Now of course there are some guys out there who are mature and don't care if a girl has short hair. As well as guys out there who actually really like and may prefer a short haircut on a girl because they think it shows off her facial features more. Also because they know that a lot of girls hide behind their hair and use it to make them feel falsely confident. They wouldn't know what to do with their lives if they didn't have long, flowing hair. So I've heard that some guys find the confidence of a woman who can walk around with short hair and a head held high very attractive.
Long story short - I am disappointed and frustrated with men. I'm so tired of all the annoyance, drama, and pain they seem to come with. The "false advertising" is really irritating because I start to like someone who's not all he claimed to be in the beginning. Yet by the time I find out, it's too late; the strong feelings are already there :( I've dated a good amount of guys who you would think would be dream guys and at the end of the day, they made me feel better off without them.
So with all that said, I'm thinking of chopping my hair off :) It will repel all of the superficial, shallow jerks. I won't have to worry about them wasting my time with their unsatisfying existences. Not only that, but I feel that it's a true test of confidence and security for a woman. Lucky for me, my hair is naturally spirally curly so I could come up with some interesting, edgy looks.
What is your opinion on this topic? Do you think I should do it?
GUYS ANSWERING THIS QUESTION: please don't caught up in the unpleasant description of how MOST GUYS are. I didn't say that every single man walking the Earth is like that and I don't need a bunch of guys rushing here to defend men, when the truth is that most men are frustrating and disappointing. Even if YOU are not, most of them are. I understand that there are good guys out there, but a majority of them haven't reached that level yet. Until they do, they are disappointing and frustrating.
That is a multifaceted conclusion. It is not only coming from my personal experiences, but the experiences I watch happen with women everywhere. Even the own treatment my male cousins have given girls! So don't try to say "You just have poor judgment." becuase even if that was true, the reality is that most men out there carry the behavior I've described.
Honestly, you're the kind of person I would hang about with. You want to be the best. You want to date the best. You dislike immaturity and disrespect. Rightly so, why should anyone have to date someone who has a sub-par personality? I understand your concerns, but trying to make yourself less attractive on a physical level isn't going to remedy your problem. Due to the lack of specific examples in your question, I can't tell you exactly what you're doing wrong. And yes, it is you, because I've had no problem finding quality girls - you shouldn't either. Can you elaborate on said "pain and drama" ?
Yes- drastic measures in extreme frustration are always the best way to go.
Try eating a ton and getting really fat and play video games everyday too. Man, it would sure take a secure woman to do that too. That'll repel those jerks as well.
Build up some confidence, learn to be cautious with your feelings. Learn what a real "dream guy" is. Cause after your 4th dream guy so far... are you sure you got your criteria right?
Remember, you can say NO to men. Just cause they are attracted to you doesn't me you have to be all "nice" and say OK if they want you.
If you're looking for my real motive- here it is, I like long hair, and I don't think I'm a shallow, superficial jerk. So it'd be a shame to lose that :P
After you've calmed down, or thought through it, if you genuinely think hey, I'd look awesome with short hair, do it. But not because some jerk was shallow to you. That would mean they won! :(
Make sure you win by being awesome instead of losing and doing something cause of some dude.
If you still think I'm really shallow, ignore everything here. If you don't, then don't think all men are shallow, superficial, etc. That kind of blanket stereotype makes it hard for that Actual good guy to show up without being assumed to be an a******.
So you're gunna ugly yourself up because you were hurt by a guy? omg don't do that that is giving him and guys way too much power. you shouldn't tailor your looks for a guy whether its trying too hard to impress them or not at all
I know just how you feel about meeting the men that seem like the perfect prince charming then you fall for them and then they turn into total douche bags. I have been there, done that and am still in one of those relationships with a total loser who bragged about being cool in the beginning... anyways no one is perfect and you need to learn to compromise to get through in life. good luck