Yes, I've never been with a boy,
never had sex (or made love),
never actually shared a bed with a boy,
and never even spent a Valentine's day with a boy!
Yup, that's where it's at.
I have an otherwise normal life.
I have friends, a job, I got a degree,
there's nothing wrong with my physical appearance
and I'm well - groomed.
I can't flirt, not even when the guy initiates it,
sometimes I don't even notice when a guy hits on me
(my friends have to point it out to me!).
I feel so dysfunctional and different to all the other girls my age
that I don't think I'll ever be able to find myself a boyfriend
because I'm just so inexperienced and clueless.
What do you think of the situation?
And how do I improve things?
I actually can't help but realize that in my case it's not really a question of having no social skills or no social life (because I have both). I'm fairly private as a person but I can have conversations with people and most find me quite a pleasant person, or so I've been told. Yet, when it comes to guys, I genuinely can't seem to bring myself to go further than a friendly convo or a few laughs and a beer.
I think I'm in a messed-up place when it comes to relationships!
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My situation was pretty much the same as yours until about two years ago. For some reason I was a late bloomer. I didn't really even seriously try to pursue women up until that point. So yes there were some embarrassing moments and I had some catching up to do with people in my age group, and still do to some extent. You seem to have your life together otherwise which is a good thing. Now try to apply the effort and discipline that got you your degree and job to becoming more comfortable in social situations, which at the end of the day can really only happen through trial and error.0