Men being jerks. Girls, why do you love it so much?

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just a question I'm usually the nice guy/'badass' guy if you had to stereotype me well apparently I'm not nice at all but anyway

ladies what makes 'assholes' so attractive and why do you always go for them just out of curiosity :)

ladies if you got previous experiences please go ahead and tell me them ha ha

oh and what is your ideal guy in terms of personality ?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because girls often mistake you being a jerk as being an alpha male and we put up with that, for a bit. Then we get sick of you being a jerk, though some girls can really hang in there, and we drop you like a bad habit or you drop us because, well, you are a jerk. Girls definitely want a confident guy, a guy who seems like he could protect us, and many of us confuse that with a guy being an a-hole.

I would not call my last major relationship a total jerk, but he was very self-centered and struggled to do right by friends, family and me because he was so focused on his needs. He was a jerk to a lot of women before me, for sure, but at least he never lied to them and said he loved them or wanted a relationship. I feel bad for him because he will pay a price in the long run. The only people he puts any effort into is his parents and partly that is because it is important in his family and one of the things he hasn't really pushed aside for his own needs. But parents don't live forever.

My ideal guy is the guy I always wanted but was never told I could have. He is a guy who really listens to me, but isn't a pushover. A guy who thinks I am something else, but doesn't follow me around like a puppy dog. A guy who wants to be with me, but has his own life too. So, I have that guy now and I am so glad I woke up to getting away from wanting a jerk.

alliebeatbama · Accepted Answer

jerks usually have more confidence and ask girls out more, and are usually very attractive.

I dated a jerk and still have a lot of feelings for him because I enjoyed his honesty. Even though sometimes the things he said hurt I always knew what was going on because he didn't sugar coat things. I like honesty alot.

Ideal personality for me would be someone just like my dad: loves his family, funny, hardworking, shows his love through acts of service, honest but in the kindest way possible (for ex. if I were to ask "do I look fat in this outfit?" a good answer would be "it doesn't make you look as thin as you are". this would be true but not hurtful in the way its phrased. I love someone who is very wise with his money but knows its okay to splurge sometimes.

Reeses-pieces777 · Accepted Answer

I went out with a jerk the first relationship I had. I learnt not to associate with that type of individual. A guy can be a jerk all he wants and I'll just be a jerk back. I don't date jerks. it's because sometimes girls are niave. I was niave, not anymore. I ask questions. I will get to know the guy for who he really is. if he lies to me about something major, he's out the door. I don't put up with bullcrap. that's how it should be. no bullcrap in relationships=good  relationship.

ArtieKid2234 · Accepted Answer

hey man, it sucks doesn't it, I'm 14 and I have never had a girlfriend, I have been the one to be a bit shy to talk face to face with a girl I think is pretty, but if a girl was ever gets hurt... instant reaction I would try to help out in anyway... I have seen many questions of wiki and yahoo answers about poeple saying toughen the f*** up an d get some confidence, and stuff like girls don't like a nice guy (i'm one of those nice guys) who will be too nice to stand up for them or protect them. if I was ever an arsehole to a girl... it would pretty much be like a knife to the gut. I have an oath that I will look after people mainly girls. I just wish girls noticed me... well mate good luck with this.

markacealps · Accepted Answer

Hi I am say so, girls always like guys in terms of personality who matche with there personality. She will always like to have a guy who has same kind of ways to lead the life like she has to make an acceptable pair. Ones look, life standard and way of talking cool fashionable outfits, brand stuffs also attracts the girls.

Girls always want someone like them but diff. in approach from her general group.

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Wassup · Answer

To girls Assholes look like they have more balls than nice guys. But assholes don't respect girls and that's what girls don't like about them. Nice guys are seen as more girly to girls. Girls want a guy who respects them, but they want them to have the balls to stand up to the other assholes out there and to act like a man toward the girl. Girls want a guy that has a median between the two.

jeeperss · Answer

i dislike assholes. I don't like the bad boy attitude, nor the jerk attitude. or the arrogant and cocky. all 3 are a major turn off to me.

but if you want a reason why, it's because (and I had a question about this a while back), a lot of girls love the fantasy of having such a guy fall for them, and change for them. which is reality 0.1% of the time.

steffany · Answer

i love bad boys(: there my favorite.. any guy I go for is naughty. Nice guys are usually boring and don't keep me interested, I love guys that take risks and are wild like me. Bad boys do carry around tons of drama but I can handle it. Personality wise I love when guys can make me laugh, they gotta have a sense of humor!

adiobabe999 · Answer

asswholes sometimes hide their true selfs. its after you get into a relationship with them that their true sides show. that's what sucks because after that ur usually in to far. and it makes you feel like you have no choice 2 stay with him.

Anonymous · Answer

its not that I like jerks, its just that a lot of guys think there are only 3 options. the hot jerk the quiet guy who doesn't show interest and seems like he's neutral/indifferent to you or the guy you're not into. I like guys that have confidence and can stand up for themselves not a guy that's weak

Anonymous · Answer

bad boys always have this whole "I'm messed up and interesting" vibe going on I recently watched "heathers" and "watchmen" and realized how hot I found JD from heathers and Rorschach from watchmen then I was like wait that's messed up they are both raging sociopaths, but then again its in a cute you want them to win because they take down bad guys kind of way.

ashleynatasha · Answer

Well its always human nature to want someone that doesn't want you!Some women get treated bad because they don't think they deserve better!Eventually we all go for nice guys in the end after we learn other wise!

bohunk89 · Answer

because women like "confidence"  I think this is somewhat true, but I think it's because women are shallow and like good looking guys,and most really hot guys are jerks, at least in my experience.

xofyrefly · Answer

Because we like guys who can protect us and who have confidence. Usually, we are then attracted to those who act like jerks. Some of the guys who are jerks, are just jerks and we break up with them shortly after we realize this. And then there are those who act like "jerks" but when you are alone with them, they are not. Confidence is the key though.

Xenophobia · Answer

cause girls want dramatic stories to talk about...otherwise there lives would be boring with out talking about other people

Anonymous · Answer

Bad boys are amazing! They know if they treat a girl mean, it keeps them keen. I don't know why it works fully my self but it does. Its not that we want to be treated badly in anyway, I think that it does have more to do with us wanting to help change the lads views. Its a challenge, good boys arnt like that at all. Plus the whole over the top love after two days or what ever makes me cringe... and that never lasts neither.

Anonymous · Answer

Women want outgoing people.  "Jerks" tend to have charisma, making them outgoing people.  Sometimes, women want to be dominated.  That's why they belong in the kitchen.

learningtofly · Answer

Assholes are attractive because they're confident and go after what they want.

That's it. Honestly I would go for a nice boy if he had the BALLS to initiate things--otherwise, he gets put in the friend zone.

Anonymous · Answer

To me, it is not the Jerk-ness we like. It is the attention we like. Usually the guys who are brave enough to talk to us girls are jerks.

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