I don't know if your just looking for reassurance or not, but you've pretty much answered your own questions.
"Is that good or bad for me?"
What does that mean, you think she's going to take time out of her schedule to come tell you how much of an idiot you are for even requesting a date in the first place. Or how much she hates you. Or spill her guts about some guy she's currently seeing. I'm being mean for a reason. Because, no one in the their right mind would except a date to come rant about their life. With that also being said, I think that's something you may want to stare clear from. Ranting on about your life, add that to the list.
To answer that question more nicely, it's a good thing; her coming to see you.
"How should I act?"
You can just be yourself; 'cause as soon as you start pretending your something your not she'll notice. Just be yourself, you claim it's just to catch up, so do just that.
Things to stay away from saying:
The best way not to mess up, is remembering how you got her in the first place. Treat it like your first date again; try to be sweet and tender with her. Everything you can to be her friend at this moment. Make her laugh as much as possible, and it's time to call it a day, just call it a day.
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO... Don't do it... This is the basic set up for a woman to have her cake and eat it to, in other words (drum roll)... THE FRIEND ZONE! She has been probably banging some other guy or guys and wants to keep you hanging on a string because you are the type of nice guy she wants to marry in the future, but now she just wants men to have fun with, go crazy with, and have sex with, and most of all tell you all about it... Going to meet up with her is stroking he ego (this is what women like to do to good men), and it's because she knows that you still love her and she has you wrapped around her finger somewhat. You have to stay away and move on. It's not worth chasing after this girl or any girl.
I don't know how long you were dating her, but just talk about the same things you always did. I don't think the age thing is a big deal unless one of you makes it a big deal. Overall just be normal. Relax and try to approach the situation in a friendly manner. Anytime I met with ex boyfriends there was always sex and really nothing else. If this is something you want to avoid then keep that in mind going into the situation. Good luck, hopefully this meeting will bring you closure or back together.
It's good to reflect on what went wrong and what problems there were, try to resolve them or find a solution to them if you guys are planning to get back together. getting coffee together is always a good thing. Don't be too nervous, dres well, don't bring up the break for sure, focus on positives. It's always nice to be at least friends with ex's. :) wish you luck.
Talk normal to her like she is just a friend. Don't pry or put yourself out there. This could be her reaching out but don't go into this coffee time with any expectations! This could either be a future of you two getting back together or closure. Either way you two are talking at least!
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"I'm in absolute love with this girl"
That's the issue that I see with catching up with her for a cup of coffee. What's your real intention for this cup of coffee? Just to see her again and may-be see if you can get back together? You've mentioned things you absolutely won't say, but deep down aren't they things you are really wondering about? Honestly?
In your mind, this might seem like a good idea, and it might turn out great... but you need to think about what you really want to get from this before you go through with it.I personally say no... if you broke up that's becouse you don't work together, you only feel like you love her becouse you broke up. trust me this feeling does fade and you can then meet new people... I'm sorry to be so negative but I wouldn't get my hopes up..
no act her straight up don't be a jerk about it but ask wants going on some girls can be stupid but just make sure she answer ur questions or you will be left wondering
presnt her sum thing if you really love
forget abt the past and you take an innitiative to re union
old pal never changes, they just get bored
Best of luckThis is a great opportunity for you! Just relax, and be yourself. ^__^
I say this is her reaching out to you. It may lead to a reunion, who knows. :D
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