Just wondering if all you women here would be able to date a guy with asperger syndrome. I have it, and it's a mild form of autism for those of you who don't know.
I ask this because many AS traits would appear to be turn offs for girls. For example, girls want guys with great social skills who are great at approaching them, something most guys with AS lack, as we are quite socially awkward.
Relationships are especially hard with AS males since they have to initiate contact and do the asking, Women giving cues and signs that they like us doesn't work due to our inability to read body language, So if you’re a girl and like a guy with AS, you may have to do some of the initiating. I have only asked out a tiny fraction of the girls I’ve liked cause asking out girls is when my social skills are at their worst. Fortunately I met this girl who did initiate contact with me and even told me she wants to make it official between us. We’re not official yet (somewhere between friendship and relationship), but things have gone nice and slow. And she knew I had AS before she initiated contact.
So for all you women out there, would you be willing to date a man with asperger syndrome? Or is it too much of a turn off? No sugar coated answers, be real with me.
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my last boyfriend had AS and I have to say that dating him really made me re-evaluate what is important in a boyfriend. his personality traits that stemmed from AS made him the most amazing boyfriend in the world in some ways because he did not know how to handle or express his emotions, so he was honest and raw. I don't think I could ever go back to dating a guy who didn't have those traits now because it cut down on so much misunderstandings and drama. a big part of it was because I learned to accept that the only way he could communicate was with his words and not with his body language or through subtlety. I couldn't predict anything he was going to do so I stopped trying to and just let whatever was going to happen, happen. in a lot of ways he was the most amazing guy a girl could ever ask for and it was ALL because of the personality traits that are common with guys who have AS.
there was a down side to it too though and that was that he had problems with intimacy. even things as simple as kissing and cuddling were strange to him because it seemed like they just weren't natural acts for him to do. everything that involved intimacy on his part was forced and, as a result, awkward.
in the end I decided that we should just be friends because his issues prevented us from being able to do the kinds of things together that people who are in love typically do. but if it makes any sense, I would rather have a friend like him than a boyfriend who wasn't. and in a way he kinda ruined me for future men because I don't think I could ever be with a guy who didn't have that kind of raw honesty. the way he was totally up front about whatever was going on his head at any given time because he had no other way of expressing it really made him amazing in my eyes. and I think I need that now.12
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