We talk a lot face to face, but don't text much?

Why could this be happening? When we see each other we have great conversations, we laugh a lot and make good eye contact, we have a love for movies so we borrow each others' dvds, we broke the touch barrier so we hug each other a lot but when it comes to texting, we have conversations sometimes but other times she either doesn't reply or seems annoyed but when we see each other again, she mentions stuff I texted about and she elaborates on that, what's going on? Am I annoying her when I text her? I don't really mention it to her but it kinda bugs me. According to a friend, she asked him for my number and he told her he couldn't give it to her because he would be "betraying my trust" but that instead he would give me hers, so I assumed maybe she was a bit interested. any ideas?


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  • I have this same kind of deal going on with me and my current guy.

    I think it comes down to texting being so inconvenient sometimes. It's a pain in the ass when you et texts and your at work or about to do something and want to reply but get sidetract or can only manage something quick.

    One thing I notie with my guy is we don't communicate well over text cause it's so hard to read tone in text. We are such jokey kinda people and jokes do not communicate as well over text. It gets awkward and people don't always see te joke and take thjngs the wrong way.

    The third and final reason I give for this is she doesn't wanna seem too keen. Texting is pretty full on when you are spending that much time together. Just relax :) she obviously likes you texting is just riddled with annoyance for some people :)

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What Girls Said 6

  • A lot of people just aren't into texting. If she's acting normal in person then leave it be, that's what really matters anyways. You aren't going to have a relationship via texting. Also you need to remember that its hard to tell emotions from texting. So you may think that she's annoyed when she really isn't. Don't sweat it, if she's normal to you in person then you have nothing to worry about.

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  • It's because while texting, you can't see each others' expressions, hear their voice, or know their mood. Therefore, it could easily seem like they're a whole different person while texting, when in reality they really aren't thinking what you THINK they are thinking. That's probably why emoticons were invented now-a-days. Shows some emotion while texting so you don't assume. :P

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  • I have the same problem, it's so confusing, I think you should bring it up to her, but in a calm casual way! Good luck!

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  • Actually you're quite lucky. I remember this one guy who did nothing but text, aim, or facebook me but when it came to talking face to face or on the phone, things got really awkward. He couldn't come up with much to talk about and when I tried to make conversation he would just give short answers.



    Be glad you two can connect with one another on a more personal level. For all you know, she just can't get enough of you and rather not be limited with just words.

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  • some people just don't like texting

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  • I'm in the same situation. When I hang out with the guy I've been seeing, it's perfect (literally, we have an amazing, amazing connection)! But when it comes to texting, he never texts me. And if I text him, he gives short replies that I can't respond to.

    I've actually called him out on it and he simply says "I'm trying to text less," or "I'm really absent minded so I forget to text people." I was hoping this would change his behavior, but naturally it hasn't and he still doesn't text. I think that you should casually bring it up to her (face to face, of course!), and talk with her about it. It never hurts to ask.

    Clearly she reads your texts and has things to say about them, so she brings it up when you two are together -- so I DON'T think it's annoying her. She could very well be busy and not have a chance to respond! If she doesn't mention your texts at all when you two are together, then I'd begin thinking she was annoyed.

    Simply ask her about it :-)

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What Guys Said 3

  • When you're together and talking in PERSON, it's good.

    But when you text her, you can't hear each others' voice. It's passive and you interact in a calm, easy fashion and not have to reply so quickly with charm and wittyness.

    So instead of communicating through text, CALL HER instead some night you're both available to talk. No distractions. This is how couples handled this back before texting came about.

    I only text girls up to schedule a time to talk, or make plans to meet up in person. Coming from her end, she doesn't mind texting her friends up and doing chit chat with them. But when it comes to a particular love interest, possibly yourself, she'd rather SEE YOU or at least hear your voice for a bit.

    So I tell you what - either call her up and spend a short timeframe talking to her. But save more talk for person-to-person chat aka date. That way, you can share physical emotions with each other, and hug, kiss, make-out, feel up, sex, whatever.

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  • well... it could be several things:

    1) she has one of those plans on her phone where she can't text a lot.

    2) she's more of a face-to-face person

    3) she hates to text

    4) OK it was three things, not several.

    she must not be annoyed if she's being cool with you in person. how many times do you text her? sometimes people go overboard and just go on and on when an conversation should end... not saying that's what you're doing, just trying to help you figure it out. also, you can't gauge emotion such as annoyance via text, so you might just be reading the signals wrong.

    the best way to find out is to ask her in a non-confrontational way. that's the only way to get the truth.

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  • I completely agree with Phoenix52, some people are more physical beings and require that physical presence and interaction to effectively communicate with someone, or at least to enjoy it. When someone wants to text back and forth with me I easily get bored and rarely connect with them. It feels more like a chore. I much prefer a conversation by phone or in real life. So much more exciting and rich in detail. Your love interest may be similar.

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