Why do men hate drama?

why do men hate drama? emotionally weak girls? why is it such a turn off?

Im very fortunate to have a good network of friends and family. My first love was a really bad experience. He took his anger out on me so emotionally broke me down, and I've since developed insecurities low confidence/over sensitive etc.
Gosh this has been like therapy for me. its not fair to take it out on the next guy that comes into my life who is well meaning and wants a relationship. Thank you everyone for replying to my questions! x


Most Helpful Guy

  • wait, are you saying that you like drama?

    • No, I don't like drama, I'm actually a well rounded normal person with my friends, fmaily and colleagues....its just a problem when it comes to guys I like...see my first love was a really bad experience, and since then I lhave lacked confidence to go into relationships so unfortunately I'm over sensitive and insecure, that comes out every now and then etc...guy I like know about my past but still I think my insecurities/low self esteem put them off...what do you think?

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    • My first love was such a bad experience that I didn't date guys for 4 years!! he has since apologised to me so I have got my closure. I have met a fantastic guy who has built up so much of my confidence and so for him, I will try not to give him any shit! unfortunatley, every now and then, I panic, question his motives...poor guy! I hope you girlfriend will one day see and appreciate how much of a great boyfriend you are and try to change for you, because most guys would run a mile from that kind of a person!

    • Yeah well, I'm not counting on it. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference between the rational and irrational fears we have developed throughout our life experience. Anyone who has ever been abused would be foolish not to look out for themselves. On the other hand some behavior invites abuse... it's a fine line.

What Guys Said 7

  • Men work off of rationality. Women work off of emotion. People generally don't like things that are different, and this is no exception. Plus, all this emotion/drama rarely does any good, and just results in a lot of wasted time and effort. Some girls can't handle their emotions, and guys take it as a weakness sometimes. For guys, it is frustrating and stressful.

    I'm biased, obviously.

  • It's hard enough keeping your own life together. If you are on a track to wanting success, drama becomes a major distraction. It also saps a lot of energy and attention that could be spent on enjoying your life and all the wonderful things around you. Drama queens are stressful. Who wants that?

  • I don't know any human being that enjoys drama unless there's some kind of psychological issues there.

    Basically, a guy needs a girl who's mature and easy to get along with.

  • Someone who's emotionally weak and is just a scene requires full attention to be at the slightest, happy.

    Guys are happy to give you full attention, just not when you crave it and it rip it out of us. It's the same with anybody else. You would get pissed off if a dog kept barking or you would get frustrated if the baby kept crying all night, every night.

    It's all on a similar level.


  • here's a interesting idea

    Instead of all the drama and suspense

    Goto church and pray and let the lord work for you

    I for 1-hate drama

  • There are enough crazy things going on in this world. The last thing I want to do is date a crazy girl!


What Girls Said 3

  • i hate guys who cause drama to happen. lol, those guys are turn offs for me

  • I'm pretty sure men hate drama for the same reason that I hate drama. It's annoying, stupid, and nobody likes a cry baby. Especially if they don't have a good reason :P

  • Hell, I HATE drama and extremely weak people of BOTH genders!

    Drama is just an unnecessary, overdramatic prouction that can be totally avoided in certain situations.

    Weak people are dependent (read: CLINGY) people. Someone with lots of baggage and drama and whatnot tends to clench on to anyone who gives them an inch, and they take miles and miles.