I hope I'm not being sexist (probably am).
I had very little experience dating, I had a long term girlfriend till I was 28. Now I've been on the dating scene for about a year. Here's how each connections ended.
girl one - had a one night stand. In the morning, we exchanged numbers and she added me on Facebook (her idea). A week later I messaged her and she ignored me. Never spoke to me again.
girl 2 - We slept together for two months. She praised me all the time. The last time I saw her she told me how happy she was to have me. Goes away for a week. Refuses to speak to me for a month. Breaks it off over fb, then comes back into my life, I ask for my stuff back, and for her to take her clothes out of my house. She hides for another month.
girl 3 - acts all coy and cool. We sleep together for two weeks. I decide I don't want her. I tell her in person, and talk to her as long as she wants. I drive her home too.
girl 4 - internet relationship. We go out twice. She ignores me for a day, and breaks it off over text. Willing to talk about what was wrong. Classy lady.
girl 5 - internet relationship. Two dates, we sleep together on a Monday. She's busy Thursday, Friday. We arrange Saturday, she breaks plans on Saturday, and says "maybe" Sunday. I'm not totally into her, give up and break it off. Don't want to have a "maybe" date. I discuss what went wrong for about two hours with her because she's sad about what happened.
girl 6 - friend of friend. I can't figure her out. We've been on two dates. And had tame kisses afterward. Refused to talk on the phone. Texts very little. She explained on last date she's a shy girl. I'm trying to work with this one, didn't care at first, cared for a bit, but starting to lose interest. She may have decided she's not down, but still leaving me on a back burner.
girl 7 - went out to dinner, talked the whole time. She said she had a great time. She's beautiful. Personality wise, have no clear idea. I texted her and haven't back in 30 hours. I sense she's not going to write back. Really cowardly. We spent a few times talking on the phone, texting for two weeks, and met in person. The least you could do is say "I don't feel a connection with you" over text.
I feel like I've been totally down to break it off with a girl straight up. And rarely has a girl has even mustarded up the courage to write a simple text to me.
Is this part of the internet age? Because it's really shitty to leave someone hanging. I'm looking to meet someone. If you aren't down, say so, rather than make me think "did they get the text" or "maybe they're really busy right now".
Texting and e-mail are the most cowardly ways to break it off, and it seems like girls are even too cowardly to use that medium.
Is silence the new break up method? If so, it's really f>cked up
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Okay, so, from what I understood about 4 girls (out of 7) ended up ignoring you or otherwise not contacting you. Correct? That's not *too* bad in my opinion, since it's barely over half of them. But anyway.
To me it just seems like you ended up picking a few bad apples that happened to ignore you. I wouldn't exactly say that ALL girls will end up ignoring you if they aren't interested, because that obviously isn't (and won't be) the case. However, yes, in some situations it's easier to let the "relationship" fade away rather than have an actual closure. I'm not saying that it's a nice thing to do, nor that it's ideal, but I kind of understand these girls. Wouldn't you have thought it was even just a tiny bit exhausting to sit down with EVERY single one of those girls, to talk about your feelings and why it isn't working out for hours upon hours? Because if you don't, well, that's great. But not everyone wants to do stuff like that, especially if you're not emotionally invested in the other person (yet).
And as other girls have pointed out, these were just dates. You weren't exclusive, and it seems like a handful of those girls only wanted to have some fun (especially the one night stand girl). Yes, it's kind of cowardly to just ignore you, but in their situation it was simply the easy way out, out of something that wasn't even a serious commitment to begin with.
In my opinion you're taking it a bit too personally. As I said before, I do think ignoring people is cowardly, and I don't think it's an ideal solution either. But this is simply the reality of dating, and what some people will do to you when they realize they aren't interested (even guys do this). Either take it for what it is, a rejection, and move on to the next girl. Or, sit there and think about why they aren't interested in you and why they aren't returning your calls/texts/emails until it makes your head hurt.1
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