The way I see it, "confidence" is equivalent to "experience". Is it natural to be confident at anything you're inexperienced with?
When you were first learning how to drive, were you a confident driver? No, but after driving for 10 years, you're probably pretty confident. If you were confident the first time you got behind a wheel, you probably crashed your dad's car.
So "confidence with women" is really the same thing as "experience with women", unless you're fool-hardy or faking it.
Is that really what women are looking for? Experienced guys? Does the fact that a guy has been in many relationships increase the chance that his relationship with you will last? Or do women just want guys who aren't experienced to force themselves to look confident, when it isn't even natural to feel that way?
Finally, a guy being "confident with women" says nothing about his confidence in other areas. There are plenty of guys who are confident with women who don't even have a job.
Look at Bill Gates, who is very confident with business (and arguably the most successful entrepreneur in the world) but obviously not confident with women. He only dated one girl his entire life, and he didn't meet her until he was nearly 40.
Isn't that a tad condescending?
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