitty feeling. It's like sure you can point out their red flags and ways they screwed you over but because you had feelings for them, it's not easy to get over it by the flip of a light switch.
I honestly don't know which is worse, when you see red flags and stay away and it kills you ir when you give in and it fs you up either way you are screwed
I have however worked on myself a lot and resisting guys I have strong connections with but are no good for me I think w me getting more confident, knowing my worth better, knowing what I deserve and not accepting bs, I will not fall in love w guys like that no more... just the theory for now but I think I'm on a good way w this maybe really does experiences were meant to push you to face things and work on you... but I don't think that is necessary, there are better ways... I think it's not our fault w fall in love w someone like that and it's not fair
Never dated them but really liked them. However some wanted me as an ego boost, leading me on or I was "second best". Others liked me back but we were complete opposites and it could never work. We had different values and different lifestyles; theirs did not fit with mine. One guy was an alcoholic, party animal and had no real ambition or passion for life. The other guy was lazy, desperate and wanted someone to make up for what he was too lazy to get himself (money and career). I'm all about self-improvement, being positive, getting a career, getting good grades and all the guys who I liked, got along real well with but they were the opposite :(
Heartbreak is a bitch. It takes us awhile to come through to the other side. Love is all about chances and risk taking, and we put our trust in the other person to be kind, decent, and we hope that they are. As I have seen in the not so past, this is not true. We never know who people really are. WE can hope for the best, but even the girl/guy we think is the most decent person, has faults. Faults that may hurt us. Yes I think when we care about someone, no matter how far they threw us under a bus, it is extremely hard to get over them if we cared. Some people can flip off feelings fast, others not so much. Bottom line, stay busy, find different hobbies, and the right person will come along. Best of Luck
It's really tough walking away from someone you wanted to be with but it's even tougher dealing with bullshit and constant heartache and upset throughout the relationship.
I have had to do this recently and I am missing him a lot but I know in the long term it will be worse so it's better to deal with ignoring him, missing him and analysing everything for now and in time I will get over it and move on.
Yes, I'm going through that right now! I can't get over him because I keep rehashing all the shitty things he did to me, in my head. I'm analyzing everything and wondering if it was something I did. Then, he does something else to me that just reinforces my feelings about why we broke up but also re-breaks my heart.
I knew in my heart I was being used and manipulated, but I I still held onto him. I kept trying to tell myself I was wrong about him. I suppose It felt good being told how much he cared about me and loved me, even if it was just in those moment's of being fooled
I'm not with him now , but I just can't fully move on, but I don't know why. I have no idea why I care about someone who cared so little 😪
I've been feeling that way for the past 3 weeks. Can't really get over this girl I really liked even though: 1. She has a boyfriend and was trying to cheat behind his back and 2. All she did was play games not deciding if she wanted me or not. I still find myself wondering if she really did like me, or some other guy.
It's called hormones my friend and they will fuck you up. When you start a new relationship and you're constantly talking and having sex multiple times a day it is amazing. Your brain chemistry changes. You get used to that higher level of stimulation and when its gone, you feel empty. It just takes time to realize this was all just a fiction played on you by nature. It's these emotions that make us stick around long enough to make babies.
Just take time and be alone. It's gonna suck. But you need to get yourself to a place where you no longer need another person to feel joy. Do thing that you get fulfillment out of by yourself. Then once you have your confidence back and feel like you have more control of your emotions than they of you, make new friends. Take the time to investigate the women you want to be with. Not in a private eye way. But hold off on dating them until you see how they act. The magic number is about three months. After three months a lot of the walls come down and you begin to see who a person really is.
I went through this a few years ago. It took me time and lots of practice, but because she made me reevaluate my life I am a better man now. I am more calm, steadfast, and focused on MY goals. Use this my friend. Gain from it. Turn this negative into a springboard to launch you into the amazing life you can create for yourself now. You've been used, you now know the signs and will never be used again.