I've learned in my experience, if you're a guy don't text much. I made the mistake last summer of texting someone I really liked too much and she interpreted the texts so out of hand it wasn't even funny. I actually became creepy, and once you become creepy there is no going back in a girl's eyes. I tried explaining myself, but that only made things worse. So now I hardly ever initiate texts. It's just not worth it. If the girl is into me she will text first. I'm all for trading off on who's first though. The maximum texts I will send a new girl in one day is about 5. Anymore looks like you have no life. The exception of course is if you've been dating awhile. Then I think this rule isn't so important.
The girl I like now actually takes about an hour up to 3 hours before she responds. I know she probably does that for a reason. I don't think it's because she doesn't like me because her responses come in like clockwork. I also don't immediately respond, as it makes little sense. So yeah, texting can be very bad.
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I know from my perspective, I see it as a game, but only because that is how I think girls see it. Honestly, I think it is ridiculous. If two people like each other, it shouldn't matter who texts who first, or how often (as long as it isn't incessant). That being said, I feel like most girls view it as a game, and that I constantly have to walk the line between texting too much and not enough.
That being said, I tend to look at things differently than a lot of guys, so I'm sure a lot of guys aren't consciously thinking about it. I don't think they will think you are being annoying as long as you aren't texting all day. Personally, I like it when a girl initiates a text conversation with me from time to time. I'll usually do it, because I feel like most girls expect the guy to, but it is a nice change when the girl will take some initiative.
Depends on the guy as much as the girl... I think guys who enjoy a girls company but isn't worried about the situation will text whenever they have something to say or when they want to hang out.
I have a male friend who texts / calls when he needs to because he knows he will see them in the near future. Dating wise... he does it when he wants to hang out... if he is the one that does most of the initiating he is aware but he doesn't mind. If the girl doesn't try as hard because she's losing interest hell feel bad about it but at the same time he believes if that's their choice then fine.
lol..I date a man that says he will text me later...and I leave it at that..refuse to text him..then he gets mad because I didn't...its a very confusing game we play :S...although its' kind of funny...So to him I would say it matters...The rest of the guys ..I can't really explain.
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I feel that guys focus on it more because us guys worry about appearing clingy, needy, or desperate more than you girls do, that or it's just because when a guy is clingy, needy, or desperate, it will turn a girl off way more than a clingy, needy, desperate girl will turn off a guy
Please don't wait for the guy to text first/initiate conversations.. Really frustrating and gives mixed signals. It's annoying enough that us guys are expected to initiate everything by our old fashioned stupid society expecations.
If you like the guy, initiate conversations every now and then. It's only fair, and shows you're not into stupid mind games.Don't care who does it first. I just don't want the phone going off when I'm busy or asleep. That means no texts which are pointless. No "Whatcha doin?" texts at 2am.
I won't send any text unless I have something to say. It's cheaper to call.I see texting as a means of communicating, albeit a poor one. If I have something to communicate, I'll text. That's all I see it as.
Too much texting can get annoying. In the beginning of a relationship, I'm much more tolerant of lots of texts because you are finding out about someone. When you know each other and your phone is lighting up with text all day then that gets to be a bit much.
Guys generally suck at texting.
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