Girls, Why doesn't she text me first?

[Anonymous]

I've been texting to this girl for couple of weeks and she sends snapchats to my friend asking about me and talking about me. In the beginning she sometimes started conversations but now it's always me that starts the conversations. She doesn't even try to make an eye contact with me in school but talks to plenty of boys in my school. Why doesn't she text me first anymore? I have problems with over thinking so this is slowly killing me.

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Yes, everytime we talk she seems interested and compliments me and sends a lot of emoticons.

[cassidyleora]

Depending on the age, she might just be shy. I know it doesn't make sense, but up until last year, I wouldn't even LOOK at the guy I was interested in because I was scared to death that he'd know I had a crush on him and then he'd be creeped out by me, and then I'd loose all of my chances of ever being in a relationship with him. It was easier for me to talk to guys that I wasn't interested in than the guy that I was interested in. Feelings are a really weird business.

What I would suggest is, slowly start taking steps back. Stop liking all of her photos on instagram, or all of her tweets on twitter. Then she might see that something is up. Then, slowly stop starting conversations and see how she reacts. If she starts up stuff again, it usually means she's realizing what she's doing isn't working out, she needs to make the fact that she has feelings for you more obvious, and she might be panicking a little bit. If she doesn't start conversations again, then she's probably not interested and you might have to let her go and find a new chick to like.

[ThalsTals]

I agree completely! Same opinion

[ThalsTals]

Cassidy, can you PM me please so I can get your opinion on something I need help with :)

[cassidyleora]

@ThalsTals It keeps saying that I have to be level 2 or something to message you... maybe you could try messaging me, and if that doesn't work I could give you a kik or something.

[ThalsTals]

For you it says that you only accept messages from people you follow?

[love__awqe]

I think this girl is into you and about your question
As a girl, I get her
She thinks that boys should start conversation (or she loves to know that you care and want talk to her) or she thinks that she bothers you (maybe she is insecure or shy)
If u stop texting her, she will definitely think about it, what she did wrong, why you stopped etc
And she will try to get your attention if she likes you
But dont do this for too long, if she doesn't text u first in that period, im afraid that she doesn't care, but if she is shy or insecure, she won't initiate conversation
so its not 100% convenient
but if she does, its definitely a good sign

[Anonymous]

I'm going through the exact same problem but with a guy, he says he likes me but he's never talks to me and I always start convo's with him. He apparently tries hard to see me but puts on his Snapchat "anyone free Saturday" I understand where you're coming from :( oh gosh it's tricky

[Anonymous]

i had a friend similar to this girl you're talking about. what she (girl i know) was doing was just seeing if this guy she liked was a f*ckboy, or not. so instead of saying right to him "are you a f*ckboy?" with the chance of a lie or truth being told to her, she decided to figure it out through other guys such as his friends. now i dont know if thats what she's doing, but it could be similar

[ItsAMeWeirdo]

Because she is afraid that if you text her first she can tell if your still interested plus she doesn't want to be bother to you and come off like she is obsessed with you.

[someho]

Maybe she's confused about how you feel about her and doesn't wanna end up looking desperate for chasing you. I also don't like doing that...

[Cola7248]

She doesn't want to come off too pushy or desperate. You must remember most girls do want to scare the guy away especially if they really likes them.

[lanabananasultana]

She probably wants you to chase her. Typical girl tactics.. stop contacting her and if I am right you will see that she will start contacting you.

[ShhItsJustMe]

maybe she's one of em girls that like to make boys jealous, she sees that you're into her and uses it to perhaps make you do a bigger move?

[wicket]

she doesn't want to feel desperate like she's the one chasing you. It's just our mindset

[daniela1999]

it's kind of a thing with girls. not me but a lot of my friends won't text a guy unless they text first. it's all about insecurities on being rejected or being "left on read"

[LittleLila]

Maybe you're contacting her too often? Not giving her enough space maybe?