We cuddle and talked after sex.
He told me he thought I didn't like him after I rejected his kiss on 2nd date. He was going to look for someone who really likes him instead.
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I'm confused as to why you'd ask this. From my understanding, you went on 2 dates, he went for a kiss and you rejected him. He said nothing at the time, but still went on more dates with you. On date 4, you had sex, and he admitted to you afterward that after date 2 he thought you didn't like him. At that point, it's over, and it doesn't really matter. It seems like you're asking "for future reference" which to me says you're already looking to a future not including him. That seems like a death sentence for any kind of relationship with this guy.
Not only that, his opinion of more or less seeking a kiss on second date and being rejected as some sort of sign you don't like him so he's going to move on to someone who will (no matter how small the action might be, even a kiss) give more action early on. That also spells death sentence for any relationship. I don't see you moving on much past just casual dating and sex. Is that what you want? It seems like you want something more because you're asking if it's too soon or too late, but at the same time you're looking to a future to know when to have sex with the next guy you date.
To me, sex has its own timeline. It's different for every situation and partner. For example, my last girlfriend I dated for 4 months, but we never had sex because things didn't feel just right to me. However, after that relationship ended, I was somewhat hanging out with a friend that I had known for about 5 months and one thing led to another and we had sex on what I suppose would be considered our first "date" - but that was become things felt right. There was more of a connection with her. We've been talking, hanging out, and doing things since then, which was 4 months ago. So in my case, I was actually in a relationship with someone for 4 months and had no sex, however there is a friend which I had known for a while but never dated, nor been in a relationship with, and things just felt right and things happened on what would be the first date.
Don't live by any kind of "rule" - just live by what is right for you, not right by some silly "standard" in the dating world, nor by what is right for someone else. Only you dictate what is right for you. If you truly are looking for a relationship with the right guy, they'll respect what is right for you and will wait if that's what you want to do.1