Introverts vs. Extroverts. Which do you prefer dating?

[joshtal]

I'd like to hear your thoughts about introverts and extroverts, which do you prefer dating, what you think of each type of person in general, etc.

[kholland65]

I have found there is no answer to this question that stands out above the rest. It's a pretty even mix. However the stereotype is that everyone wants to date an extrovert so we would expect the answers to state as such.

I don't think its that everyone wants to date an extrovert but that typically only extroverts get dates. It's quite simple really. Introverts are just naturally more anti social meaning they just aren't putting themselves out there. They likely aren't going to as many social events and when they do, they're aren't as open to talking with people or interacting which means less of a chance to meet someone. So even a girl who prefers introverts will have a harder time finding one and will most likely continually end up with more extroverted guys.

This typically applies to men more so than women again for obvious reasons. Being an introverted girl isn't as big a deal since you don't really have to initiate. So an introverted girl could very easily be approached by an guy still. An introverted guy however, is not likely to have many women approach him since women just don't do the approaching. Typically introverted guys get dates when the girls take initiative, which we all know is rare.

[animalwithin]

Definitely introvert. All the girls I've dated that were extroverts with high strung energy turn out to be a disaster where as my last girlfriend was quiet and a dork which I love :) This while introvert-extrovert thing is quite skewed as most people don't know the real definitions of the words. I'm an introvert for example, I spend a lot of time in thought, like quite things like reading and spending time outdoors, cuddling at home instead of going to a club, I love having deep conversations, yet I love socializing and spending time with friends and many of my other hobbies are quite extreme and even dangerous. So an introvert can definitely be quite sociable and outgoing, we just order to tone things down a bit, and I like that in a girl, opposites don't attract for me.

[SparklingFirefly]

I've never been with someone who is introverted but I feel like I would have an easier time trusting an introvert. They are less in-your-face and I feel like they do not approach people or get approached as much as extroverts which means I would probably have a greater peace of mind while he's away from me.

On top of that, many introverts are humbler and have interesting things to say and points of view once you get to know them. I've found that dating an extrovert can be a little interesting because everyone knows their business and their life story. I enjoy feeling like I'm someone's confidant who they turn to to talk about things, which I imagine it's like to date an introvert. You create a stronger bond.

[Keyspirits]

That is very true. U can definitely read the mind of an introvert :)

[PonyCar]

The most fun I've had is with people who are borderline. Me, I'm as close to an introverted extrovert that you're going to get. I like going out, hanging around people, talking to people I don't know, and having deep and complex discussions. That's easiest to do w/an introvert because they tend to spend more time in thought than extroverts & usually have more to say on the matter. I tend to like spending time with introverts that have an extroverted set of interests (going out, partying, etc) and do well in social situations (despite the introversion).

[heavenonearth]

Well, no one's completely one or the other, but typically I'm interested in people more introverted than extroverted. It's not a hard rule, but that's just how it is generally. We tend to get along better.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any preference in types when it comes to dating, nor do I make general assumptions/thoughts about either type. Anybody with a knowledge of introversion and extroversion (I would assume) would know that nobody rests entirely on either end of the spectrum. Carl Jung said in rough words, anybody that is entirely one or the other would only exist in a mental asylum.

Introverts have their difficulties and strengths in regards to how I deal with them, and extroverts also have their own difficulties and strengths with how I see them.

[RedSmartie]

I'm a total extrovert and I prefer someone who is in the middle. I tend to fight a lot with other extroverts and introverts never really want to do anything. People in the middle just go with the flow but they speak up when they need to. I like that.

[BCRanger10]

I'm somewhere in between, though I think I typically ahve more introverted tendencies. As such, I can't really say that either one is better than the other. I could date an introvert so long as she and I could hold a conversation. I could date an extrovert so long as she could occasionally shut up and enjoy quite moments together.

[hawkeye92]

I've been with each, an extrovert and an introvert. I don't think it really matters that much. I tend to have an introverted personality but when I'm with someone I like and/or feel comfortable with then I come off as an extrovert. I think compatibility goes beyond these criteria.

[Anonymous]

I would like a mix of both, probably 60-70% introvert and 30 - 40% extravert. Introverts are more reflective and deep thinkers, they often evaluate things first and consider the options. They tend to make less mistakes because they think everything through before they make an action. Extraverts tend to need to repeat mistakes multiple times

[Harrison4073]

I've realised since University that I'd rather date an extrovert. I like having my own time like an introverted person but I like going out and having fun like an extrovert. Some of the really introverted people just annoy me after a while because they never want to hang around with people that much. I'd rather date someone who likes going out and having fun but can enjoy quiet times too.

[itseehvan]

I prefer to date an extrovert because I want someone willing to put themselves out there. Also, I like a social guy. I have no problem dating an introvert if I like their personality. Introvert or extrovert it goes down to personality and the way they interact with me.

[Creole_Flavor]

I would like to date a guy that is in between but I can date an introverted guy as long ans we can compromise that we go out sometimes or an extroverted guy as long as we can agree that he stays home sometimes.

[justbeingm3]

well I am an extrovert; love talking, laughing and nearly always up for a good time. but that's quite tiring at times,so if I had to choose between those two I would choose an introvert, after all opposites attract :)

[Mesonfielde]

I'm introverted, and there's no way in hell I could possibly properly endure typical extroverted behavior for more than 2 days. Living with one would be a nightmare. Definitely introverts.

[tadpole25]

I'd prefer an extrovert.

Introverts tend to be nice people, but talking to them is like pulling teeth. I like conversations to be two-sided, and not me doing all of the pushing.

[BEatenyou]

I am personally a mix of both, so I guess I my ideal woman would be a healthy mix too. I enjoy my alone time very much. But I love going out and meeting new people as well. hmm, right in the middle.

[MaskofInsanity]

I'm definitely more comfortable with introverts, but extroverts bring me out of my shell (I'm an introvert).

[mike5150]

Introvert. I am an introvert myself and I always feel kind of intimidated when I am around a very extroverted person. Introverts I can relate with, we don't need to be the life of the party.

[SilentEarth]

Probably leaning more towards introverted because extroverted people tend to be more flirty in my opinion and I wouldn't be able to handle that haha. I guess I'm a little selfish like that.

[WavyCherry]

I'm more extroverted, so I'd probably like more of an extroverted person.

Not to say I wouldn't completely be against an introverted person. They are more quiet, reserved, and like their space.

[Anonymous]

Well I used to like shy girls now I changed cause every shy girl I ever liked ended up being crazy and his the face they were sluts. So now I like this really bubbly girl and she is fun to be around and I plan on making a move soon.

[Anonymous]

i'd prefer to date an extrovert because at I'm introverted, so someone outgoing would make me feel more comfortable and less awkward. but once I break out of my shell I'm a lot more outgoing and take on the qualities of an extroverted person.

[drc930]

I'd prefer to date an introvert, as I am once myself. My friends though for the most part all are extroverts. I just feel for dating I would relate best to an introvert.

[rachel05]

extroverts definitely. I'm an extrovert so it'd be difficult dating an introvert because he wouldn't be as exciting and outgoing as I'd want.