Don't get me wrong, I want to be respected, I'm not into being shamed or called names but if I have a boyfriend and he tells me to change my dress before we go out, my heart will definitely melt. Sometimes it gets confusing because I'm an independent woman, yet I want a man who can make me cook and clean for him but still call me beautiful.
I know in your head the thought of a guy telling you to do x, y, and z sounds appealing, but the reality often turns out to be far different from the fantasy. Guys who need that much control over you likely don't trust you, don't value your opinion or feedback, and frankly I don't get everyone's kink for possessiveness. Possessiveness turns into intentional isolation in my experience.
Of course, that's not all cases, but it seems like it's a little too romanticized for me to see the appeal. But to each their own.
No it is not bad at all. Actually it sounds like you want a confident dominate man that loves you and shows that he loves you by being possessive. Which is an easy way to show that he loves you. However with you being independent your actually probably just looking for a man that is confident, knows what he wants and will tell you. Who is not afraid to show you that your the woman that he loves. Most independent women only like a man who is dominant in bed. If you are independent then you would not like him being dominant because that takes away most of your freedom. Do you actually want him to MAKE you cook and clean while he sits on his ass or do you want a man to ask you to cook and clean for him but will help you with it. Now there is nothing wrong with roleplaying but I'm sure that you don't want to be a dominant man's maid all the time. Because that is what happens. Also if you wore a dead he did not like a dominant man would make you change. Is it bad if you really do like being submissive no it is not. That is part of who you are. I don't mean to kind of step on your dreams but I just had 2 female friends break up with some very nasty dominant men and it was and is not pretty.
It isn't 'bad,' but definitely risky. Strongly possessive and dominating men are often abusive and don't have that softer side you described, so you'd need to be discerning about who you get involved with