I am pretty sure many followers of The Harry Potter series and such novels in English literature, do certainly come accross such terms believing it's merely some sort of pure childish fantasy.
But I insure you folks! J K Rowling has seen plenty of Dementors herself ,as well as me, she knows clearly these creatures are very present in our reality. And where they live.!
"Dementors are among the foulest creatures that walk this earth. They infest the darkest, filthiest places, they glory in decay and despair, they drain peace, hope, and happiness out of the air around them... Get too near a Dementor and every good feeling, every happy memory will be sucked out of you. If it can, the Dementor will feed on you long enough to reduce you to something like itself... soulless and evil. You will be left with nothing but the worst experiences of your life."
J K Rowling. Description of Dementors.
1-Are you one?
Do you surrender to your negative thoughts? Do you love to complain about every problem! Do you share your disappointments and your fears of the future with others, and keep your good pleasant feelings for yourself!!? How many Harry Potters have you attacked? Do you love tracing other people's nagative side? Love to trace people's odd behaviours?
Dear dementor! (The greatest odd negative behaviour is following others odd negative behaviours!)
And the simplest way to stop being a dementor is to be able to fight dementors yourself!
My friend! Being happy and positive in the worst situation, does not mean you accept it! Positivity and good vibration helps you getting out of them with the least costs.
Because FEAR, naturally shuts down the brain's abilities for critical thinking, and many other productive human energies.!
For example, in my career we had a fire fighting drill inside some sort of a caben! The people! Who could survive the scene are the ones who feared less! Basically they're older and more experienced, even if they had their oxygen cylinder empty. They could act, create alternatives! Succeed! .
And those of us who panicked! Those who thought of what worse can happen! We had troubles inside troubles inside troubles.! Trainers marked us "dead"!
And this is an important equation.
Trouble→Fear→Negativity→Another trouble→more fear→more negativity→Failure.
Kill the Dementor inside you, and dispose those around you!
I know you might feel unable! It's a skill, learn it.
2-The Patronus Charm (Expecto Patronum)
J. K. Rowling refers to it as holding your wound and think of the happiest memory in your mind and spell it!
But infortunately! It's never that easy, even in Hogwarts Harry needed a little practice! So do you!
you will have to discover your own Patronus yourself! Your way of defending your soul from negative people! The skill of maintaining your inner strength!
But NOTE ! Harry Potter used to send the dementors away! He did not kill them!
You don't have to break these people's hearts! In many cases they are victims like you!
I want you to fight the dementors inside them! Not them!
1- Respond positively! Don't shake your head to whatever might make you feel bad! Don't express your sympathy to their problems! Refer to positive possibilities! And be confident when doing so! Try to balance conversations! Whether in life or inside your head!.
2-Think of what will make you happy! This day!
If you can end up your day with pleasant things don't hesitate doing it!
Apparently! I envy those married couples, for they can always promise themselves the whole day of what pleasant move they might do in bed!
I think of reading a beautiful book and listening to beautiful music! Sometimes (I will not hide it) I like thinking my creative sexual fantasies. Although I don't think it's powerful enough! Each of you has his own way! And I think many people do that!.
3- Communicate with nature!
Mother nature! It's where you are physically! Psychologically! Designed to live! Moving away from it contributes in increasing our negative thoughts, feelings, and fear! Always give your sight the opportunity to explore wide space! To see how small you and your problems! And how many others are involved in this nasty life like you!
The sky! The stars! the wind! The animals! All are part of you! No matter how it may seem redicilous! . Avoid the 4 walls life.
I know the best dementors-buster in my life called Bob Marley ♡♡. You surely have your own. Always remember that!
So far I don't believe I am good enough teaching you how to live! How to escape the dementors.
Personalities differ from one another! And each of you might have different Patronus! Many might be good in theirs!
Whoever can't fight back for his positive spirit, I think he might knew the approach of doing that.
I wish you and myself happy successful lives. :)