I'm talking about for a wife, would you rather an educated, career oriented woman or a (what some might perceive as) 'subservient,' weak minded stay at home wife and mother?
Keep in mind, both women women are good wives and good mothers. They just spend their time differently. One dedicated to career, the other housework/motherhood. But they're still both wonderful mothers and wives. Or your choice might determine who is a better wife and mother.
Most Helpful Guy
Family without a doubt.
I think women need to drop this idea that gender roles work in such absolutes. Just because your a stay at home mom, or we prefer a housewife, doesn't mean yo're totally brainless and subservient. Us guys who want a housewife are not looking for a slave. We're just looking for a girl that values the family, and understands the fact that she is genetically predisposed to be the primary care giver of our children.
I don't mind my wife/gf having a career or any sort of goals for that matter. If your dream is to be a teacher, then go for it. But what I don't like is when everything gets forgotten because of that and she chooses not to have kids until she's 37. It's no different than girls not liking a guy who is so enveloped in his career that he never spends time with the family.
I also think that women have this false impression of old fashioned guys who want an old fashioned house wife. They assume that all us guys who have such a preference do so because we are lazy and are simply looking for a women to cook for us, clean up after us, and do our laundry. While obviously these things are nice, its not the driving factor. I want a traditional housewife, but I also fully intend on helping with the kids, driving them to soccer practice if I'm free, cooking dinner if my wife is busy, helping clean the house, doing my own laundry, etc.
What we really want is a girl who simply values the family unit. A girl who wants to raise her children as opposed to letting a daycare center do it. A women who understands that men and women have different strengths and should both combine those strengths in order to perform different duties that contribute to a running a healthy family, while working together as a team. A women who doesn't feel like any household chore is oppressive but instead realizes that these things need to be done, and just as she'll do it when she's available, so will I. I just simply feel that my kids will turn out better if they have a mother who can actually spend time raising them, as opposed to having two parents who work 60hrs a week, especially if we don't need the money, which is why every since I was a kid, my intention has always been to earn enough money to support my wife and kids, under the assumption that she will not work, especially when our kids are young.