Girls, why do girls take longer to develop feelings for a guy even after 1 year?

[Anonymous]

I never understood why girls take longer to like a guy. Is it because of some sort of emotional damage of past experiences with guys. I personally think it's because she's not digging the guy, she's bored, playing with different emotions of different guys and assuming grass is always greener on the other side concept. To any girl reading this, if you find a decent looking guy whos handsome, educated, ambitious, hard working, will care for you and your family, doesn't party/doesn't drink/doesn't do drugs/doesn't or hasn't slept around, overall a hard working/loving guy. If that guy is not good enough for her, that's not a he problem that's a her problem. As a guy, I'll stick up for guys who work hard and are loyal. I just think a lot girls these days are emotional, not honest, not loyal and it's getting tougher for me to respect girls. I have never met a girl worth respecting because her true colours eventually shows.

[BrightBubblyKat]

Well, maybe you’re mixing with the wrong crowd.

[Asker]

That seems to be the common theme that any girl single has a warning label attached to her

[BrightBubblyKat]

That’s really cynical. I could say the same about most of the single guys I’ve known over the years. There are good people in the world too, though.

[Asker]

Every day I wake up and I see people for who they are. Something inside of me died a bit with how fake people are. I’m just keeping it real.

[BrightBubblyKat]

I’d say you’re mixing with the wrong types.

[Asker]

I don’t drink, I don’t do drugs, I don’t go to clubs, I never slept around, so what crowds am I mixing with if im meeting majority girls online who view themselves as “good girls” they aren’t.

[BrightBubblyKat]

You need to mix in friend groups. Meet girls that way.

[Asker]

I cut off “friends” who got into bad things, or used me and moved on, seriously that suggestion is pointless. People aren’t looking for the well being of others, it’s fake and lies. I’ve accepted that.

[BrightBubblyKat]

Well, I guess I can’t change your mind, so there’s no point in bothering.

[Asker]

I see the world for what it is and what i experienced. I've noticed young women are emotionally broken from past experiences with guys and assume all guys are the same. I kinda feel the same way but from a guys POV on women. You may not care or say I'm wrong, that's fine, but I will stand true to my word. I just wasted 10 months of my life on a girl who I didn't know, follow me on Instagram, respond to my DM's/texts quickly, her asking to meet up for future plans and going to different events, sending memes, basically to give mixed signals later on and going hot/cold. I can't stand that. You wouldn't want a guy to act hot/cold and that's normalized in the media, movies, books, magazines to go hot/cold so im tired of the BS.

[BrightBubblyKat]

It’s happened to me too. It’s a matter of how much you want to get married. If you do, rise above a few bad experiences and keep trying, but don’t make it your number one priority.

[Anonymous]

We have more to lose if it doesn't work out.

[Asker]

How do you have more to lose?