Would a girl intentionally call you "friend" to indicate a lack of interest?

[Anonymous]

Girl I've kinda just started seeing (we "spent the night" together for the first time last weekend - no sex) flakes out on me this weekend and then says "ciao mon ami!" (or "bye my friend" in French) when saying goodbye.

Am I paranoid, or might a girl do this to indicate her lack of romantic interest?

Yes. She's subtly hinting that her feelings aren't romantic.

Depends on how she used it and the context. Could be a sarcastic term of endearment.

No. You're giving her too much credit in being so pre-meditated.

[scarlet]

it really depends on the person I don't know of any girl who would call a guy freind just to indicate lack of interest, but I'm sure they're out there. for me personally (as well as all my freinds), I wouldn't call a guy my freind just because I don't like the more than that. I know some grls will call a guy a freind even when they do like them so that the guy doesn't know that they do because they're afraid of rejection. but to answer your question, yeah, I think ur paranoid.

to be perfectly honest, I don't know where guys got the idea that by a girl calling him her freind it means she doesn't like him. or when a girl is asked out and she says she wants to stay just freinds that its somehow an insult. that's really not true for most grls, if they say they wanna be just freinds then they probably mean it. and if they just call a guy a freind they probably mean that too but that doesn't mean their feelings go deeper.

[SmileBabyy]

It really depends.

Woman can point out that there not romantically interested by calling you a friend.

But in your case it's difficult to tell. You could be over looking it a bit. If she's English speaking that phrase may be the only fitting one she knows for this situation. That doesn't mean she's not interested though. It could just mean she's not ready to call you more than that at this point in time.

If I were you I would just let her know where you stand and let her take the lead and decide the fate of you two.

Best of luck to you.

[Asker]

Thanks, I think it's definitely getting to the point where this relationship needs some definition. I will heed your advice and talk to her about where we stand when we hang out next weekend.

[HopeIessRomantik]

I put A . I never call anyone "friend" really, but if I did, its only because I'm emphasizing it for a reason. Now does this girl call all her friends or some of her friends, "Friend" ? Or just you? From there you can decide what "friend" really means to her .Although there isn't enough information from your question, this is the best advice I can give you. Good luck!

[sonic241928]

The fact that she said it in French may mean that it WAS flirting (I'm assuming English is your and her native language, no?). But like the ladies here said, take it in context. Flirt; if she's receptive, makes some moves and take it from there. Best of luck.

[jacquesvol]

Try asking her: "How many 'friends' do you have?"

If she's hurt or angry (or slaps your face), you're probably the only one and it's romantic. ;)

[audreymarie21]

i do things like that when I know a guy is interested in me and I do not reciprocate the feelings. I don't like confrontation, so I don't want that awkward moment where they tell me they like me, or try to make a move on me, so I try to subtly hint that I'm not interested. referring to them as a 'great friend' is something I would do.

[Anonymous]

i think you're reading into it...you need to play a little more flirting to find out for sure and experiment, does she make eye contact with you? does she compliment you? does she touch you accidentally, try to hang out with you be with you? then she likes you!

orrr does she talk about another guy or other guys she likes? does she share her dramtic life problems with you? talk about serious things? not wanna hang out with you? then she is just a friend

[Riririri]

What if she does both? She flirts, she touches me, she is always playful and wants to play pranks and games where she almost always ends up touching me, she holds eye contact for more than 10 seconds constantly and smiles every time and doesn’t stop looking at me the whole time. She also sometimes proposes situations to do stuff alone.
But when I do say let’s do the plans she proposed, something always comes up (even though I don’t even propose those plans), when I propose something she invites her friends too and we are not alone. And sometimes she mentions the dudes that she finds decent in dating apps even in private chat. Also she sometimes tells me she wish our friendship will last forever? And that I’m one of her best friends.
It really confuses Me, also when I try to look good she mentions how good I look… it drives me crazy

[moonlight223]

Some girls do that with guys they know like them, I know I have once honstly it really depends, does she just call you friend? or everyone that? maybe make a move ad see how she reacts then you'll have your answer

[demonicblackangel]

I have taken French and "mon ami" can mean my boyfriend. The french do not have a different word for it. It is either "mon ami" or "mon copain" which both mean friend. Here is a english-french dictionary that shows it: link

[Asker]

Thanks! While I don't think she'd be ready to give me the title of boyfriend yet, this suggests that it's probably not the "friend-zone" death sentence that it probably would be in English. If French is like Italian, it is not at all precise and lacks a phrase to accurately describe what I am at this point to her. Hence why I'm lost in translation and totally confused! C'est la vie...

[ohlove11]

i don't think its definitely lack of romantic interest. I say "my friend" to a lot of people, including guys I like. I'm not exactly sure if she's romantically attracted, only you'd be able to really tell, I guess. good luck with the situation :] & God bless you.

[crazyblue]

your a bit paranoid lol It could just be one of those sayings that she uses. PLus, it was in another language, doesn't count lol

[Jimbob]

If it'd been in English, I'd say she's not interested. But since it was French, ya never know. Who knows what girls are thinking anyway?