Does he want more than fwb? he acts all lovey?

[Anonymous]

ok so me and this guy are I guess fwb.I met him in school and we hung out and such but he has said in the beginning that he didn't want a relationship.

Now guys would you act all "lovey dovey" to someone who I just fwb? or is there something more there?

For instance the other night I was over and we did stuff together and when I was leaving I hugged him and he gave me a kiss on the lips. Then he kissed me again and again and again etc. Like 7 times before I was able to leave. What does that mean?

Also we were sleeping and he grabbed me closer and kissed me and just all around was being cute wich in the beginning he never really did those things wen I left.

The other night I also saw him smile when we were kissing. And he continued to smile every time even wen I would do something dorky.

I need some help ahhh this is driving me crazzy! guys help me please I would love it to be his girlfriend one day I just don't want to come out and ask yet.

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this is driving me crazy someone please help

[Adun99]

Be aware that his feelings for you are a separate thing from his ability to commit to a relationship.

All those things you see mean he really likes you, and digss you, and probably has feelings for you.

When he asks himself the question "¿am I ready to be in a relationship?", if the answer is "yes" he'd definitely ask you to be his girlfriend. But if the answer is "no", then even if he has a lot of feelings for you, he won't.

He could be just trying the waters or falling for you... we don't really know. Just remember: him being "ready" (for a relationship) is a separate thing.

You need to ask yourself how OK you are with being FWB. If you really are OK with it, if you really are enjoying yourselves, then "don't try to fix what's not broken".

Now, if you are not all that comfortable, or you think this will eventually be an issue for you, or you already started feeling like you're wasting your time, then, you'll need to come out and ask eventually (hopefully in a nice flirty way rather than in an ultimatum). Before you do that, you can prepare the way by asking your FWB out on a couple dates (maybe don't use the word "date") and being really nice and flirty-but-cool to him. Then (afterwards, not during a date) you can come out and ask him if he wants you 2 to move forward

[Asker]

thanks! yea he said about the relationship thing in septemberish. So things might change idk. It just seems that the way he used to be is so different now and more into me. But who knows I would like it to possibly one day be more than what we are now but its all up to him. We used to go to bars etc but now we chill at his house watch movies snuggle etc. wich I don't mind I kind of like. I asked if he wanted to go to a nfl fb game Sunday since its his fav team and he said maybe because he hates

[Asker]

the cold weather wich I understand so ill see. but I don't know like I said it seems totally different and he seems more into me and more loving then her used to be. he seems happy when I come over . so I don't know what to do. I want to say something soon maybe but I don't want to ruine anything that we have if you get what I mean. but maybe it will turn out good. I guess I just have to hope for the best and see where things head for if he gets more loving and goes more places with me but thanks!

[kentpaul]

Congratulations: you've just slept your way into your man's heart... doesn't happen too often, but it really does seem like this guy actually likes you. If you really want to find out, then play hard to get for a day or two and see how far he's willing to go to be with you. My guess is that he's pretty much yours at this point and would lick your feet if you asked. So, what are you still doing reading this? Go make him your boyfriend already!

[Asker]

really? Thanks! I hope we could start a relationship eventho in the beginning he said he didn't want one mb its different now? said it eiter the first time we were intimate or beefore but who knows. I talk to him a lot pretty often. but see him like once a week since schools out. we watch a movie cuddle and do stuff haha. so I don't know what to do but yea maybe hard to get it the best bet.

[kentpaul]

Be busy or something next time. Pretend you have a date or something. If he wants you, he'll be jealous and will try to lock you in, so to speak, if he things you're still available for others out there.

[Asker]

sounds like a good idea. but I'm sure he will be like w.e but we will see