Are there any advantages to being a late bloomer in looks?

[gigi_zeppelin]

okay I was super ugly as a kid through about part of 10th grade lol. no lie. I used to get teased bad because of my looks that led to a really bad self esteem. now in college, I put on nice makeup I guess, and try to dress nice. I get hit on every once in a while. guys say I'm pretty here and there. but I've only had a few relationships, I'm not as experienced as other girls. what do you guys think?

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i think you guys are right :) for example, my best friend is constantly getting hit on, but she tells me that they end up expecting to have sex with her you get me? but she tells me that she's jealous of me cause it seems like whenever someone hits on me, it's not just cause of my looks but because of my personality as well lol

[Darkfairie17]

As a late bloomer myself, I have to say there are a lot more advantages. I was overlooked for most of public school and high school. But now that I am in college, I am getting all these messages from guys who I went to high school with, wanting to date me. It's kinda flattering to know that people see you as attractive now. Also because I was mistreated, I know enough to avoid the types of people who mistreat those less attractive than them, so I usually date better quality people all around (people with good personality, attractive, smart, whole package basically) vs. just the typical jock popular guy from high school who just gets by on his looks.

Also, since you had that time where you had to rely on your other qualities because you lacked the looks at the time. So there are definitely advantages.

It just sucks though having to go through all the crap earlier on. But I think it's worth it :)

I have had the whole lack of experience in relationships too. But I have noticed that a lot of my friends who were dating a lot when they were younger were not having the best quality relationships. They would date a guy for a week and then move on, that's hardly enough time to really know someone. Plus they got hurt a lot because they had to go through a lot of relationships that may not have been based on good things, maybe the person only dated them because they were hot? Because when you are really young, that tends to be what some relationships are based on.

[Anonymous]

Of course there are , many I would say...

Better personality, your pick isn't hs that would be lame, You could have had a baby as a teen because You were too Hot looking lol...

You might already know Who cares about You and not your looks alone...

See its all great...

I want A late blommer guy myself as I fit in the same category ;)

[DallasTexasGirly]

im not sure, I think I'm still waiting for my time lmfao, I would say late tho cause then you get more experiences, think about all the popular kids and sh*t, they don't know how it feels to not get their way and have all those experiences which in the end make you stronger

[Drake742]

Most girls aren't very experienced sexually; a lot have very poor sexual experience when they are younger, but they will definitely have an advantage over you in terms of experience in a relationship.

There are distinct advantages to being a late bloomer, both for guys and girls.

When a person is pretty or attractive later on in life they don't carry with themselves with the same arrogance that someone who has always been told " wow you are sp attractive/hot/ppretty/sexy/handsome". Guys pick up on that. It's like when a girl who is over weight loses it and is stunning, she doesn't carry herself with the same arrogance or expectation that someone who has been told that all their life has a tendency to. Most likely you will be humble when she wont, you'll be like a tall glass of water on a hot day lol. Th main benefit I would say is in your preception of self and how others pick up on that. I would definitely say the world is your oyster, you will have your pick of some of the best guys to choose from.

Good Luck, I'm trully happy for you, I can relate to where you are coming from.

:D

[Dylan1989]

well said.

[Drake742]

Thanks

[sketchy]

I guess if you weren't able to get by on looks alone, it might have encouraged you to work harder / be more independent / have a more likable personality & better sense of humour / etc...

In which case, being a late bloomer might mean you now have all those qualities, plus the good looks, and no one you meet now ever need know (or would even care) what you used to be like.

Surely that's better than being one of those girls who "peaked in high school"?

[AltTech]

Seems to me the late bloomer will be more respectful because they understand what its like to be the odd one out or the one left behind. But on the flip side of that, there is always the person that turns into a giant a**hole when they get a little popularity, so it could go either way.

[Whistling_Dixie]

In my experience, late bloomers tend to be the ones with beautiful appearance and wonderful personalities because they learnt to not rely on beauty to get what they want and they know how it is feel to be in the other side. Lucky you! Just keep it real!

[7gnat]

I went to my 20 year reunion and I started to talk to a beautiful girl and I was shocked to find out who she was. She was one of the ugly ducklings in school and she sure turned out amazing looking and from awkward and too skinny into an angel. Sometimes it takes a while to fit into your body and face and it is great that things are changing for you. You may not see what other people see for a while but eventually you will believe.

[drummerdude25]

I think I'm kinda a late-bloomer too... I was never the "hot" guy, and I'm a bit baby-faced, I think I'm still growing into my looks a bit tho...

I think a nice advantage of being a late-bloomer, is you'll tend to always look great for your age.

[AmberChick]

An advantage could be that you don't have sex or even a relationship too early and so you can focus your time and efforts on other things that may be more important at the time.

[ShootingStar5]

Yeah, usually if you're a late bloomer your good looks won't fade as quickly as the people who were very attractive early on.

[Drake742]

I'm so happy for you, to bad they don't tell children stories.

[Ugliness]

Advantages? Probably not. I'm 44 and still am waiting to be good looking. Maybe I missed the boat.

[Anonymous]

What's important is what you have now! :)

Enjoy getting hit on ;)

[NonchalantBro]

late bloomer her...i would have prefered to bloom earlier but ill take this. I'm getting better with age in every way :p

[Opinion Owner]

Yay! for you! ;)

[RyanRyanson]

hmm peak in HS or peak when you're 30ish, tough call

[Anonymous]

I think it has do with person, the area, family, an other elements! So I say it depends everyone is different!

[Baldr]

Late bloomer for sure.

[Baldr]

Because you'll be more mature and know what you're looking for.

[kaitlovesyou]

no wrinkles early on in life