Is 18 dating a 24 year old too old? What about 18 and 26?

For the past 4 or 5 months I've been seeing guys 3-6 years older than myself. I'm currently seeing a guy that's 24. I've been asked out by a 26 year old and I'm not sure if that's too old. I would get married and have kids young. Around 23 or 24 for kids and maybe younger for marriage. I don't know if people would look down on it or even notice? What's your opinion?


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  • I dated an 18 year old when I was 26. I kind of knew it was a bad idea but she was a straight dime, haha. The biggest problem was her being under 21. We couldn't go out to bars, clubs had to be 18+, and along with her came her 18 year old friends. At 26, the LAST thing I want to do is hang out with 18 year old dudes. Still way too excited about getting drunk, by 22 I'd heard my fill of "oh my god, I got so wasted last night" stories.

    It's fine if you're just looking to keep it casual, but don't go in with long term plans. Also think about if you want to be with a 30+ year old when you're 24. I'm 34 now, and I'm home on a Saturday night watching the baseball game, by choice. I have college age friends I get crazy with sometimes, but it's like once a month. I'm mostly in chill mode now, at 25 I still partied 2-3 nights a week. Don't be in a rush to grow up, you have your whole life to be old and boring, haha.

    Be young, have fun. I know people who got married and had kids at 23, 24 and they're miserable now. I think people underestimate what it takes to be a parent. I feel like some people think it's like getting a puppy. I talked to my buddy from college after his first kid and asked how it was. In the most depressed voice you ever heard, he said, "It's...it's a game-changer." Once you have a kid, it's not your life anymore, and there's no going back. You better be good and ready to give it up.

    So have fun, live life, and remember that your 20s are arguably the best decade of your life, as long as you keep your responsibilities to a minimum. Date whoever you want, but with no expectations. You're a pretty girl, you'll have plenty of guys knocking on your door. No need to lock anyone down at this stage of the game. And, frankly, the older guys' interest in you is more than likely physical, because 18 and 26 don't really have much in common. But by the time you finish reading this novel, you'll be 40, so I'll shut up now, haha.

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  • Well I'm 21 in college and I wouldn't touch an 18 year old in high school. If she was in uni that would still be pushing it for me. I don't know where your from but where I come from there is a huge gap in maturity between an 18 year old and a 24 year old. I guess it wouldn't be weird if you are super mature or he's super immature.

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  • Yeah I agree it's a sex thing. Stop talking about marriage because these guys don't want you for that. People don't look down on that sort of thing unless the guy is like 35. Just do what you want but don't expect that 26 year old to be like, "i wanna marry this 18 year old chick, let's make her wifey status!" It's all about flirting, dating, good times, & sex.

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  • If you're planning on having kids on the young side then it's probably a good idea to date a guy who's older as he'll be more likely to want kids and be able to support them when you do. So if you want them at 23-24, and he's 24-26 now, that'd make him 29-31 by the time you're having kids. That seems pretty good.

    Do you like either of these guys?

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    • One of them yes. The other I don't know too well.

    • Well, see how it goes. Did you get the sense that the age gap was a problem with either? What do they do?

  • I think 18 dating 24 is just on the cusp of what is considered "fine". 26 would be a bit old for most people.

    I know some people that had kids right out of high school but that's a nonissue

    In the end, it's all legal now that you're 18 so do what your heart tells you to. I would hate to think two people who were in love and meant to be with each other didn't get together simply because other people would think badly about them

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  • wow...I guess it all depends on differ factors. A wide range of factors "that would be important to you" also the maturity level on both ends. It's just not as common in the US.

    In some countries ... women of 18+ years have been known to have relationships with men 10 to 25 years older. (: yea really. I think it's possible...just use precaution with good judgement

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  • I'm curious: If you're currently seeing the 24-year-old, then why are you considering dating the 26-year-old?

    As for the main question, it's a bit of an age gap, but it could be worse. I would not have considered dating an 18-year-old at either of those ages, but whatever; at least it's not 34 and 36.

    Not that it's any of my business, but I don't think it's a good idea to have set ages for when you want to be married and have kids. You should get married when you find the right person. If you have it in your mind that you have to get married by a certain age, then you'll probably end up taking anyone once you start closing in on that age. The same goes for kids; have them when you're properly prepared (and when you've found the right person), not just when you turn 23 or 24.

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    • the relationship is fizzling out.

  • That's totally fine. You can be with whoever you love as long as they love you back. You two can have a zero age difference or 40. Sure, some people might think it's weird, but nobody can tell you who you can and cannot love.

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  • Well I am 24 and I personally would only date as young as 20. But I see nothing wrong given that you're both adults.

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  • It's a bit of a difference in life station. Not so much chronologically. A 26 year old should be out of college and starting a career, while you are finishing up hs/ starting college.

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  • There's nothing wrong with that age difference. You can't judge the older guys as only wanting sex. If I found a younger girl and we hit it off, I would want to settle down with her. Why would I not want to? Makes no sense to me...

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  • I don't really have a problem with those age gaps. What two consenting adults do with each other is none of my business

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  • Half your age plus 7. Rule works every time

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  • I just turned 20 and have been dating a 17 year old. Was a bit apprehensive about it, but as long as you are both mature and the age gap is reasonable, there shouldn't be a problem.

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  • nothing wrong with that

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  • If the girl is out of high school and working/in college it is fine.

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  • No, that's not bad. My grandparents are 11 years apart.

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  • Seems normal to me. Women generally want guys that are older than them.

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  • I met an 18 year old when I was 26, and I could not tell her age honestly. She was super smart, mature and all of that so I thought she was possibly in her mid-20's. I have difficulty with a lot of people. Anyway she told me she was 18 about an hour into the conversation and I instantly felt my heart sink. I felt sick that I was even hanging out with her...felt almost like one of those guys on Catch a Predator. I called it off with her after that and told her exactly why.

    That's just me, though. I know plenty of guys who would jump at the chance to date an 18 year old and they're in their 30's or even older. I think women are usually the ones to decide if an age difference should matter.

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  • I'm 24 and I'd be willing to date an 18 year old. 26 and 18 is my limit though, I'm willing to date 8 years younger than myself and one year older.

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  • Why so quick to get married? Enjoy your 20s.

    Anyway, my dad was 26 when he met my mom at 18 (they had me one year later) so it's no big deal as long as you're both mature. That's usually the biggest issue when it comes to age 'gaps'. The maturity levels are usually vastly different.

    Besides.. "age ain't nothing but a number".. as long as both involved are within the age statutes of course.

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  • Do you dress like you did in picture showing off your cleavage around these older guys? No wonder they ask you out lol

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  • Guys that old are only looking to get laid when dating somebody that young

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    • yeah thought about that

    • I would try to stick to like 3 years to your age. Mid to late 20s is too old for someone to seriously consider an 18 year old. Someone that old has already completed college and working on a career. An 18 year old is just barely out of high school with 4 years of college ahead of them and too many question marks for that relationship to truly last

What Girls Said 3

  • In my country,the divorce rate is the lowest among those couples with great age differences.

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  • You're too much d a butterface to get serious with. They want sex from you nothing else sweetie

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  • i don't have a problem with two people being 8 years apart if you were say 30 and he was 38...but think at your particular age a 26 year old is in a completely different stage in life, I mean I actually am 26 and I wouldn't want to hang out with 18 year old's any more than I would want to befriend 17 or 16 year old's , you're still a teenager and he's a grown man.

    your case might be the exception but I doubt it...

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