Girls, Im try to figure out how to tell the girl im seeing that I wanna try pegging with her. Any Ideas? How would you react if a guy told you that?

[Anonymous]

[JaniyaRose]

I was asked that by my first boyfriend, and I admit I reacted badly. I kind of re-coiled and was confused, and he never asked me again. In all fairness though, I was a virgin at the time and had never even heard of a straight guy wanting something like that. And I wasn't even sure if I was going to have sex with this guy at all, let alone branch out into things like pegging.

Nothing came of him telling me that, but thinking back he probably still wanted that from me but was just too afraid to ever bring it up again. All I can recommend is that you make sure you're in a comfortable place with this girl sexually before you ask. If you're still getting used to each other (or in my case haven't even had sex yet), then wait until you're both emotionally in a place where you feel safe with each other in the bedroom.

And when you do ask her, have answers ready for her questions. Because I can guarantee there will be questions. "Why would you want such a thing?", "How would something like that even work?", "Does this mean you're gay?". Anticipate what questions she might ask, and have the answers ready in your head. You need to be able to set her at ease while at the same time show her that this is something that you've put a lot of thought into.

Also, make sure you assure her that you'll get the proper equipment. My ex had just talked about me sticking my fingers up his ass and that completely turned me off the idea of it.

[Asker]

Do you think it would be something women in general would enjoy?

[JaniyaRose]

I don't know. Me personally, I think I'd find it odd. And enjoy doesn't feel like it should apply as there's only stimulation happening to the man at that point, not the woman. But on the other hand women often enjoy giving blow jobs to their partners, not because women find giving the act itself pleasurable, but because they enjoy pleasing their partner and having control over that pleasure. So in that sense, maybe some women would find it enjoyable.

Again, I've never actually done it so I can't speak from any experience. Even though I find the idea odd now, for all I know I might enjoy it if my partner found it enjoyable enough.

[Anonymous]

lol well here's a point of view for you, obviously older gen but i wouldn't have a clue what you meant? so id have to ask you slightly embarrassed and anxious exactly what it was...

[Asker]

When the guy gets fucked by his partner with a strap-on

[Opinion Owner]

i think if this came out of the blue without any prior off the kinda normal sexual intimacy it could be quite a shock.. i think the female would more likely have to be quite a strong personality to full fill the dominant type role and understand her partners desires and where they are coming from.. is this something that has ever entered your mind as an idea/desire? i believe its quite common even if not discussed...

[slatyb]

Ask her. If you can't ask, then she's not the girl for you. If she reacts with disgust or anger, she's probably not the girl for you. Presumably you got some idea of how open-minded she is when you started having sex with her.

[Asker]

Its a fairly new relationship.

[slatyb]

If you hoping this will be a long-term thing, you just have to talk about sex, and the sooner the better. You don't want to spend a year together, then bring up your desires and then find out that she's a vanilla girl.