Do I have a problem, I think no one fancies me?

[Anonymous]

I have a problem thinking that no one fancies me. I am quite pretty I think, but I just can't tell if guys like me. I mean sometimes guys stare at me but that could be for any reason couldn't it. It's worse when I like a guy, I start to think I have no chance in hell with him and start to look for signs they fancy my friends. Why do you think I think like that? It makes me feel awful. Once even everyone said this boy liked me, but I honestly couldn't see it, I thought personally he liked my friend or anyone but me. Do you think I need to go therapy or something?

[Anonymous]

Tell me, do you ever feel nervous about guys? Like you can't approach them because you don't know how they feel towards you or how their view of you will change? This same thing happens with us. Some of us may be outgoing, and some of us may be more conservative; I am of the latter and I can tell you that nothing is more stressful than making the first move. For example, say this guy really did like you. How would he convey this idea if he didn't know how you feel and he didn't want to jeopardize your feelings towards him? You have to ask yourself, did you show at all that you were interested in him? If not, then who is this everyone that told you he liked you? If they were friends, then you could've taken an indirect route and told them that you like him too and to tell him the next time they see him. Once he knows that he stands a chance, he may become more confident in himself and make the first move. Hopefully this helped. :)

[zeroth88]

If your pretty enough then guys will hit on you. Its not so much the destination, but the journey (or something like that). The only way to find out if a guy likes you is by making steps to go for the guy. If it does turns out he likes one of your friends, at least you know.

[ramu77]

I think you might have a negative self-image of yourself. This would maybe explain your thoughts and feelings sometimes. If you feel that it is very serious, I'd go to therapy, I've done it myself as well and It worked out. If you don't want to go into something like therapy, maybe you should think positively of yourself more often. Maybe you could try standing in front of the mirror every morning and say something good about yourself or your looks?