What you are describing are insecurities you have to learn to love, accept and value yourself for what you are. Deep down you know that you posses some qualities that no other person on this said earth carries. I was like you, I haven’t overcome it as yet but I am getting there. When you let your dad’s words get to you and the way you live your life, you are not hurting anyone else but yourself. For, at the end of the day he is living his life comfortable.
Self love is crucial. Your words have power, especially over you. Whining about your problems makes you feel worse, not better. If something is wrong, don't waste time complaining. Put that effort into making the situation better. Unless you want to whine about it forever, eventually you'll have to do that. So why waste time? Fix it now.
Don't talk about what's wrong. Talk about how you'll make things better, even if that conversation is only with yourself. And do the same with your friends or colleagues.
The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Then let it go. Easier said than done? It depends on your focus. When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn't know. The past is just training; it doesn't define you.
You may just scare that guy away and end uo feeling worse and worthless. Learn to love yourself. Because this world is a reflection of ourselves. If we don't find love in our selves we won't find it outside ourselves either.
You can’t take care of yourself so you won’t be able to take care of him and like you said You won’t find his love important and you wouldn’t be happy since you are not happy with who you are how will they be happy with you?
See yourself as beautiful everyday it helps all the best
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You have to reprogram your automatic negative thoughts. Look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Fat people can definitely have sex and have babies, your father does not sound very educated IMHO.
Also it's going to be difficult to have a serious healthy relationship if you are this insecure about yourself. Get professional help, see a psychiatrist or something. Good luck love.
You should try working out at a gym. You'll develop self-confidence and put out the fat thought.
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My dad is kinda like your dad, and now I'm bullimic even though I'm considered a normal weight. I feel you girl!
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