GIRLS - How hard is it to find a guy?

[Anonymous]

About half of all adult women are single, 70% for blacks. Is being single the best thing ever or would you prefer to have a SO? 30% of people born between 1980 and 1990 will never get married (mostly men though) and the number is only increasing until these people become the majority.

70% of Japanese men under 34 identify as "herbivore" men. WTF IS GOING ON?

I'm sure it's not hard to find a guy for sex, but what about having a connection with? I wanted to hear your side of the story as well!

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+1 y

Apparently, most women agree that it's not hard to fund a guy who is willing to enter an LTR, but it easy as fuck to find a friends with benefits or a casual dater.

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+1 y

Need moar responses despite MHO already chosen. Are you even interested in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I kept myself a virgin and this guy even wnted to marry me even tho I wasn't sure if that's what I wanted I jst assumed we wr gna see each other regularly as soon as it happened he humiliated me. I was broken cse I had feelings thank god we used protection, another guy led me on 2 it was just4 sex he did it so quick 2 min it was awful. cse I'm attractive and jovial it seems all men want me for is sex like they don't even care of me as even a friend or a person. now I jst try playing the field but as a women u really feel empty. I've met guys that wr crazy over me often to the point wr they become like stalkas with out me kissin em or leadin em on even. this guy for example was jst a bro we ddnt meet up jst talkin ova the phone we jst knw each other through some mutual friends. he's gets mad when I don't text him everyday from morn till night. I thought its jst cse he likes me. now its to the point wr he gets angry if I must sleep or go2 work and swearin me ugly if I'm out on a wkend even tho he's in another town. I had to cut it off. a guy from prom even wanted to stab me cse he ddnt have the guts to ask me out. so its hard but I knw ill find a gr8 guy who I'm attracted to cse attraction u can't fake. who gives me freedom and who loves me at the same time. cse to extremes of guys ones who's cold and ones who's insane is not nice. if I have a baby I really wd prefer being married cse the thought of going through birth alone wd be awful. but yes I'm jst focusin on myself. so yes its hard sometimes.

[indian_empress_91]

1. Men like to play the field
2. too many are into my looks too much
3. Have not met anyone worth me being vulnerable or give my time& feelings to

Basically when you are a woman or remotely very attractive, you attract the psychos, the liars, the assholes, the stalkers, all kinds and when it seems it has more of the bad ones than good. And when you have been betrayed and heart broken by someone you thought was the best guy ever you wonder if everyone are pretenders.
So you have to take your time and not rush and hope you find someone worth it, sometimes it takes longer than you want it to.

[ABreadKnife]

I'm in college and lots of people are looking for love, so I don't think it is too difficult at this stage. When you grow older, it becomes more difficult. The people I've dated I've been friends with first, or is good friends with a mutual friend. I am more confident they are decent guys that way, rather than some random guy doing some moves on you, a lot of those seem to seek sex. I think in depends on the crowd you're with, other locations/groups in my college have more of a reputation for drinking/drugs/sex than others.

[Asker]

Hmm... things are probably far, far better in places outside the western world

[ABreadKnife]

Maybe, but there are lots of people in my university just looking for sex buddies too. I hear a looot of stories about cheating. My circle of friends has no one who plays the field, drinks, drugs, etc.. I just think I'm in a pretty good crowd.

[Asker]

It's still 100 times better than the west. Cheating happens everywhere. We have a 50% divorce rate.

[Illusive_Man]

Sometimes I feel like a Panda.
https://i.imgur.com/RzDlQy1.jpg

Probably can bite your head off if I wanna but I'm just happy with leaning against a tree.
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And rolling down a snowy hill
www.funckr.com/genimg.aspx

[Asker]

lol what the fuck?

[Illusive_Man]

Panda might be happy with just eating bamboo but they are perfectly capable of eating meat and killing... you lol

[Asker]

lmao

[Izzy2102]

I think what he means is that pandas are literally dying out because they're too lazy to have sex.

[Illusive_Man]

@Izzy2102
Can always learn a few things from the polar bears lol
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[Illusive_Man]

why is this MHO lol?

[Asker]

cuz other responses are just stupid

[Illusive_Man]

as if this isn't lol?

[Asker]

This is pure genius! imho.

[Illusive_Man]

500 watt?

[Asker]

Over 9000.

[micheal727jovanie]

Its hard to find anybody in general some people are content with who they're with and others choose to be alone for some reason.

[Asker]

"anybody" "some people" "others"

lol, sorry but no.

[aamy811]

It's really hard for me. I have an SO right now but the dating pool has always been hard for me.
Being a black female I'm usually told that they don't date black girls, so I'm usually left searching. It's good right now but it's been a struggle throughout my life

[Asker]

Lucky you! Hold on to him..

[aamy811]

It's a girl but I know what you mean, thanks

[NExPats12]

Girls are single, usually because they get played for just sex. I mean really a lot of men are assholes, so in the long run sometimes it's better to be single. I think it's hard to find a man, girls like to have relationships and make it last. Men usually get tired, and or don't want to deal with what comes with the package of a girl. Personally, everyone is focusing more on wham bam thank you ma'ams, and less dating.

[Asker]

Yeah most relationships don't last longer than a few months these days... As a man, I'm absolutely fine and actually happy about it. But what about women? I thought you wanted relationships, life partners, soulmates etc... or is that just a myth and all you want is resources? LOL jk.

[NExPats12]

We do want that, but a lot of men don't. Eventually we get tired of being hurt, and just end doing our own thing, and keep waiting for Mr. Right lol.

[Asker]

I think women need to wake up to the fact that he's not coming. The state is the new husband.

[NExPats12]

That's terrible lol, remember someone for everybody out there.

[Asker]

For sex and short term relationships, absolutely.

[NExPats12]

No no lol, may be for haha. I choose not to get married not really sure why, but I mean I'll date for months to years on end.

[Asker]

I wish you luck finding a guy who will. It won't be that hard. But don't wait, because it will be a big challenge in the future (say 5 years from now)

[NExPats12]

Lmao, I won't hold my breath that's for sure.

[Izzy2102]

No for sex it's not hard. Not hard at all.

For a relationship, it's very hard. Most guys won't ask you out unless you make it very very clear you're interested
Additionally it's rather hard to find guys who don't want to date casual, but have a real relationship. And to make it worse that guys that do want that are not usually confident in asking women out, whereas the guys that want hook ups do a lot of approaching. Which overall leaves a lot of people confused and frustrated

[Asker]

What's better - sex or relationships?

[StickStickity13]

Can you blame guys for being cautious?

[Izzy2102]

@StickStickity13 No, rejection is hard. Just saying

[thelittlelostbear]

Very hard.. mostly because everyone thinks I am weird because in every conversation I throw some Disney quote in and wait till someone reacts but no one ever does so... yeah.

“Like so many things, it is not what’s on the outside, but inside that counts.”

[Asker]

lol. Sorry to hear. Don't you prefer being single though?

[thelittlelostbear]

No. I want to wake to someone and start the day saying to someone that I love them.

[Asker]

Well, I think you should start approaching guys if you really want one. If you think it's hard today it'll be very, very hard in the future (say 5 years from now) with the way our society is going.

[Aud_Queen]

I'll be graduating from HS in 2 months.

Finding sex? It's literally a phone call/text away.

Finding someone your attracted to and your both compatible? Hasn’t happened yet for me.

[Asker]

Look on the bright side, you can have sex or a short term relationship or friends with benefits anytime you want! Who cares about long term relationships anyways? They're a dying breed.

[Aud_Queen]

sensing a bit of sarcasm in this, lol...

[Asker]

Woman's intuition tingled!

It's not very effective...

[Aud_Queen]

Now you just sound bitter :o

[Asker]

wow that was so uncalled for. I was only kidding...

[Aud_Queen]

Oh, my mistake then :P

[JillTaylor77]

It can be very difficult to find guys that meet specific standards that you would want a SO to meet. Fuck buddies are easy to find but anyone worth your time in the long run is a bit more challenging

[Asker]

What standards?

[JillTaylor77]

Being an actually nice guy, some guys pretend until they have you sucked into a relationship and you're blind and being a true gentleman

[JillTaylor77]

And someone with good intentions not just fucking then leaving

[Asker]

Well, on the bright side you should be happy that short-term relationships and fuck buddies are easy!

[JillTaylor77]

I guess so haha

[Asker]

of course. There's so much else in life apart from LTRs. In fact, that isn't even a part of life anymore lol

[Anonymous]

Pretty frickin hard.

Is it hard to get laid? No... I mean... You're going to have to ask maybe 3-5 before you'll get a yes, but its not hard.

Is it hard to find a good guy to date? It's basically impossible.

[Asker]

Well, on the bright side, you're getting sex. And I'm sure casual dating/short term relationships aren't that hard either.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah, but the thing is though, is that I don't want that. I did want it a year ago, but I don't want it now. I'm done messing with my sexual and emotional health

[Asker]

don't get emotionally involved. Use protection.

[Opinion Owner]

protection is never 100% and I can't help but feel things sometimes
I'm just gonna save it for relationships from now on

[Takada]

It's not difficult to get laid, at least through online dating sites. But it's very difficult for me to find a guy for a relationship.

[Asker]

Do you even want to be in a relationship or just be friends with guys and fuck them?

[Takada]

@CootiesInfection That's probably true.

[Takada]

I want to have guy friends, but I also want to in a relationship with just one guy.

[CootiesInfection]

they keep on removing valid advice calling it antagonistic. I've said it before on other questions and its still just as much the truth as the first 100 times they removed it... if u can't find a guy who loves you for your personality, you probably have a terrible personality. if by some miracle you have a terrible personality and he still loves you for your body, you should probably be rejoicing in that instead of complaining like a whiny bitch. the bitching and complaining probably being a part of the reason you're a terrible person in the first place.

[Asker]

Is it hard to find even short-term relationships?

[Takada]

@CootiesInfection Now you ARE being antagonistic. You make claims about me without ever having talked to me. What makes you think I whine and bitch? What makes you think I should be grateful if a guy wants to fuck me? Go fuck yourself. You won't ever find a woman who loves you, you fucktard.

[Takada]

I had one short term relationship with a guy I met online, but that's it really. They come pretty easily to most women I know, though.

[Asker]

Oh? I didn't know that. I think a lot of girls are in the same boat as you... and your numbers are increasing! On the bright side you can laid easily :D

[Takada]

If I had the sex drive of a guy, I would be ecstatic. But getting laid easily isn't really something I want.

[Asker]

some studies show that women actually have a similar sex drive... though I never believed them tbh

[Takada]

Perhaps. Maybe women have the same sex drive, but are more picky with whom they indulge in it. Then I should correct it to "If I had a high sex drive".

[CommieDearest]

Guys are all over the fucking place.

Good guys are a bit harder to find.

[PhiOmega]

Not like commies, i spy a red in every household

[Illusive_Man]

That can't POSSIBLY be true , according to the "good guys" army they are EVERYWHERE

[Illusive_Man]

*sarcasm

[Anette1256]

Its really hard because girls are always looking for the ,, perfect guy"

[Asker]

so it's not hard to find an imperfect guy to get into an LTR? hmmm...

[Alexious]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHOf3s70w-c&ab_channel=enchain

i cri erytiem :'(
4eva alone :c

[Anonymous]

I'm conflicted. I really like being alone most of the time, but sometimes I think about how I really want a guy that I am so close with that we'd be together for the rest of our lives.

[Asker]

Is it hard to find such a guy?

[Opinion Owner]

For me, yes. Mostly cause I'm quite introverted, so I'm never really around any guys in order to get to know them. I also hate the getting to know each other part of a relationship, I want to go straight to being completely comfortable around each other... which is impossible. Plus, I don't believe in soulmates or anything and I know things change and people grow apart, but I'm still the type to really want to be with one person, I don't want any more than that. Most guys probably don't feel the same and I don't really like that. So, I'd have to find a guy that is the same way, which is pretty hard.

[Asker]

Well, I guess you can't have everything in life. Look on the bright side, you really like being single most of the time! :D

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but I can't stay single forever. lol

[Asker]

Yes, you can. And you will.

[Opinion Owner]

I will? Why exactly?

[Tokana]

Likewise, easier to find a chick, hard to find the right now.

[Asker]

there's no comparison between how easy it is to get laid for women or find a casual date.

[Tokana]

its easy for women to get laid, but hard for them to find a date; and the opposite is true for men. That's just my humble opinion.

[Asker]

I would humbly disagree based on my personal experience. But to each their own.

[Anonymous]

Born to this world and realize that guy is become less priority in a girls life choice. From the first to the last breath, I am still a guy. I am better to end my life storybook alone because girls never need me in this world.

[Asker]

Okay I'm just going to let you in on some basics:

1. Women want security and resources
2. Men want sex

You don't need a LTR, love, soulmate or any of that bullshit the western media has been spewing for the past few decades. Being single is far better than anything else, the more you get to know about female nature the more you will believe this. There is no Mrs. Right or whatever bullshit out there. The state is the new husband.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6SHOTHW92I

[Anonymous]

Easier to find someone to have sex with than get into a relationship.

[Asker]

So it's not hard to find a guy for an LTR?

[Anonymous]

It's easy finding a boyfriend, but hard finding the right one

[Asker]

what does that mean?

[Opinion Owner]

It means, it's not hard to find a guy, but hard to find a guy i have a good connection with. Someone who is like minded

[Asker]

You mean it's not hard to get sex and have a short term relationship, but it's hard to find a long term partner?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes that's correct

[Asker]

Is that a good or a bad thing?

[Opinion Owner]

A bad thing

[Asker]

Try your best. Don't wait, considering your age is only working against you and your future now.

[Opinion Owner]

I won't just jump into a relationship because of my age. That would end up in a disaster

[ButterSauce]

Where do these numbers come from? Interesting.

[Asker]

Hey! Thanks for your reply. I will post the links in a bit. Could you please answer my question in the mean time?

[ButterSauce]

Um... it's hard to find someone on my level most of the time. I prefer to find someone i can connect with in the long run. Being single is fine too though.

[Asker]

I love being single! As long as I can get sex from time to time... heh heh

[Shantishanti]

Its really hard to find a GOOD guy.

[Asker]

What does that even mean?

[MrBubbles]

I'm a good guy. ;) We do exist. I don't think I'm being arrogant or conceited.

[Shantishanti]

Well, the majority of the world population is bad. And women are more than men so, its really hard to find a good guy as a woman;)

[Asker]

Oh and you're good? lol and by the way, under 40, there are more men than women.

[Shantishanti]

I dont say that Im good;)

[PhiOmega]

Running round pinching nerves bro :P

[Asker]

Wham! Bam! Thank you ma'am!

[PhiOmega]

Lols :P

[Anonymous]

Us guys just aren't good enough.

[tyber1]

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