I have been asking my boyfriend for about the same time we have decided to try for a baby. but he can't seam to give me a decent answer if he answers me at all...he wants to have a baby but he's not ready for marriage? How does that even work?honestly if I was worried about the relationship not working and being stuck with that person for an unfavorable amount of time I would definitely start with marriage to prolong having a child that would bind us for life. wouldn't that make more sense? if we end up getting a divorce and no children were conceived we would only have to worry about the occasionally uncomfortable run ins while grocery shopping or wherever, but with a child that's numerous holidays and birthdays then being there for the life changing events like their own wedding and child birthing...and everything else in between..not all events can b split up or would really b necessary to... it just makes me feel horrible as if I'm not special enough for him to want to marry and then I'm quickly confused that I'm special enough to b the mother of his children?
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I think a lot of men worry about the financial and practical commitments of marriage (both the actual wedding and support thereafter). Other men just really don't value marriage all that much. For these and other reasons a lot of men will try to bypass it altogether. Clearly it's important to you, though. Obviously you realize that having a baby with him will bind you together for life. If he's cagey about marriage I think it's fairly safe to say that he'll have little motivation to go through with it once you're in that position - and I fear that might also leave you without certain rights to child (or other) financial support in the event that the relationship didn't work out. Touch wood there'll be no problems, but you never know in life, and having a child is a huge commitment that requires you to consider such possibilities in the future. If I were you I'd put a halt on the baby making and tell your partner that it's important to you that he make a marriage commitment to you before you bring a little one in to the world.
Good luck =)1