Guys don't view provocatively dressed girls as 'girlfriend material'?

An ex once told me that if a girl dresses provocatively, whether she be a nice girl or not, that a guy will only talk to her with the intention of getting sex, and never see her as girlfriend material. But he said if a girl is dressed more conservatively, then a guy would view her more as girlfriend material. Is that generally true? Or was he just trying to get me to wear more conservative clothes? lol


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  • See, what your ex is doing is he's doing that thing where he assumes because he does it, everyone does it.

    I, well... I'm a special case, here, 'cos I only talk to girls with intention of either friendship or sex - preferably both. I'm not looking for a lady, like. But when I WAS, I certainly never thought this way. Infact, like, the opposite. I've always been drawn to indulgence and if I had a girl like that I'da been stoked =]

    F*** that, anyway.

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  • Nope, that's pretty much true. Well I'm not the type of guy to just talk to a girl for sex anyway, but supposing I was, that would definitely be the type of girl I would target if I were just out for an easy lay. The only reason I can fathom a girl would want to expose so much of herself is that she thrives on feeling sexy, and by feeling sexy I mean she thrives on the sexual attention of males (since those are really the only ones who are going to be enjoying what you're wearing, or lack there of).

    Be it judgmental or not, it says so me she's very sexually liberated, and doesn't view sex as a big deal, and sex IS a big deal (to me anyways). I realize this may not be necessarily true of course, but you have to understand it is human nature to make judgments based upon available information. If I see a girl at a library with glasses on, dressed modestly and reading a book, there would be a lot of information I could gather from that just as equally as I could gather information about a provocatively dressed girl at a night club sipping on a drink. I expect to see one in a library, the other in a night club. See where I'm going with this?

    Girls that wear scandalous outfits are DEFINITELY out of the question as far as relationships go for me. I've been there and done that, and if there's one thing I dread it's the "Are you seriously going to wear that tonight?" conversation. I hate dislike having it, dislike that I need to be having it, and therefore I just save myself the trouble and avoid girls who enjoy that style of clothing. When I'm in a relationship with a girl, there's a certain feeling of entitlement I get, that I am the only one who has earned the right to see my girlfriend in that way. What makes me so special if the only thing more I get to see of my girlfriend is literally just what's underneath the bra/underwear? Idk, call me old fashioned or what not, but I absolutely love modest girls and believe they can still be sexy as hell without having to show their cleavage and ass crack to everyone.

    It's MUCH MUCH easier for me to avoid the relationship from the beginning than to think/try to change that later because it's not going to, ever. Anyway, dress however you want, but just keep in mind that how you dress is directly connected to the kinds of people you will attract. If you want to be taken as a sexual object then dress provocatively, but the only thing you will be inspiring of men is their sexual thoughts. If you want to find a man who actually cares about who you are and what you think, then dress like it.

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  • A girl that dresses provocatively is playing on the sexual field.

    Depending on the guy and the girl, it could be girlfriend material. In general guys like girls that display the right amount of provocative dress sense. That varies from guy to guy but I think if a girl wears provocative clothes once in a while it could be like the good ole Venus Flytrap. She lures a guy in based on showing off her goods and then traps a guy that she likes. She then might not dress in that way or she may continue to (this is another area of differing preference amongst guys).

    I like a girl that's provocative (in the right way for me) - but I do like the conservative angle too. It's a balance for me.

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  • Meh, I wouldn't draw too hard a line between 'girlfriend material' and 'sexual partner'.

    The thing about dressing provocatively is that you really need to know what you're doing or else you can easily come off looking a bit trashy or desperate or odd. So you can totally show off cleavage / wear black leather / knee-high boots -- as long as the outfit really comes together and makes you look good. You can be hot and look good, but if you bring out the heavy dark eyeshadow and bright red lipstick and torn pantyhose, yuck, I'm running for the hills.

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    • Way off topic. You didn't even answer the question?

  • That is not totally true, if a girl is very scantily dressed then yeah one might draw that conclusion but I think if a girl is wearing nice clothes but still allows for some eye candy then it's not all that bad, I mean who doesn't wanna look sexy? I know many girls who dress nice but still retain the slightly provocative side of their dress sense, it's not overdone but I wouldn't dismiss them as girlfriend material or anything, So al in all it really depends, if she's going around with barely anything on then yeah they're probably not girlfriend material but if they're nicely dressed with still some provacative hints attached then I wouldn't judge or dismiss them.

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  • Not necessarily true. Really depends on the context. If you were at an office party showing miles of cleavage and wearing hooker heels, then yes. On the other hand, if you're dressed in something sexy at a club or on halloween, totally cool.

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  • Your ex is right imo

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  • It really depends on the guy. Generally, most men find provocatively dressed woman extremely attractive. Key words: MOST MEN. In other words woman dress like that beacause they know men will slobber over them for dressing in that manner. Truthfully, is that the kind of woman you want to marry? A girl who says she only wants you yet dresses for other men. No. If you're young and immature then of course you could care less. You want a hot fox who you could care less about losing. If you're looking for a woman who you plan on being with forever, then you don't want her to dress like a whore.

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  • I think this is partly true. I prefer the more conservative look myself

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  • It's true.

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  • I think these thoughts vary from 'culture to culture' more than 'person to person'. I would tend to agree with him. There are three reasons behind this

    - The girl wearing revealing clothes, sort of, invites.

    - Conservative girl, sort of, promises that she will revealing herself to someone special.

    Well that's just me, as always, I may be wrong :)

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  • it's true. I only respect her if she doesn't dress provocatively/slutty. if she dresses like a cheap whore, I don't take her seriously/can't really focus/concentrate while talking to her/think of her as a human sex toy.

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  • true...

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What Girls Said 1

  • I think it's partly true. I think a lot of guys think this way. But there are also lots of guys who don't.

    I wear short skirts and dresses and show some cleavage and whatnot when I go out. Not so much during the day, but still. Whilst I'm not sure whether I'd label how I dress as 'provocative', I'm not a prude. No guys that I've dated or whatever have ever had anything negative to say about that.

    I mean, think about when you go out. I see lots of girls in skimpy clothes with boyfriends. I see that you're Australian as well, and I think that our beach culture has an impact on how we dress. This site is made up primarily of Americans, and from observations I've made on here they seem to be more conservative than Aussies.

    Whilst I doubt any guy wants to date a girl that shows her T&A, I also doubt that they expect her to wear neck high stops, and knee length skirts. I think it's about finding that middle ground. Either way, you shouldn't let anyone else dictate how you dress.

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