My fiance's family doesn't like me. It's extreme at this point! what to do?

[Anonymous]

So I am getting married in September. My fiances family doesn't like me at all. His mother and I are sort of on good terms but his sister won't even make an effort. She gets so jealous and mad when i come to town that she has gone to extremes to put herself in the hospital to get all the attention. Which i don't mind that she wants attention but seriously this is ridiculous. I want to get married and get along with my in laws. What should i do or say?

[Ozanne]

Sometimes it just doesn't happen in some marriages. My mother went through that with all three of her sisters-in-law. You are not marrying his sister, you're marrying him, and your marriage is your business with him. It will make Christmas dinners a bit awkward, but if you just go to functions like these just being yourself and focus on the family that does like you, then go in and out of these functions with that attitude to get yourself through them quickly.

Your future sister-in-law is doing an awful lot of work being an idiot about everything. If you and your husband ignore it then she'll pretty much have no choice but find a new way to deal with her own issues. She's the insecure one who isn't being an adult about this. In my family many of us "don't like" someone in the family, but we certainly don't play games and sabotage each other to get attention or prevent things from happening. You can't change your sister-in-law, and I hope your husband will see that you're trying and she is not so that eventually she will get the hint that her tactics just aren't working.

[smokahontas]

You shouldn't do anything, seems like some of his family members are whack jobs. It's probably nothing personal. Just simply be loving and faithful to your fiancé.

[DoctorFeelgood]

Why, exactly, don't they like you?

[Asker]

I think they feel i have taken him away from them which is bullshit because he didn't even live with them before we met. They have just never given me a chance.

[DoctorFeelgood]

If that is the principle reason, to he££ with them.
Family approbation is nice but it doesn't feed the monkey.
If you and your boyfriend are cool with the situation nothing else really matters.