Asking someone out is basically just.. asking them to go somewhere with you, with the distinction made that it's out of sexual or romantic interest, rather than platonic. Unless you've been friends with the girl for years and you're accustomed to spending a lot of time together, they're going to realize it's a *date* the moment you ask 'em to go to dinner with you. You don't have to be "going steady" with someone to be going on a date, although some people don't say they're dating someone on the first date. "Dating" usually implies that you've gone on multiple dates with them, and you're going to continue to do so, although they may not be the only person you're dating.
Although I've never been a huge fan of this practice (too much time and drama), some people will date multiple people at the same time before they choose one. Sometimes this can take months, meaning that several of the people involved would have wasted their time and/or gotten their hopes up for nothing. If GirlA is dating GuyA, B, and C, but GuyA is also dating GirlB and C, GuyB is dating GirlD, E, and F, and Guy C is just dating GirlA, things can get rather complicated once GirlA picks someone -- especially when you consider that GirlsB-F are also likely to have several prospects of their own. Exclusivity is now considered an option, which is why almost every teenager alive spends the majority of their time texting amongst themselves about who likes whom, and who cheated on their best friend's girlfriend's cousin.
Ugh. Sickening. There is more to life than dating, so I keep it to one gal at a time. xD
Some people do ask girls out at random (the first encounter), but this is usually in the form of asking for their phone number. This can happen almost daily, so getting a girl's number is by no means a sign that she'll go out with you, and if you're ignored isn't a sign that she hated you either -- she just gives her number out a lot, and answers/responds on a whim. Some people will keep numbers stored up, and call one when they're bored and alone. Most actual dates and relationships happen between people who know each other through the context of school, work, hobbies or other friends.
If the gals you ask out have boyfriends already, perhaps you should consider getting to know them before you ask them out. And again, going out on one date does not constitute dating. I realize that shouldn't make sense, but sadly it does -- making a sandwich doesn't make you a chef. As you already know, you can hang out with a girl without it being a date -- for it to be a date, you have to ask them out on a date! They see you as a friend because you're acting like a friend, rather than someone who wants to date them.
Lastly, after two people have been dating for a while, they are often considered to be "going steady" and see each other as boyfriend & girlfriend. They talk about it, sometimes one have to ask, other times one of them just introduces the other as their girlfriend.
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