He never texts first but always replies?

I've been talking to this guy for a few weeks and he's only texted me first once, maybe twice. I'm pretty sure he likes me at least somewhat, because he asked me out (although a time/date was never set), and he always flirts and compliments me and stuff. He always replies when I text him, and even seems happy to do so. He's not always fast to reply, but he's busy working, and I'm busy too, so it works out, but it kind of bothers me that I always have to initiate. I haven't texted in three days to see if he says anything, but he hasn't yet. Should I keep waiting a few more days or just text him?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • I tend to do the same, probably because if I inititate a chat, it's almost implied for her to respond, and I don't wanna expect that of her, especially when she's often busy or occupied. But I love getting one from her, though sometimes I don't see it for an hour or two. I'll try to respond even if I'm busy as hell.

    I think it's probably a more common guy thing too. When I txt or message buddies, I don't expect anything: maybe they're there, maybe they're gone for a week. No sweat. But when there's any kind of relationship going on, to me, there's more commitment for each to respond as quickly as possible, or it's a disrespect.

    So I guess I too initiate txts or IM's with guys more than girlfriends, and I too absolutely love receiving them from my girlfriend. Hope that helps from one guy's opinion.

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What Guys Said 4

  • Have u had sex with him or at least hooked up with him?

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    • Uhm no. I am not that kind of girl.

    • There's your answer. If he sees that it's not going to go anywhere then he's not going to try

    • The heck is wrong with you? Just because she hasn't had Sex with him, doesn't mean that they're going nowhere.

  • It depends more on the flow of conversation via text. If it goes very well, then most likely he's just shy or insecure.

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  • Just text him. I do the same thing and it is because I have gotten tired about always texting first. Guys find it attractive if you text them first it shows you are interested in him enough to text him first.

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  • When in doubt, he probably likes you

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What Girls Said 3

  • From my experiences, if a guy is interested he will text you. My particular horror story that goes along with this: Boy I had known since my sophomore year of high school, good friend and I had a huge crush on him, the summer after our junior year I was determined to make this happen. However, we were both globetrotting the summer away and were never in the state at the same time, so we only could text. I texted him every single day (only once if he didn't reply, but at least once) and usually we had long, solid conversations. I became head over heels attached to him and pretty much had a future figured out for us. Get back after the summer and he's really casual with me in person, so much that many of my friends didn't realize anything was happening. Come November, after 9 months of "talking", he tells me he's not interested in me anymore and goes to the dance with another boy. I was completely crushed.

    It needs to be a two way street (with a little more on his side), if you're always initiating conversations you'll get a lot more consumed by the relationship than he will. Good luck!

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  • He probably likes you so much he's worried about seeming clingy. If you can find a flirty/joking way to tell him its okay for him to text you first sometimes, do it

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  • One reason he may not text first is Because he's unsure of what to say or just insecure. If your really that into him than you should text him. But if he's not taking the time to fully acknowledge you than honey he's just not worth your time.

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