I was with a narcissist that would stalk, do stuff to get me sick, keep me from family, etc. I was 18 and just started college and he was 36.
He wanted me to drop out of school and get pregnant less than a month of knowing me and I declined. About a year later he suggested it again and I still declined because I was still in school, no job, depending on parents, etc. I told him that having a baby with him before I’m ready would lead me to be a single mother on welfare living in the projects and I wanted more for myself. (No offense if this is your situation) He wasn’t affectionate, rough, mean, left me stood up a lot, etc so he didn’t seem like someone I’d trust to be a dad. Besides, my mom raised me alone so I know what was up.
After that he’d constantly brag about women he met that had kids and how his ex and I were the same age and she was ready because she wasn’t in school and didn’t have a job. (She would stay home to prove that she was being a good girl for him. He didn’t like women to have school or work because he thought it was disrespectful and manly.) He’d put me down, and call me demonic, wicked, and immature for not wanting to have a baby at 18 before I’m ready. After this the abuse got even worse. He purposely got me sick and would be extra abusive. He would constantly call me broke and even throw the I don’t want to be a single mom on welfare reasoning back at me. I think denying him the baby had to do with it because he’d constantly throw it back in my face that the ex wanted a baby now and she’ll be there with him and the baby etc. while he gets rid of me because I didn’t want it with him. He said many women wanted a baby with him and I was the only one to decline.
Do narcs punish you for not wanting children? Did it get worse because I didn’t want the baby? He called me broke more than even after my second time turning down getting pregnant. One time he said it 151 times in one hour to me.
He wanted me to drop out of school and get pregnant less than a month of knowing me and I declined. About a year later he suggested it again and I still declined because I was still in school, no job, depending on parents, etc. I told him that having a baby with him before I’m ready would lead me to be a single mother on welfare living in the projects and I wanted more for myself. (No offense if this is your situation) He wasn’t affectionate, rough, mean, left me stood up a lot, etc so he didn’t seem like someone I’d trust to be a dad. Besides, my mom raised me alone so I know what was up.
After that he’d constantly brag about women he met that had kids and how his ex and I were the same age and she was ready because she wasn’t in school and didn’t have a job. (She would stay home to prove that she was being a good girl for him. He didn’t like women to have school or work because he thought it was disrespectful and manly.) He’d put me down, and call me demonic, wicked, and immature for not wanting to have a baby at 18 before I’m ready. After this the abuse got even worse. He purposely got me sick and would be extra abusive. He would constantly call me broke and even throw the I don’t want to be a single mom on welfare reasoning back at me. I think denying him the baby had to do with it because he’d constantly throw it back in my face that the ex wanted a baby now and she’ll be there with him and the baby etc. while he gets rid of me because I didn’t want it with him. He said many women wanted a baby with him and I was the only one to decline.
Do narcs punish you for not wanting children? Did it get worse because I didn’t want the baby? He called me broke more than even after my second time turning down getting pregnant. One time he said it 151 times in one hour to me.
