Ok I wouldn't call myself gross, but I'm definitely just plain or average. I envy beautiful girls so much, and all I wish is that I were beautiful like they are. And I know I have other good things to offer like brains, a nice personality, talents... but still I feel those things just aren't good enough. And I don't know why. I just wish I was gorgeous. And I mean, I even feel envy of escorts and p*rn stars because they're beautiful despite the fact that they're basically paid sl*ts. And I see them and I feel so ugly and like I'm not good enough no matter how many other good things I have (people always say it's the inside that matters, but somehow that just doesn't feel true).
So how can I stop envying beautiful women and be content with who I am, a smart, but plain girl? Is being smart as good as being beautiful? Or is being beautiful the best? I mean, otherwise, why do we value beauty so much in our culture? Women are never expected to be rocket scientists, but they are expected to be beautiful... does that mean brains are not good enough?
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Dumb guys go for dumb girls
Smart guys go for smart girls
That solves one part of the equation there. You'll find someone who is up to your intelligence level. Trust me. You wouldn't want a guy who could not appreciate your being smart right? Don't dare dumb yourself down:)
If you're average, there are things you can do to spice up your appearance. Change your hair, get a new haircut, color your hair, lose weight OR gain weight, exercise and dress more appropriately for your body. Wear a little makeup to enhance and accentuate your best features, dress for your body shape and body type, wear undergarments that make you feel sexy(secretly) and don't be afraid to show a little skin.
You also have to remember, it isn't all up to guys to give you attention. You have to show interest also and maybe take initiative.
I'm pretty average and plain without makeup & while I don't have guys crawling on their knees for me, I receive male attention.
Honestly, you wouldn't want to be with the type of guy who can base a relationship off of looks. YES, looks ARE important. Looks attract initially. But would you really want to lose sleep over not receiving attention from guys who ONLY care about looks?
As for society, who cares what society says? One minute society says it's unacceptable to be thin, the next minute thin is in. One minute it says being tan is the cool thing to do, the next, it's awesome to be pale because of some vampires. Society sucks hun.
Learn to appreciate your beauty and focus less on other girls:)
As MzNatalie said, cosmetic and plastic surgery is an option, but I do believe it should be a last resort.