Tired of being called cute, how do I look hot?

So, a couple of weeks ago this girl walked into class late and all of a sudden the guy sitting in front of me turns around and goes "Damn, she is hot." This girl had big boobs and was wearing high heels, a short skirt, and lots of makeup. Then, the dude looks at me and goes "I mean you're cute but she is HOT!" Do most guys really think girls like this are hot? How do I start looking 'hot'? Should I wear makeup? Show more skin? What do you guys (or girls) consider 'hot'?


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  • dont be stupid, hot meat means "i want to fk her"

    if you want to look "hot", your going to be attracting the wrong kind of attention, and the wrong kind of man that you may be looking for.

    to me, cute is someone I can spend time with and really love

    hot is like social status for guys, a trophy. YOU REALLY WANT TO BE AN OBJECT?

    trust me, you don't want to be "hot" , its kind of like a one night stand.

    besides cuteness lasts forever, hotness can only deteriorate because it is made up of too much make up and a whole lot of slut

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What Guys Said 24

  • You seem to make two misconceptions.

    Firstly, you seem to equate looking "cute" to looking bad, and looking "hot" to looking good.

    Secondly, you seem to think the opinion of one man is the opinion for every man. For all you know, there's a sweet boy out there who likes you just the way you are and finds girls who dress like that not worthy of time or respect.

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  • Cute is better than hot, it at least means you have things that make you cute, personality traits and a pretty face. Being hot usually means a guy only sees you as big boobs and a round bum. I personally hate the big boobs and makeup and big fish lips appearance, it couldn't put me off any more, I much prefer cute girls. :D

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  • Trust me, most guys out there will think that when a girl is cute, its much "hotter" than being hot. Hot girls are like the fake ones in playboy, supermodels, etc. Cute girls are the girl next door type, most likely to be "girlfriend material", and maybe more...catch my drift?

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  • Cute > Hot in my opinion.

    As Pika said, you seem to think cute ss inferior to hot. Which is just simply not the case, it is just a different style of attraction. It just seems that particular guy would prefer the hot look over the cute one. For me, it's the exact opposite, as neither of those two things (high heels and big boobs) is really all that attractive to me.

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  • No, he meant easy. Because that is probably what she is and no, because you will loose respect from the guys. Trust me cute is good, because later cute becomes hot without turning into a fake looking bimbo. I would go for cute any day of the week. Hot DOES NOT mean better. It is opinion and most guys in school are not worth the time, trust me. I was a high school baseball player and I have heard what was said about the girls who look like her. The guys in your school do not respect he, they just like to look at her and picture things. You are fine! = )

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  • I have the same problem, even though I'm a man. I keep getting "cute." It's a real game killer, isn't it? Drunken me, making out with a chick: "You're kinda hot" Drunken chick: "You're kinda... cute..."

    Me: !#$%@^

    Frankly, I think it's what I tend to show off and express, but I'm told that it's more in the way I act, the way I come on to people is more or less harmless despite being significantly taller than the person I approach. I'm somewhat shy, and far from suave.

    As such, I get the "he's a cute kitten!" thing. Frankly? Roll with it. It's a lot, lot easier to roll with what your natural strength is. Plus, cute gets treated better when picked up than "hot" does.

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  • Hot is something that is a more pleasant sounding slutty or easy.

    Yes, some guys want a girl like that, but most guys want keep them around.

    If you are content to be in meaningless one night relationships then yes this is the way to go, but you won't get respect or anything meaningful.

    Stay cute, beautiful.

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  • Cute trumps hot in my book any day, and I consider a cute girl hotter than girls that are considered hot among a lot of guys. I especially love girls that smile with their eyes and have friendly eyes. "Hot" girls usually don't do this. Cute girls do.

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  • if I call you hot I want to fk the shist out of u, if I say your cute I'm saying your beautiful. But a lot of guys when they see that we focus on it. 30 seconds of imagination before thinking of a lifetime of love. A lot of times guys will ask you out probably just because they think your hot and want sex, but as they get to know you it changes into love and you don't care whether you get any or not, as long as you get to be with her nothing else matters.

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    • Oddly enuff that actually summed it up in the best way lmao cause its true. hot does mean you wanna hit lol

  • Hot women are sluts and whores and only good for one-night-stands. STAY cute. I prefer cute women and only see myself being in a serious relationship with a cute woman and marrying only cute women. Her boobs will be very saggy when she gets older. I prefer women like Ashley Tisdale,Cassadee Pope, and Valerie Poxleitner rather then Megan Fox, Pamela Anderson or Salma Hayek.

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  • cute > hot for real relationships

    hot is good for having them stand with their hands with their legs in the air as you do thing to their vags that even god has to look away

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  • Showing skin, especially thigh and chest skin is a sure fire way to get "Damn she is HOT!" Comments. It is simple thing really just wear a short skirt and when you are wearing a blouse, if you think you have just enough buttons undone, undo one more. So what if your bra shows, either don't wear one or let the bra show too. Doesn't matter, both ways it's hot.

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  • I think it has a lot to do with your hairstyle. Check out Audrey Tatou for example:

    link Hot

    link Cute

    link Beautiful

    There is absolutely nothing bad about "cute" though. Lots of guys prefer it.

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  • Hot is how you walk and talk and look and act. Not you looks in general...

    A shy pretty girl is cute vs a outgoing pretty girl =HOT.

    Nothing wrong with being cute.

    and as dummer said I would look at another guy and say that girl is cute I would say she is hot but I would tell the girl she was cute over saying your damn hot...

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  • hot is an attitude not a specific look. if you want guys to view you as hot, try carrying yourself a different way and make them notice you, but not in a slutty way because that will attract the desprate losers that you don't need in your life. plus as a side note I sometimes substitute cute for hot because imo cute is a little more gental-man like and hot is for horny guys who are basing everything off looks.

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  • Hot is good if you want to be a slut but for girlfriend material cute trums hot anyday.

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  • show a pic of yourself maybe you are already hot at least to others most guys find a girl how if she got good assets..maybe a little makeup wouldn't hurt like lipgloss eyeliner nothing to extreme if that helps any

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  • cute is better then hot. you don't really respect hot. I plays on the male animal inside that just wants to f*** everything. cute is what you want your wife to be because cute is hot with a personality. I'm sure if you skanked it up youd be hot to

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  • .Cutes good don't worry.if you really do wanna look hot,then dress up do your hair etc.any cute girl can be made into hor girl

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  • Some guys prefer cute to "hot." Hot is trying too hard.

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  • Hot to me is at the beach where the gals wear bikinis. ; that's where you show more skin and sweat. Now that is hot. ( One could only wonder how she pays for college with these tuitions.)

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  • i just have to say that coming from me I would say you are cute to a girl that I really like and by sayin that it also means your hot and I just use cute because I feel if I say your hot then the girl could take it as I just like her for her body and don't care about anything else but her body

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  • eh. you really don't want to be "hot". sure yeah hot is really good but, like. hot is more in the "i wanna f*** her" way. not the "i want to date her way". she showed skin, cause she was looking for sex

    the more skin shown= the more we think she wants it

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  • Cute is hot to me. You're probably more hot than that girl with big boobs. No you don't have to pile on makeup. The more natural look is better.

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What Girls Said 14

  • There is a line in the movie Bull Durham where Susan's Sarandon's character is called "cute" by the guy she is with and she says " Cute? Baby ducks are cute, I HATE cute! I want to be exotic, and mysterious!" And he replies " You are, you're exotic, and mysterious, and... cute... and... That's why I'd better leave"

    Cute isn't exactly what we think it is. It isn't "cute" like a baby duck. For a guy, there usually is a since of liking a girl with your mind, not just your penis. Both 'hot' girls and 'cute' girls do something to guys but in completely different ways.

    I think rather than aim for "hot" you might want to try the happy medium between hot and cute: a stunning woman. Which is really what women think guys are saying when they say "hot". But it is different. Stunning women are sensual looking but still are classy enough to look like they didn't come off a stripper pole.

    It's all about presentation. Think of it like this, what does a woman with short nails and soft pink nail polish make you think of? What about very long nails and pink nail polish? What about long nails and red polish? What about short nails and red polish? It's small difference but each woman is presenting herself as cute, trashy, or classic. This is the line between "sexy and classy" and "trashy and slutty", so make sure you know the difference.

    Black heels in a good material are classy. Red heels made of cheap plastic, trashy. Smoky eyes are for night. Mid to upper thigh shorts with heels, classy. Booty shorts, trashy. Red lipstick should never be glossy. Never wear colored eye shadow or lower lid eyeliner. Neutral browns for eye shadow always! If you are going to show cleavage do it with long skirts or pants on. If you are going to show legs, don't show cleavage. Never gel, crimp or tease your hair, just keep it healthy and shiny. If you can't walk in heels, find sexy platforms because looking like a baby calf that can't walk is never sexy.

    There is a reason guys love the 1950's look on women so much. It comes off feminine, well put together, sweet, and sexual. She looks like she is proud of being a woman and loves her body as much as he does but isn't begging for attention cause she knows he is already looking.

    Sure when a hot woman comes into the room, a guy is always going to drop his jaw and have his eyes pop out of his head like he is a cartoon character. But if you try to be sexy with class, he is going to be thinking "Wow!", he just won't say it cause he has enough respect to not drool directly one you!

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  • Why do you want to look "hot"? What will looking "hot" get you? Trust me, this guy was looking at her and thinking about having sex with her, not about making her his girlfriend. If that is all you want is guys to try and have sex with you and nothing else, go for "hot". Otherwise, if you want a boyfriend who respects you AND finds you physically attractive, stick with cute.

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  • if a guy thinks your hot it means he wants something from you trust me you don't want guys thinking your hot becasue they also think your easy and want to hav sex and never actually date you. I'm one of those girls who dresses up and wears heels and I loved it when guys called me hot but than I realized that wasn't the title I wanted I wanted to be seen as pretty or beautiful and as girlfriend material not as a one night stand. I still dress up but just not every day I take pride in what I wear and always look nice but I make it known that I'm far from easy and that I don't sleep with anyone. Maybe you should change up your look or just every once in a while try dressing up but don't change who your are to gets guys attention.

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  • I totally understand what you mean! I always hated it when guys said I was "cute" or "pretty." It made me feel so plain Jane and lackluster. I honestly think it has a lot to do with your demeanor----a forward girl is hot, a more reserved girl is just cute. I also think the way you dress can determine whether or not a guy thinks you're "hot." I'm not telling you to go out looking like a stripper, but my philosophy has always been this: if you're showing cleavage, then cover up the legs, arms, and stomach. If you're showing off your legs, then make sure you're cleavage is put away, so to speak, and your stomach is fully covered. I think you get the gist of what I'm saying? Basically, you never want to look like a skank, but you do want to show off a little skin here and there. Heels are a big help too, they make your legs look longer and they fix your posture so that your entire body looks more lean and sexy. I wouldn't overdo it on the makeup because you never want to look cheap. The key is balance----try vamping it up a little and you'll notice a difference in the way guys perceive you. Trust me, I haven't been called "cute" in a while ;)

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  • Guys consider hott to be a girl who looks like she is "sex worthy"...do NOT show a ton of skin. You will just get into trouble, but it would be nice to wear some makeup, and just make sure you smell really nice, keep eyebrows plucked, good hygeine all around, nice breath, and have CONFIDENCE! it makes a HUGE difference believe it or not. Just be yourself still..

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  • A guy friend told me this. Hot- a girl you would get with. Cute- a girl you would bring home to your mom. Ur not ashamed o her.

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  • i would rather be called cute than hot honestly =)

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  • guys go for cute girls waaayyyy more than hot ones. they look at hot girls as an object

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  • Well usually if your turning heads and guys are going "DAMN", means that they only can see your looks and they don't care about anything else.

    I would aim for beautiful, unless you enjoy being slutty

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  • hot/cute is not in cloths make up and stuff..its in the attitude and the eyes =)

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  • At least he called you cute!

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  • I agree with what DanielSan said.

    it's not fair to say every girl who is considered hot is some whore who wears short skirts and too much makeup. No girl really wants to be called hot though, it's much better to be called beautiful. Although definitely the difference for guys, it seems, is confidence. A girl who exudes confidence and is pretty will get called hot more because confidence is sexy, but the exact same girl, without the confidence,would be considered cute. You might feel confident but if you come across as shy that's what guys see

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  • I think being cute is better than hot. hot is just overrated and whoreish. I mean, the only way a girl is hot is if she walks around half dressed with 10 lbs of make up...?

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  • Cute is not any better or worse than hot. It's just seperate categories. Both mean that you're good looking, just in different ways.

    If you're cute, you can be hot by emphasizing your sex appeal instead of just being "pretty". I don't know what most guys think, but I do know there are a lot of guys that like cute girls. As a fellow cutie, it seems like cute girls are seen as more respectable because they aren't seen as advertising their sexuality, they're just naturally pretty. Not to say that all hot girls are slutty or look slutty, but you have to admit there is a difference in sex appeal. But if you're already cute, most likely you can be hot. Heels, smokey eye makeup and showing off your body can make girls look hotter.

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