The Designer Dress And The Cheap Shirt. An Article On 'The Chase' For The Ladies. (Page 2)

[WeaponZero]

Whatever. I can completely, totally, and with 100% certainty say that I would not bother with a woman who did the things you advised women to do in this article. In my eyes she would be worthless trash. And she would be treated as such. And I am obviously not the only one.

[itssimplekeepitreal]

No matter what you say. relationships will always have games to begin with. even in the best relationships there are power struggles. what I have named in this article is merely a personal insight. because, to be honest, men CONDONE it. you say that you don't want drama, I get it, but you just don't treat us the same when we play your silly little games. it is like the theory of women blaming PLAYERS. players ONLY exist cause women allow them to exist and have women to game.

[jdcpa]

Rent the movie "Stardust (2007)" and listen to the part where Claire Danes is talking to her love when he got turned into a mouse and she thinks he can't understand what she's saying. She say something wonderful; what it means to love. And if follows that, if that's not how you're feeling with someone, then you don't love them. Guys know this on an intuitive level, which is why they leave when they can tell you don't love them. What's the point of staying if that's what he's also trying to find?

[jdcpa]

If love is what you're looking for; you shooting yourself in the foot if this is your game-plan on finding it. If comforting your insecurities and feeling safe (to avoid prior experiences of being hurt) is your real motivator; you're on the right track. But you can't have both. There can be no return without risk. You have to put yourself out there to find love. When you accept and admit that truth to yourself, ironically, you'll discover not only why you've yet to find it, but why you got hurt

[jdcpa]

Your Black Swan is no different. Men are talking, ur not listening. You're choosing not to listen because you feel men are lying or not aware of how they feel. They're perfectly aware of how they feel when a girl doesn't call, doesn't reciprocate interest, doesn't reassure him that he's not the only one who care or feels attracted. They feel like they're the only one, so to protect themselves emotionally, they lose interest completely and leave.

[jdcpa]

That is the major pitfall of forming "Black Swans" in anything in life; especially dating. And I'm not just being hard on you as a girl. Guys have formed the biggest Black Swan of all time; "all women are attracted to jerks and guys who have no respect for them and treat them like crap! you treat a girl nice, she'll ignore you. you treat her like crap and with no respect, and she'll be stuck on you like super glue"

Is this the kind of behavior from guys that women find attractive? of course not

[jdcpa]

The argument which you base your article on has the following fallacy:

- In a study we conducted, married men suffered from balding more than single men!

- Therefore, being married causes one to be more prone to going bald!

maybe, but we ignore one key fact:

- married men are also much older relative to their single counterparts

- they are also more financially stable, which is a byproduct of enduring work stress

- why have we chose to ignore the hypothesis that age & stress cause balding?

[jdcpa]

I like your theory, but here's an other one to simply consider. Is there an other reason, other than the asking price (effort of money you have to invest) of a shirt or car that makes you interested in it? What about the quality of that shirt or car (which is highly correlated with the price btw)? Are you attracted to the price or quality? Are men attracted to this girls BECAUSE they play hard-to-get, or BECAUSE they have perfect 34DDs, pretty faces and body figures & know how to move sexy?

[jdcpa]

This is a great article, to help justify the actions many girls take to comfort their insecurities. As far as hitting the nail on the head about male psychology; they miss by miles. I guess we're overlooking the fact that most men who CAN afford or put in the effort of getting a "designer" shirt or luxury sports car, and also NOT WILLING TO PAY for one. Why? Because the ASKING PRICE is much higher than any marginal benefit received over the inexpensive shirt or average car.

[WeaponZero]

Because after you've been down that road, you realize that what guys want for the LONG HAUL isn't the designer dress, but the comfy shirt and sweats that is machine washable rather than has to be dry cleaned, and still fits you comfortably even after you've put on some weight.

So, if you want to be a short term fling, sure, be the designer dress. But if you want to be the long term relationship, then be the comfy T-shirt and sweats you picked up at Wal-Mart for less than the price of a pizza

[WeaponZero]

Special of occasions, and even then you think it's a pain to deal with. You eventually tire of it completely mothball it in a closet or get ride of it completely. Meanwhile, all that time, you still had your favorite T-Shirt and pair of sweats that you would happily wear the rest of the time because of how comfy they are and how easy they are to deal with.

This is why women who follow your philosophy end up getting thrown out like trash after the guy finally acquires you. Same thing.

[WeaponZero]

And let's go with your analogy some more, and let's assume you're right.

You buy the designer dress because you had to work for it and you view it as a trophy of sorts. But now that you own it, you realize it takes so much more work just to maintain it. It needs to be dry cleaned rather than machine washed, and the simple matter of just taking it off and putting it on is a huge chore. Because of how much of a pain it is to deal with, you eventually stop wearing it except for the most

[Standingpretty]

I think this is half and half, eventually he's goning to have to know you're interested, on the other hand don't be weird stalker girl lol. Be vibrant and alive is what I take from this. Show your true colors, but only if you have any to begin with. I wouldn't fake having other interests when I don't.

[ALWAYSclassy]

Very true! People say "Oh don't play games" but girls who make themselves too easy in the beginning get what? Tossed aside! Their man gets bored with them, she's too easy and clingy. No mystery. That's just how it is. There might be like 4 guys who don't agree =) but most guys go for that whether they admit it or not.

[WeaponZero]

I think it all goes back to the men think vs. the way women think. Women complicate the process because they WANT it to be complicated. They believe that it is somehow more rewarding when you have to work harder to achieve the same result, and they believe that men also think that way. This is not the case. Men like to simplify things and cut out unnecessary steps whenever possible. It's just our nature.

[WeaponZero]

I like your analogy, unfortunately it just doesn't work in reality like you say it does. Why? Because to many men, the chase, and the power struggle you speak of, they're all just games that are an omen to lots and lots of drama later on down the line. Why create resistance when there naturally isn't any? it just adds problems. If a girl ever once even pulled any of this nonsense on me, I would simply move on and throw thoughts of her out with the trash.

[Asterix]

What an utter load of crap, this should be called "how not to get a boyfriend" only lossers will be attracted to girls that act this way because they have no better options. Great guys have other options and will forget about you and leave you to play your silly little girl games.

Grow Up before its to late and you wake up sad and alone watching all the great guys taken but hte girls that learned to not be so immature.

[gonaners16]

Stupid games, stupid chase. I'm only 16, but I don't want to waste my time with GAMES. Guys (and girls) grow up! If you want me, ok, show it, act on it. I don't have time in my life to mess around with games, to dissect everything and plan all of my moves. If it's going to work, it will. I'm not playing games, I can't read a guy's mind. So be open about your feelings. Not really always saying everything, but don't always be mysterious either. Ugh, games...

[itssimplekeepitreal]

pro no one is mysterious unless they don't even understand emselves. it is an act to get what you want. withholding informations. chemistry can't be forced, but you can deliberately create mystery but leaving an answer and dragging out w anticipation.

[anon8]

I immediately think, “What is wrong with him? What does he know that I don’t?” And I end up thinking it’s like a “super-game”. If you guys don’t like that, then tell your gender to stop treating women like objects and sex toys, because the result is women don’t trust guys as much.