It seems as if everyone texts more than they talk on the phone nowadays... which is absolutely fine (I actually prefer texting). However, when it comes to dating... do guys actually focus on who texts who first? I know that when I'm dating someone and I'm trying to see if it'll go anywhere, I always want him to text me first. When he doesn't text for a few days, I'm always afraid of losing contact so I'll text. It's an ongoing battle! Sometimes I feel like if I text him as much as I want to that it comes off as annoying. I hate the texting "game" in the dating world! Do guys see texting as this way or do they honestly just not care?
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I've learned in my experience, if you're a guy don't text much. I made the mistake last summer of texting someone I really liked too much and she interpreted the texts so out of hand it wasn't even funny. I actually became creepy, and once you become creepy there is no going back in a girl's eyes. I tried explaining myself, but that only made things worse. So now I hardly ever initiate texts. It's just not worth it. If the girl is into me she will text first. I'm all for trading off on who's first though. The maximum texts I will send a new girl in one day is about 5. Anymore looks like you have no life. The exception of course is if you've been dating awhile. Then I think this rule isn't so important.
The girl I like now actually takes about an hour up to 3 hours before she responds. I know she probably does that for a reason. I don't think it's because she doesn't like me because her responses come in like clockwork. I also don't immediately respond, as it makes little sense. So yeah, texting can be very bad.1