Do guys like it when girls vent to them?

[Anonymous]

This guy said to me "if you ever need to vent, you can talk to me." But I've always known that guys hate it when a woman "vents to him". Im not sure exactly. I mean I kinda like him but not sure if he is even a little into me or not. Do I take his advice and vent to him or do I just keep talking to my girl friends about my life problems? I don't know what to do! I don't want to drive the guy crazy either.

[Exmorted]

I don't mind it, but as a girl you just need to be aware of one thing.

When girls vent, it's seen as a compliment to the guy because she's letting him into her life, she's depending on him to help her, but guys and girls vent for different reasons (generally).

When girls vent, generally they just want something off of their minds, they just want to get a frustration out and then get some empathy or sympathy, some talking and someone who's there, you know? it's to get out the frustration.

When men vent, it's because we have a problem which needs solving. We pretty much only vent when we need help, like actually need help. We don't need sympathy or a hug, we don't need someone to just listen, we need someone to take action and help with an issue.

[Panay]

I'd slightly disagree, in that I do occasionally vent for the reasons you said girls do, but otherwise spot on

[Exmorted]

@Panay It's also just a general rule, of course there will be outliers :)

[Panay]

Ah fair enough, guess I'm an outlier :)

[Exmorted]

@Panay I don't think it's a special kind of people that makes outliers, but instances.

You might (i don't know, so I'm just assuming) ask because you need help the majority of the time, but there will of course be instances where you ask just to vent.
That's how it is with me. I mostly ask just because I need help with an issue, but sometimes (very rare) because I need to just vent.

[Panay]

Yep that's pretty much how it is with me

[GingerGuy]

I'm guessing he likes you if he said that. He wants you to talk to him and if it's by venting to him, then vent away. Generally though, some guys don't mind and others do. It depends on the guy. A lot of the time guys will want to "fix" your problems though and then frustration sets in because you aren't looking for him to fix it, you just want to vent.

[Anonymous]

I am starting to hate it whenever people vent in general.
I've been patient for a pretty long time with friends and acquaintances.
... Then again, why the hell do I still use this website?
Probably a compulsion.

[Admmck81]

It's nice to know a girl trusts me enough to vent. It's also great when they let me vent to them. But that being said, if it's because she's self absorbed, or if she's frequently venting about things that truly shouldn't be upsetting her that much, it bothers me. I do like being the confidant, but please learn the difference between a legitimate crisis and petty issues.

[Asker]

I know the difference. Trust me. Mostly just caught off guard when he offered a venting session lol. He's been a little more open towards me but we don't hang out much, if at all. So Im confused on what exactly this friendship even is. Or if it would ever go anywhere you know? Don't want to be annoying.

[FakeName123]

There is a difference between venting and "mimimimimi" all the way through.

If something truly concerns you and you want someone to listen while also giving his input, rant away. Do you just want to bitch about your co-worker and whatnot and gaining sympathy instead of trying to find a solution? Go to your female friends.

[Panay]

It shows they trust me, and care about my opinion if they're asking for advice. If they're getting unnecessarily worked up about something pretty minor I'd still listen but I might find it a bit pathetic.
But if it's a legitimate issue then it's nice they're choosing me to confide in, and I'll help however I can, even if it's just by giving them a hug and some reassurance.

[MajesticWeasel]

Well, you can choose to talk about your problems with whomever you want, thats your choice. If you like the guy and want him to like you than vent on him to let him known you were listening and want him to listen to you. I have a girl I text a lot and I have told here a couple times that she can talk about aything with me/vent on me/or ask me advice on anything, and she has before.

[reptocarl]

That's a thing guys do when they like a woman. They try to get close as friends first and that's one way

[Asker]

But he doesn't really talk to me otherwise unless I start the conversations. So is this normal for guys? haha. I suck at reading men honestly!

[reptocarl]

He doesn't want to seem pushy

[Asker]

Good point. Thanks ! Ill just have to try harder and be buddies :)

[cth96190]

No, because being used as an emotional tampon means that I am in the Friend Zone, which is a place of desolation from which no man returns.

[Phoenix98]

To a degree yes and either way I am always chillingly to listen to her even if I may not want to in that moment.

[ConsultantIsBack]

I mean I'd rather be fucking her or in disney land. But yea, being a sounding board is obviously a part of life soo vent away.

[Kylesar]

Do we like it? Hell no, but sometimes we feel it necessary to listen to because we know you have problems

[lopflodin]

wouldn't bother me i dont talk much irl pro listener tho

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kind problems girls vent I guess. Too much serious stuff is a bit much to a guy. It is hard for us to find the right words sometimes. But if we like the girl then yeah we'd listen

[Asker]

Yeah this one is tricky because he's not really a talking/feeling kinda guy so i was caught off guard a little bit. Hmm..

[ToruMatsuda]

Well yes I like it, it shows she trusts me

[Walls_and_Doors]

No..