How important is being able to dance? I know girls really like a guy who is smooth on his feet, but is it something that he just has to have some skill at? I can't dance at all, besides really slowly swaying hips slow dancing badly. I'm beyond two left feet. I probably would say I have two left feet and a right foot. I also really don't like to dance. Slow swaying, since I wouldn't call standing up swaying your hips really dancing, is OK to a degree, but it isn't something I want to do all the time, especially with lots of people around.
I am a competitive dancer (ballroom) and if a guy can dance ballroom as well, he definitely earns some extra points from me! However, I also love teaching guys to dance. I had an interest about a year ago who was like you...three or four left feet, and a bit afraid to dance in public. I convinced him to come to a dance with me, and it wasn't long before I had taught him not only proper slow-swaying technique, but also some basic swing and salsa. He really let his inhibitions go, and we were both having a great time by the end of it. It's not as hard as you think if you just put some effort into it and aren't afraid to try.
The important thing to me is not whether a guy can dance, but whether he's willing to attempt it. It says a lot about his personality, whether he's willing to risk possibly looking silly in order to spend time with a girl out on the dance floor or make her smile. It's cute when a guy shows that he would rather be out there with you learning than standing by the edge of the room trying to look cool. And I'm sure if you are genuinely interested in going out and dancing with a girl, she'd be glad to show you some moves.
To be absolutely honest, I find it a real turn off if a guy doesn't bother making an effort to dance.
For example, social dance in school if you remember, there were always those guys that would hardly hold a girls hand, would refuse to twirl their partner, and shuffle instead of dancing. I'm attracted to a guy who makes an effort, and it's a great situation to see who does and who doesn't! I go for a gentle yet powerful grip of the hand, and a little bit of energy!
To me, It doesn't matter if you can dance or not, it's just the effort you put in, and I'm sure there are many girls who agree with me :)
I don't really like to dance too much because I suck at dancing myself. Okay, maybe I'm not horrible, but it's not really my thing. Just don't go anywhere that you have to dance too much and if you do...be totally honest with the girl.
If worst comes to worst, you could always take a class that teaches you how to dance. Still, I don't think that those classes are very good.
It's ok that you don't know how to dance. I've gone to dances with guys who can't dance and I still have a blast. I like when guys who can't dance try to dance just to make people laugh, I think that's the cutest. my guy friend is like that and he can't dance, but a lot of girls like him because he doesn't hide the fact that he can't dance and he tries to have fun anyway. That's hot!
But if you really feel the need to learn to dance, then ask a friend who knows how to dance to teach you.
If a guy is like really bad at dancing, personally (coming from me and every girl at school) we don't care. Just have fun! Really. As for slow dancing, if you don't know how and there comes a time (which there will) that you need to slow dance with your girl. Make sure she knows before you dance that you don't know how. It's ok! She will probably just giggle a little, (and no, if she laughs she's not laughing at you, she thinks its cute! ). Your girl probably knows how to slow dance and will show you how along the way. In the end, you'll learn how some way!
Dancing is something I love and for a guy I like to teach me or lead me though a dance is one of the most flattering and "sexiest" things. It shows that a guy is a gentlemen and that's what almost every girl dreams of.
In the grand scheme of things, it's not really all that big of a deal. There's a lot of other qualities girls look at before that. However, some girls, present company included, may equate bad dancing skills with bad bedroom skills... just kidding! It really isn't that big of a deal. Spend less time dancing and more time with other stuff!
This guy that I like now is just like you he has two left feet. He dances off beat and tries to bop his head but it looks off. He doesn't hide that he can't dance.
It is so not important to me!!! In fact it turns me on that my guy can't dance. Soooo when we hit the dance floor I can have my way with him on the dance floor!!! AND he wouldn't know what HIT HIM BUT he will know that I hit him!!!!
Those classes will teach you aerobics. Unless you are motivated to go home, dance and come back to really accentuate the choreography. It's a waste of moolah.
I love to dance and I love watch girls dance (especially with you). It's liberating, sexual and a great work out. Does it GET you girls? No but a porsche doesn't "get" you the girl either but it most certainly helps ;)
Like hitting a baseball. You don't get better by reading and studying it.
So coming from a dancer, here's how you get better. Decide what type of dancing you want to do? I'd suggest the regular club music that's out there in which you can just simply free style.
Download some music that has a beat and that you enjoy. Get a mirror and wear clothes you would dance in (dancing in your emo pants and metallica shirt won't generate the same results if we're listening to club music).
and guess what? Start Moving. look at youtube videos and emulate dance moves until you're able to make it your own.
Give it another shot, a legitimate one.
Like other's have said, it's like if you don't play tennis, don't go to tennis courts to meet women but you're missing out!
Depending on what scene you are in lets say a club well unless the floor is big and they play that salsa or something all you really do is grind at a club to rap music I mean who can't GRIND? honestly? but in plain dancing period where I live if you can't dance you better be at the top with your A-Game because not being able to dance won't fly lol, but if you can't dance its not always bad make something come from that which you lack, something good always comes out of something bad remember that