I acendently invited two guys to my dance? What do I do and who should I take?

[CAPLOVE]

I asked the first guy Tommy on Monday. Tommy is a freshman and I am a junior so we are going as friends. I texted and He said I'll have to see. He did not respond for 24 hours so two days after I texted him and said "wondering if you figured out if you can go. If not no worries. I just need to know because permission forms are due soon". I sent my text around 8 am. He did not respond till around 8pm. I know he was not busy because he was texing in the group chat during this time with our other friends. He said "sure sound good". I said great and gave him info about the dance. ... On the day when I sent the follow up text I asked my friends and mom what they think I should do. They both said it was a blow off and it technically is a no. They told me I should just ask someone else. My neighbor is a boy who is also a junior like me. My neighbors mom did not respond until this morning and my mom sent her the text around 5pm last night so we assumed she ignored the text. All she said was "can you please call me." my mom hasn't called. But when my dad was walking the dog Matts mom stoped him and asked about the dance my dad had no clue what she was talking about and said talk to my mom... Pros of Tommy are IK him pretty well, Ik he's a good guy, he is nice, and he is tall. i also feel that in the future if I backed out I could ask him again. Also are parents have not yet talked so I feel his parents won't be pissed. The cons are he's younger the me, I can't flirt, and we can't date in the future, he probably also will never ask me to one of his dances. Cons of Matt are he lives close. Also are moms have talked so his mom might hate me if 'I back out and we might not be able to go to another dance in the future. Also, we've never talked before so it might be awkward. Pros are he lives close, he would be open to going to the after party, we might be able to date in the future, I could flirt, and he probably would invite me in the future to his dances if it goes good.

[AviatorTom]

Interesting situation. Take Tommy, the guy you asked first, and the one that said yes first.

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, but he didn't say yeas first and Matt was much more enthusiastic when he said yes

[AviatorTom]

@CAPLOVE So I mis-interpreted your description. Still take Tommy... you invited him first.
In the future, if the person you asks doesn't get back to you and you want to invite someone else, give that first person an ultimatum ("I need to know your answer, otherwise I will invite someone else") before you ask the second person.

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, thank you. Matts a dick so I'm just gonna take Tommy. He asked to hang out so we hung in a group. then my friend who's a bitch hit on him and they exchanged snaps right in front of me so that's over.

[bradley142]

sounds like you have 2 dates better for you right?

[CAPLOVE]

I can't take two LOL

[bradley142]

lol and why not i was gonna ask you that in a dm but you would have to follow me

[CAPLOVE]

My school only allows us to take one date

[bradley142]

oh well thats stinks

[PrincelyGlove]

How did it go? :)

[Mansearching]

Go with your gut.

[Z1pTD]

Definitely go for Matt in my opinion :)

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, why matt?

[Z1pTD]

Bc it would be more real because you guys could date and more fun because you live closer and can flirt

[CAPLOVE]

Omg your so right. That's what I was thinking. DUDE GET THIS!!! Matts a dick so I'm just gonna take Tommy. He asked to hang out so we hung in a group. Then my friend who I now think is a bitch hit on him and they exchanged snaps right in front of me so that's over. Like wtf does that. And I don't know what to do now. like do I call them out? I texted him and said I don't want to go w/ him anymore so now I'm so scared there gonna go. together

[Z1pTD]

Whattt? Nooooo whyyy. Some people 😑
Don't call them out it isn't worth it. The right person won't have to be called out so early in a relationship

[Roudyrebel8]

Take the one you are more comfortable with

[CAPLOVE]

I don't really know either that well

[TruExo7]

Take Tommy. Next question

[CAPLOVE]

why tommy?

[TruExo7]

It’s not awkward with him

[CAPLOVE]

ok, but I barlley know either

[TruExo7]

You said with the other guy it’s awkward. So Tom is the friendlier option you’ll have more fun with Tom

[CAPLOVE]

Thanks. Makes sense

[CAPLOVE]

Matts a dick so I'm just gonna take Tommy. He asked to hang out so we hung in a group. then my friend who's a bitch hit on him and they exchanged snaps right in front of me so that's over.

[KatherineJ]

Is this prom?

[CAPLOVE]

No winter dance

[KatherineJ]

Why can’t you just have both go?

[CAPLOVE]

My school dosn' allow that

[CAPLOVE]

Matts a dick so I'm just gonna take Tommy. He asked to hang out so we hung in a group. then my friend who's a bitch hit on him and they exchanged snaps right in front of me so that's over.

[KatherineJ]

@CAPLOVE so problem solved then?

[CAPLOVE]

I guess LOL. Except Matt is my neighbor so I have to see him all the time. And all my friends think I'm still going with Matt.

[KatherineJ]

So? You have to see each other. But if he’s a jerk, you can still keep him at arm’s length.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, thanks

[CAPLOVE]

I ended up taking Tommy and it actually went super good

[KatherineJ]

Woohoo

[Danny_dan92]

Off to a great start

[CAPLOVE]

Hahaha, IKR. Who should I take though?

[Danny_dan92]

No clue

[CAPLOVE]

read my discrition thing

[CAPLOVE]

Tommy is a freshman and I am a junior so we are going as friends. . My neighbor is a boy who is also a junior like me so my mom asked if mom if he would be interested in going w/ me. Pros of Tommy are IK him pretty well, Ik he's a good guy, he is nice, and he is tall. i also feel that in the future if I backed out I could ask him again. Also are parents have not yet talked so I feel his parents won't be pissed. The cons are he's younger the me, I can't flirt, and we can't date in the future, he probably also will never ask me to one of his dances. Cons of Matt are he lives close. Also are moms have talked so his mom might hate me if 'I back out and we might not be able to go to another dance in the future. Also, we've never talked before so it might be awkward. Pros are he lives close, he would be open to going to the after party, we might be able to date in the future, I could flirt, and he probably would invite me in the future to his dances if it goes good.

[Danny_dan92]

Whatever makes the most sense. Make up your mind kiddo

[CAPLOVE]

I feel that Tommy is better becuse Ik him already. But i kinda wanna go w/ matt becuse it's someone new and he's my age. I don't know how to tell my mom what i want though. Could i keep them both as options or is that rude?

[Danny_dan92]

Pick one

[CAPLOVE]

I don't know how... i sish someone would just tell me what to do. I kinda wanna go w/ matt but I don't know how to tell my mom that because IK she wants me to go w/ tommy... I wish someone would just tell me what to do

[CAPLOVE]

Who would you pick if you were in my position? Or how would you pick?

[Danny_dan92]

This is a good opportunity for you to learn how to make “tough” decisions for yourself. When you’re an adult you’re going to come across many situations where you have to make a choice.

This? This is not even a difficult decision.

[Danny_dan92]

I’m not gay, so I am not qualified to answer that question

[CAPLOVE]

I get what your saying. Explain to me how this is not a tough decision.

[CAPLOVE]

hahaha, true. Pretend it's two girls then

[Danny_dan92]

When you’re older and are going to college, have bills, need to budget etc. you’ll see

[Danny_dan92]

I would pick whichever one I have the most chemistry with.

[CAPLOVE]

Gotcha, true

[CAPLOVE]

I get that. I just feel like I haven't talked to Matt so can i talk to him and if it doesn't work out just go w/ Tommy

[Danny_dan92]

There you go

[CAPLOVE]

ok, is that mean though to keep them both hanging? and cancel the week of?

[CAPLOVE]

sorry i'm just venting at this point. Thank you for listening

[Danny_dan92]

You would only leave one hanging

[CAPLOVE]

DUDE GET THIS!!! Matts a dick so I'm just gonna take Tommy. He asked to hang out so we hung in a group. Then my friend who I now think is a bitch hit on him and they exchanged snaps right in front of me so that's over. Like wtf does that. And I don't know what to do now. like do I call them out? I texted him and said I don't want to go w/ him anymore so now I'm so scared there gonna go. together