How can I get a white girl if I am Asian?

[Dust_Devil]

By Asian I mean Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Filipino etc.

I am a 19 year old Asian, born and raised in the UK and I have really only liked white girls. To me, they're the exotic looking ones. But I always hear them say things like "I don't find Oriental guys attractive". It makes me feel sad and anxious. They tend to go for black guys which is why I am jealous of black guys.

What do I do? I am willing do anything I possibly can. I would even go to the USA if I have to because my cousins over there say girls love "British accents".

[purifiedwater]

Well, I don't think it's your looks, at least it wouldn't be for me. You look cute to me. (I don't mean you look like a puppy dog or anything, I mean man cute. It's the shorter term for "good-looking" in my book.) However, the way you're looking away from the camera seems to say "I have low self-esteem! I'm shy!"

To be perfectly honest, those are both negatives for lots and lots of girls, including myself.

Asian guys have a bad image as being effeminate and having no confidence and stuff, even though I'm sure they aren't all like that. Those girls probably have a set Asian man stereotype like that in their minds that they need to GET OVER. Me, I personally find Asian guys waaaaay better looking that blacks.

First thing you need to do is build up your confidence. For every one thing you dislike about yourself, you have to come up with at least 2 things you do like. Personality and physical looks. Shatter the stereotype, if you fall into it. Prove to those narrow-minded girls that you aren't what they think you are.

Identify what you don't like, and work on it.

It's what I did, and it worked! I was always down cause no guy, red, white, yellow, black, or purple with polka dots, ever liked me. When I started acting more confident, and began to take better care of myself, I got a lot more positive attention. ;)

Be. sure. to. SMILE! :) If ya don't like your smile (mine didn't look like a smile, it was more like a box..), try and smile in a way you like. It'll become natural with practice.

Seriously, I have to stop myself from crushing on my friend just because of how cute his smile is, and he's shy!

So yes, smiles are golden.

And, yes, we American girls love a "British accent." (though, I've always called it an English accent, guess I was wrong.) I watch the Harry Potter films halfway for hearing the guys talk. It's just so different from anything over here! Charlieissocoollike from YouTube probably gets a good deal of views just for the adorable accent.

Some girls are just racist, and just won't like you for that reason. There are some rare ones like me though that like Asians! Asians tend to not like me though, since I stand at 5'7 and 1/2, which is taller than a lot of them..

Sorry that this is so long. :/ If there's something you want clarification on, or if I didn't answer properly, please tell me. :)

I wanna help however I can.

[chc0009]

I resent that. I'm Asian and I stand 6'2" tall. Not all Asians are short.

[Bethany_21]

Excuse me we dont go for black guyz for there looks I promise they r ugly but girls are selfish and get a high from orgasms just like guys imagine u jacking off and then when u are about to cum just stop. Sucks dont it that's how we feel when we have sex with Asian and white guys just baby dicks suck. A black man has a penis size of 8 inches and up and when white girls find out a black man can make them cum on every stroke they can be as ugly as hell but IT IS THEIR BIG DICKS WE LOVE !!! WHY DONT YOU WHITE AND Asian BOYS UNDERSTAND THAT !!! BUT WE WILL TAKE YOUR MONEY !!!

[Bethany_21]

Well I think the reason is white men kept white girls away from black men because they knew that if we seen their dicks we would no longer want the white man so they started a thing called segregation because the white man is so scared of the black man just like all us white girls have that dad that says dont be a N**** Lover and threaten us with punishment. To be honest I found out 7 years ago y , my dad would always act like he had a big dick which his is the only one I ever seen I always thought it was big until I spent the night w my friend that was black and she had a brother 5 or 6 years older and when everybody went to sleep I went to the bathroom and he must have seen me and grabbed me and took me to his room I was so scared I was like 12 and he said just go w it and I remeber hun pulling out the biggest dick ever seen and he took my virginity but I was sick after wards and was bleeding out for a week cause he was so rough w me I felt like I was his enemy I just didn't like him spitting in my face while he tried to gag me w it down my throat. But I felt like a real woman when I went home the next morning I now call my dad Peanut. He dont get it. So that's y we dont date Asians cause they can't make us orgasm. I mean girls will get on here and say awww well I like red head guys or i like Asians just remeber sympathy is what girls r good at. But now u kno y 75% of white girls r w black guys like me and my friends and we live in a day and age those races white men w little baby dicks will not whisper a bad comment my way or I will have the whole country on there ass. They kept there women tight for a long time and yes that's y women back then was sexually frustrated all the time. Thank u Obama

[chc0009]

That's strange, most white women I know don't like black men. Or Middle Eastern or South Asian men, for that matter.

[coacoacorkypasta]

to be completely honest, most girls are into pretty much any type of guy, but a lot of them base there types of guys on looks. although most girls do really like a British accent if you do really want a white girl try your luck in the states and see what happens, but keep your option open, there are a lot of other girls that would go for Asian guys.

[Dust_Devil]

Yes, but it's sad that I don't know any example ='(.

[coacoacorkypasta]

Dont be discouraged you will find someone it takes time

[Dust_Devil]

Yeah well I would try almost anything to be honest. Not trying to sound desperate but, when you go your whole life being only attracted to white girls and they don't find your race attractive, you start to get anxious I guess.

[goldenheartone2]

My friend, like so many before you... Your problem is not that you are desirable to white women but subconsciously you have a problem with you your culture. I have dated many different Asian women who said they wanted a white guy because they wanted someone successful. Change your thinking, do not dislike others because they have something you do not have. Whether white women like black men because of what they packing ( big penis ) or the lifestyle and believe me it is the latter. A woman want to be able to express or be liberated without hang ups. Free your self from the hang ups and the culture and environment have taught you. Bruce Lee married a white woman long before he was famous and I am not sure if he was packing but he had a freedom about himself that attracted the girl. People will desire you when you show your worth , your ability to be open and free to life. Do not make it your only goal to seek a white woman but to seek a good woman that can satisfy your every need... Proverbs says, The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD. ( Proverbs18:22 ). Listen to your heart, do not long for vanity but the things that are of substance ( worth and importance ). Know your worth and you can attract any woman and you do not need a British accent to do so... Know your value... Women like confident and assured men who mean what they say and say what they mean... Do not let your goal to date a white woman but to date a good woman for you... How do you go about this one of my favorite authors wrote a book call ' The Art Of Loving " by Erich Fromm... I will say if you learn the principles behind love you will find that there is more to just settling for a certain woman... Happy Hunting... I wish you well...

[MrXYZI]

Your thinking way too hard about it man. Girls are girls, Black, Yellow, Blue like my balls. Girls are girls, what you need to do is learn how to be yourself more. Take a look at other cultures and try to understand what you don't like in them, so that you can appreciate what you see in the white culture. Sounds flamboyant but I'm sure it will give you a more level head when approaching ANY FEMALE. The key is confidence.

So then you want to know how to get with a white girl. I wouldn't know, white girls just seem attracted to me because I'm black. What I need to figure out his how to get with a Colombian. But see the thing is, that's something you desire and your desires are often harder to achieve. I suggest you take your head out your ass for a couple of weeks and try to get with something much more of your level. Start out light and build up. I'm not saying go for desperate but I'm saying kick it to some other girls who aren't of the white culture. Then your confidence will build up enough to put more time and effort into a white girl.

You'll be flowing like a river, she'll just have to hop into your boat. I mean, who can turn down a guy who's already been there done that.

[janelov]

Why a Colombian? Just curious lol

[MrXYZI]

Lol! Well, I don't know what it is, but I've tried talking to a couple of Colombians and they've all pretty much shut me down. Out of all the women of different cultures I've ever talked to, Colombians just seem the hardest. So yeah, that may be a possibility as to why; I just like a challenge. =)

[shf84]

Lol this is familiar to me. I was on a college campus with a LOT of girls from Japan. The white girls there all belonged to some weird ass local religion and acted like brain dead zombies. No style , no personality nothing. All these Japanese girls started showing up with this awesome Harajuku style. Most of them had short hair to which drives me nuts. However none of them found me particularly attractive they only wanted Asian guys, I guess because they had something in common with them or something. The white girls were all over me because the weird ass religion they belonged to told them they had to find a man. I ignored the sh*t out of those creepy girls and chased every Japanese girl on campus, I didn't get one but it was fun talking to them. I loved their style and the way they talked. Keep at it brother sooner or later you will probably find a white girl who likes you their not all just into black guys and white guys, the UK is a big place. You might try a singles site as well. Looking at your pic I can't EVEN see why they would turn you down they would have to be f***ing insane. You might also try the more alternative types of white girls left leaning types. Get involved with some cause you like that has those types of women involved in it like feminism or abortion rights. I'm pretty eclectic politically I'm pro gun, pro property rights etc but I'm also pro choice and a feminist so you should be able to find some left leaning thing that you like.

[sweet18]

"because they had something in common with them." hahahahhaha derrrr

[bobair]

Try being a fun cool guy who has strong social skills and strong flirting skills. It won't matter if she's white, black or purple cause she'll love you for being different than most guys.

Learn how to express your masculine nature as much as possible (leading, making strong decisions, strong faith in yourself, confidence, a desire to protect women, a desire to flirt with women, etc) Men who can walk through a room with an open smile, happy eyes, and no fear of rejection stand out and get noticed.

I find that many Asian men become too consumed with feminine expressions like fashion and superficial appearance (I live in Canada). Masculine energy isn't about such things. It's more about who you're BEING, not what you're doing.

I hope this helps...

~ Robby

My blog ( link )

[grosa94]

Well, I am from the U.S, and I must say that yes, most girls here do love british accents, but a british accent is not going to make someone fall into or out of love with you- just like being Asian or white wont. If you start off as friends with a girl that you like, get her comfortable with you until she really likes and trusts you, you might have more of a chance.

Also, just to point out- if the girls say no because you are ASIAN, those girls are superficial. A relationship cannot be based on ethnicity. It has to be based on compatability of looks (finding each other mutually attractive) AND personality.

[Capricorn]

Females are females don't let race get in your way. Some people spout ignorant things but it doesn't mean that everyone feels that way. At times girls say things as a test my asian buddy had some girls say "im not too into asian guys" but he has mad game and she got hooked onto him =)There's only a small percentage of the population who don't date a certain race or only dates a certain race. Just remember its not about race... its about how you play the game. Don't let people hurt your confidence who are they to you? Nobody. And if you fail keep trying you will only get better... trust me I know.

-Capricorn

[SmileForPink]

CONFIDENCE! Go watch the Korean Drama 'Boys Over Flower'. Study the character Gu Jun Pyo and watch the way he acts (just don't be a JERK like he was... even though for him it was cute...) Now, take the positive confidence that he exudes and use it to your advantage! I fell soooo freeaaaking hard for Lee Min Ho after watching the WHOLE series :)) But honestly, the character played by Kim Sang Bum (Yi Jeong) was extremely handsome in his personality as well (I fell even harder for him) so try to take his confidence and use it for you too! (Just don't be a womanizer like he was, just use his confidence). I swear, the extreme amounts of confidence these two have in the show are like drugs for girls: They addict us and make us fall head over heels! Plus, you're Asian, you've got it maaade :))

[sonic241928]

By putting yourself out there and talking to as many white girls as you can. You can't generalize all girls of a particular ethnicity...there WILL be some willing to date you. Don't let your emotions get in the way just because a few shallow girls said they don't like Asian guys. On that note too, try not to limit yourself. You can't help but be attracted to certain physical types, but don't rule out girls of other ethnicities, even if only as friends. Keep in mind, open-minded attract open-minded people. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

"But I am not one of those Asian who is into my culture. I don't even speak my parent's native language so I guess that's a good start."

Why is that a good start? You're Asian, you should be proud of what you are, not try to hide that fact and run away from it.

For me, I find it a turn off when someone tries very hard to deny what they are. I'm not saying you should run around dressed in traditional clothing and speaking whatever language your parents speak, but also don't purposely run away from it.

And from my experience, people tend to stick to their own race. It's not intentional I'm sure, but that's just the way it always seem to turn out.

[Dust_Devil]

Because if a white girl thinks I am into my culture, they might think that I expect them to be submissive and cook and clean for me. But since I am not into my culture at all, there is no cultural gap. So that's why it's a good thing.

[Opinion Owner]

That doesn't make sense to me because I find it hard to believe that all asian women do those things. I don't believe that that's true for any culture in this day and age

[Dust_Devil]

Not the ones that were raised in Western countries. But the ones that were raised in an East or South East Asian countries do tend to be more culturally submisive.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see. I guess I never really considered that

[haleylynn]

I personally find Asian guys very attractive.

If they girls don't like you, forget about them.

You shouldnt dislike yourself, or be jealous of another race just because some girls don't like you.

Be yourself, don't put a lot of effort into finding "the right girl" just let it happen.

Ohh btw if you came to the U.S. looking the way you do with your accent, girls would be coming at you like crazy.

[Dust_Devil]

Thanks =)

[MadsB]

omg. I WISH I could get Asian guys to hit on me - personally I have a thing for Asians, and was kinda bummed out when I lived in the UK, as the Asian guys there only seemed interested in tiny Asian girls (weirdly enough though, I'm tiny myself, 5"2, 100lb, with a very VERY pale skin tone and what everyone refers to as 'Oriental looking eyes' ... yeah, weird) anyway, the point is, I don't think black dudes are hot, for me its Asians (especially Japanese), then Latinos. oh, and then Caucasian.

you're making a gross generalization, and that mindset is your greatest enemy at this point.

if I were younger and still living in the UK, I'd prove you wrong ;p

[luverzya]

You're really cute, I'm whtie...look at my profile and pic...i would date you...but...nevermind...and we don't go for black guys...we mostly go for tan guys or any guy that we like...dont feel bad or jealous...and yes we love british accents. you should talk with me some time..you seem like a nice person. :)

[eithyy]

All white women do not love black guys. Just because you may have heard some say that and many of the girls on here seem to say that does not mean it is true of all white women. Those who you've seen say that are only a small percentage of all the white women there are out there. Don't generalize, and don't worry. There are plenty of girls who love asians. Even my best friend is one of them! You'll find someone who likes you for you in time.

[Dust_Devil]

"Some"? When asked about black guys most reply with "black guys are soo hot" or something similar. Hardly any white girls would say it about Asian guys.

I know I shouldn't generalise, but let's be honest, if this question was about black guys, most white girls would say how hot they are instead of this "race doesn't matter" nonsense.

[Renee16]

ya if those girls say that then they are crazy I love asians they are soo cute and I love there accents its different and cute when they speak but truthfully it would probably would be best to come to the U.S.A to get white girls shoot I would probably date you lol

[Dust_Devil]

Accents? You mean the ones who can barely speak English?

[Renee16]

Yes that's what I mean the ones that barely speak english I have lived with african people before and I loved there accents

[sbeth144]

you can easily get any girl! Yeah people have preferences but any girl that's worthwhile would like any guy that she clicks with regardless of race. I think I've had crushes on every type of guy out there! And I have a crush on an Asian guy at my school. Not BECAUSE he's Asian but because I really think he's handsome. You are a good lookin' guy and once you know that and you show your confidence, girls will be drawn to you.

[Dust_Devil]

Thanks. But I keep hearing white girls say they don't find Orientals attractive. Plus they always say how they like black guys. So obviously my confidence isn't actually high when it comes to getting white girls.

[chnseboi35]

Ok. Granted this video exaggerates it, but it's based off some rather true observations. Don't think that I'm trying to discourage you more because at the end of the video there's actually a good life lesson not just about being asian and going for white girls, but for anything you do.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOyRWuklsiQ

The video is called Yellow Fever.

[Dust_Devil]

I have seen that video maybe a year ago. I don't remember any life lesson. Exept the black guy gets the girl in the end.

[chnseboi35]

It's the scene where the asian guy is talking to the indian guy. Essentially the life lesson is to just be confident in yourself. That's really the key to anything you do.

Girls like confident men. It shows that you're not afraid of being yourself, and that's really what they're looking to find out about you: who you really are. Being confident lets you express who you are to them and they like that because you're not afraid to do so.

[the_cheshire_cat]

OMG... honey... my 'perfect' man would be an asian with a british accent... seriously.

As to how to get a white girl... just be yourself... gosh knows it's hard enough to find someone true and lasting to love without any physical restrictions, but good luck with your search. There is someone for everyone out there.

[Dust_Devil]

Thanks =)

[Anonymous]

Just not the right girls. Not all white girls like black guys - I don't, for one, not because I'm racist, I just don't attract. One of my friends has a preference for Mexican men, I have a preference for Middle-Eastern men or white men. Some do for Italians. A lot of my friends actually have a preference for Asian guys anyway and always complain because none go to our school xD What do you do? Look for the right girl. Wait if you have to, get to know a girl for her personality and she for your personality and race won't matter.

[newprecedent]

Be confident with who you are terms of your individual personality, not just your racial heritage. I'm a halfie but most of the time I don't like guys for the sake of being either white or Asian. Once white girls get to know your personality they won't mentally distinguish you as being 'Oriental'.

[Dust_Devil]

"Oriental" is actually the term used for East and South East Asians in the UK. But I thought I would just use the word Asian for the question because most people on this site are not from the UK.

[newprecedent]

Oh ok. in AUS it's a bit offensive to refer to Asian people as Oriental.

[flyboy_o3]

Its not offensive to call asians oriental? They call their own food oriental sometimes..smh, ignorant.

[newprecedent]

It's simply a cultural cliche. In England if you refer to a mixed race person as 'half cast' it is deemed very insulting, yet over here no one seems to mind that term. And yes, in Aussie culture the word 'oriental' for an Asian has connotations of being nothing more than an exoticized object. But who cares, the issue is whether these white girls are actually racist against Asians or not.

[fairy011]

Actually I'm white (and I mean white, too...I'm extremely pale lol) and I find many Asian guys to be very attractive. In fact, I think I might prefer them over any other type of guy. And for the record, I'm not being racist or anything, but I never go for black guys. I just don't find them attractive. So no worries :) Just keep looking, you're bound to find the type of girl you want at some point. Just be open to people, smile, and overall, just be yourself. Good luck :)

[ayaperez]

Hey, don't be sad. You don't have to go an extra mile or do anything just to please or be liked back. Be yourself and make people realize that there's more to what meets the eye. I'm sure there's that one person who will like you for who you are - you just have to wait. Don't worry yourself much, okay? Enjoy life as it is and be happy! (",

[Veruschka]

hell yea... come to america... especially california. all my exes have been asian, and a majority of guys I've dated. I prefer asian or white myself. but honestly it used to be odd to see a white woman with an asian man, but it has become so common now people really don't think about it.

your accent will help a lot too! an asian with a british accent is like... whoooaaa so exotic to us! LOL