If we sum up the theory of the chase up into a single word, it would be ‘patience‘.
Let’s begin with an analogy. Fashion. Imagine purchasing a five dollar bargain bin shirt, it is plain, simple and easy to obtain. A cheap shirt will only be worn once or twice, then it will be tossed aside. BUT when it comes to buying a designer dress, it is a mission. You have to earn enough money to purchase it, dry clean it and most of all, you have to work out … so it looks amazing on you. You will adore this dress with all your passion.
In the game of relationships and dating, it is the same. If a guy can see through you easily, there will be no mystery. He will lose interest and move on. If a guy obtains you easily, he won’t learn to appreciate you because you weren’t a challenge to get. Men were born with testosterone. Challenge and competition is in their primal nature. Don’t deny them of their right. Give them a chase. Give them the adrenaline rush they crave. The chase is when the male defines your worth.
The first thing all women forget is that men are visual creatures. REMEMBER: If a man approaches you and likes what he sees, then FACT: YOU ARE HOTTER THAN HIM. This is because, men a egotistic creatures, they’re not going to game some lady that is less attractive than them. They go for the ones that are out of their league, the CHALLENGE, the TROPHY. So quit worrying whether you’re hot enough for him, cause YOU’RE more than hot enough for him. You’re the DESIGNER DRESS to begin with. Insecurity makes you a CHEAP SHIRT. So, with this fun fact. Quit being a pooper and act like the prize and trophy. If he wants you, make him work for it. This means, BE MYSTERIOUS. The chase is about giving men the desire to obtain you, but never letting them figure you out. Never be a sure thing.
Mystery is so sexy, because humans are curious creatures. Instead of throwing compliments to the male verbally (like ‘oh, you have such nice hair), show your interested through your body language. Words are simple, with each compliment you’re cheapening yourself to the male, because he will realise you like him and won’t work as hard. The saying LESS IS MORE is gold. Quit talking and yapping. Instead, look at him, smile when he asks you a question, don’t answer it directly (heck, stay silent and just smile if it is a cheeky question). TOUCH. Flirt. Just don’t compliment him directly. Because men like their egos to be fed, if you do it obviously and too early on, his ego will be satisfied and he will move on. If you don’t feed it, he will come and almost beg for it. GETTING YOU is the ultimate ego boost. Don’t poop the party. A man, will chase something hot, even if he thinks that she is just slightly interested. So, stop coming on too strong. Make it seem that he is an OPTION.
The chase is about waiting it out. NO sudden movements. I know that if you like a guy, chances are you will think about him all the time, dissect and analyse his calls/emails/text messages. Do it all you like, JUST WAIT before you call/email/text him back. TWO REASONS: Show that you have a LIFE and MAKE him THINK about you. If a man can’t get you, he will have to spend extra time thinking about you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Let it happen. A man can smell EAGER BEAVER, DESPERATO from yonks away. CLINGY makes them go soft on the spot. Modern men like to know that their chosen female is capable to surviving alone, because it shows that she is a strong and CONFIDENT individual and it MAKES HER EVEN SEXIER. Show him this by being unavailable … DON’T TELL him all about the extra activities you do and then be free all the time. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER than words. If he knows that he can’t see you when he wants to, he will play according to your rules. He will realise that he is just a smidgen of your life and will then SQUIRM and WRIGGLE to increase his time. Also, because he can’t see you, it will make him wonder what you are doing. HIS imagination will wander. LET IT, he will make it kinkier in his mind and CRAVE YOU EVEN MORE.
They key is to show interest. BUT always less than him. Wait for him to make the advances, and when he does, match it with a lower level of appreciation. Like if he states that he ‘likes you’, smile and touch his arm instead of blurting out ‘I LIKE YOU TOO!’ Hold it in.
A good chase is a slow process. Think of it as a MIND SEX marathon. The mind games and the kinky imagination happens during the chase, stop cutting it short, instead savour these moments slowly. Enjoy the fact that he is thinking about you when you’re imagining how fine he is!
Remember, chemistry can’t be forced. If something is meant to happen it will happen. If he is a dud, move on. Find a better chase.
Don’t put all your eggs in a single basket. If he makes you an OPTION don’t make him your PRIORITY.
Don’t be a bargain bin shirt. Be the designer dress, because you’re the DESIGNER dress to BEGIN WITH!