Just because girls want to be allowed more freedoms doesn't mean they aren't still a bit old fashioed or that they don't like chivalry. And, no, that does not mean girls can't or don't ask guys out. I know a few girls who have done the asking. What men don't realize is that women are ruled by emotions and they like to know that a guy really likes them. Girls want to feel wanted. Guys pursuing them gives them that validation. It is not a bad thing in either case. Like I said, there are plenty of girls who do the asking. Not all are comfortable with that or may not want to be the one to ask.
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I guess girls don't approach guys first is because we really didn't have civil rights back then and it was seen as rude a aggressive if a girl asked the guy out. Also when girls ask guys out of makes them seem desperate. But now that the view of girls has changed I think more and more girls are asking guys out so don't worry about just guys asking girl out.
I don't know, gender roles constructed that whole thing.
i dont mind following this one tho lol, id be terrified to approach a guy. i guess i dont like doing it because i dont want to look desperate or risk being rejected.
In my experience women usually make the first move. Ok, that 'move' is usually more subtle than outright asking him out, but more often that not when a guy asks a girl out she's already made it pretty clear that's what she wants him to do.
Women are usually the initiators of relationships, because they are more emotionally intelligent than most of us guys could hope to be, all we have to do is kearn to pick up on their signals.
No one wants to do it, or very few people want to do it I should say. Men do it because when we don't... we often won't get any ladies at all. Women don't have that problem. In short, it's not necessary that they do it. Rejection sucks for everyone equally, ladies can just get by with less of it in that regard.
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I think there are many reasons. It's the norm, many don't feel the need to do it, but also slut-shaming.
Guys who slut-shame women are really dumb in my opinion, because one of the effects is that it makes women afraid of being too forward. So it hits those guys like a boomerang. I understand that maybe they feel like all the other guys are getting the women anyway, but still. Don't shoot yourself in the foot :)It IS unfair. I think it's just our primitive instincts. Just look at wild animals. In the wild, most of the time not always, the male hunts the females down
I approach guys all the time... I never heard of that one before. But girls like to be chased rather than having to chase after a guy. That's dudes work.
Shyness, fear of rejection, looking desperate, basically the same fears we as guys have when it comes to the whole matter.
Because man shouldn't be a pussy to approach and tell the girls exactly what they want.
Nawww.. scared of approaching a GIRRRLLL? We're gonna bite your arm off? Haha :p why can't men be men nowadays? always complaining, almost sounding like a girl.
If he's a shy person I'll make the first move , but I he's not I'll wait till he does & if he doesn't then ill do it. But some girls are shy to do the first move it depends on the girl in my opinion
Cause I've been rejected way too many times and now I let the guys come to me
We're just used to guys making the first move so we rarely do it ourselves.
Part of the reason is the fear of rejection. Part of it is societal standards.
Same reasons why guys dont dare to approach girls
Because they don't have to.
I approached a guy before
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