Why is awkwardness a turn off for people? Are you awkward?

So i can come off a bit awkwardly in person. Its just always been part of my personality.

yet i know it can turn people off. Why is it so?

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Most Helpful Girl

  • It turns people off because someone else's awkward vibes can make you feel awkward and therefore take away the potential of pleasantness for the situation.

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    • I try to fake it at least but it still happens. How do i stop giving people those vibes?

    • Honestly, I used to be awkward, but I now hide effectively behind humor. If I do something awkward I turn it into a joke. That's just what worked for me personally.

    • Yeah i do that too lol

Most Helpful Guy

  • Awkwardness makes people uncomfortable, that's why it's a turn off.
    I wouldn't consider myself awkward, but I can get awkward sometimes, if I'm like really off.

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What Girls Said 24

  • I don't find awkwardness to be a turn-off. It's actually pretty endearing to see a guy visibly awkward, though I say 'awkward' within reason.

    Awkward does not mean struggling to put sentences together because he's super nervous, or completely removing himself from social situations. Awkward, to me, means when a guy is doing/saying things I know he hates but to save face in terms of how weird it'd seem otherwise, he has to act completely different. So on the outside he's all peachy keen, cool as a cucumber, but I know he's dying inside. (figuratively speaking)

    Or in respect to people I'm not dating..
    one example that comes to mind is when we had to give presentations for end of sem. Many would be obviously nervous, like all fidgety and stuff, or rushing through their speech. I didn't see that as a turn off for the guys, though. We all get nervous, or 99% of us do. So when I saw that that more human side of them peeking through, it made me feel like we're on the same page. Another level on which I could relate to them.

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  • Awkward?
    Nope, I just keep talking and making conversation until I find something they like too much. They get to talking aaaand relax a bit. ^.^

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  • Being awkward is fine to an extent. It can be cute to some people really. However, it can get to the point where it makes the other person feel awkward and uncomfortable as well. They might not know exactly how you feel or what you're even trying to say, hah.

    I know I'm awkward, but oh well. I try to be nice to everyone and make it work for me that way.

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  • I don't find awkwardness a turn off, I think it's adorable. My boyfriend and I are both awkaward 😞😋😋

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  • Someone who is giving off awkward vibes is kind of like when you hear a sound that is extremely off. It makes you cringe so much on the inside while trying to endure what you are hearing. At least that's how I feel when I'm coming off as awkward to people.

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  • I'm not awkward. It's only awkward if there was an uncomfortable issue before, trying to get back to normal can be hard but that's the only reason I feel awkward

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  • A little awkward never hurt nobody :) I'm a little awkward, I don't care if a guy is. I think it's kinda cute, as long as he treats me good, awesomesauce. And I love my awkward friends too.

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  • Not really! lol You just got believe your shit and everything follows in to place!

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  • I'm pretty awkward. I guess awkwardness is a turn off because it tends to set others on edge.

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  • I can be the most awkward or the easy going chillest person. Its really a matter of what i feel like. i really do whatever i want and if i need to fit in i can easily go with the flow and vice versa. I really dont mind awkwardness at all.

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  • It CAN turn people off but only people who are not awkward themselves or have never been awkward themselves. Many people have overcome their awkwardness and they can be helpful and understand where you are coming from.

    Unfortunately you might be one of those people who can't just be friends with just anyone. This does suck at times, because I am that person, though However you CAN also find great friends. Not just ANY person though. They have to be similar to you in some way.

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  • Well ot makes people feel uncomfortable. It can also make it unclear on of you like that person or just want to get away from them. People can take it the wrong way.

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  • I'm awkward AF😂😂😂😂

    I find it cute when a guy is awkward. One of those things that make you, you

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  • Awkward as in how?
    Clumsy awkward? Socially awkward? Or?

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    • Socially

    • Oh, well I could understand that it might be a turnoff for very outgoing people because it might make certain social situations difficult?
      I guess the clue is to find someone who doesn't mind. I find that most rather introverted people are a bit socially awkward so I'm sure those people don't mind social awkwardness in a partner either.

  • I am extremely socially awkward, I don't know why but i always have been. So if someone was socially awkward around me i certainly wouldn't have a problem with it lol i know their pain. I just never know what to talk to people about

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  • It shows a lack of confidence and communication skills.

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  • One of my friends go to was to act extremely awkward. His best pick up little was "I'm an airplane" totally an act and oddly effective

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  • What is YOUR definition of awkward?

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  • I guess it makes others feel awkward too. :/

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  • I can be a bit awkward around new people

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  • I don't know, but i can say that i'm pretty awkward myself..

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  • I had a guy come up to me in the break room and ask if the vending machine took debit cards... it clearly did. I think it was an excuse to talk to me... I sat there quietly and he stood there and said well um hows the weather outside.. I said it's nice out.. and then he goes well um ok um I'm going for a walk and sped walked outta there

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    • Did that make you uncomfortable?

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    • Maybe but there are other issues

    • like what?

  • I guess there are various levels of awkwardness. Mostly, it's fine and I am patient with the person if they're nervous, anxious, or something. The ones that cross a line and go too far with someone, usually in a sexual context, make it awkward and I don't appreciate that. I can be a bit awkward, but mine is more out of anxiety. Once I calm down after a moment, I'm fine.

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  • A little can be cute, but more than that can be uncomfortable.

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    • But why? And how can i stop it?

    • It's just not something that attracts, it makes it harder for people to interact and respond to you. I think what could help is practice being in more social situations, talking to people, and learning to overcome some of that awkwardness. If you can be around people with charisma and confidence, the type who make being outgoing, social butterflies look easy, that would help too. We often pick up the social habits of those we're around.

What Guys Said 6

  • It makes them feel uncomfortable
    Work on being more socially groomed mate, good luck

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  • I get awkward around girls I like. I just can't help it. Like this one girl I kinda fancy, I ignore her because I freeze up and don't know what to say to her out of instinct of not wanting to be seen bad to her. She got bothered by it and apologized for being intimidating when she confronted me. I think she doesn't know I like her and am attracted to her.

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  • I am awkward, yes. I say inappropriate or out of turn things.

    I've met other people who are even more awkward than I. It can be a little frustrating.

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  • Mabye it's similar to shyness and lack of confidence?

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  • Awkward breaks flow of life, and is off putting. It's like dancing off beat.

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  • I think most men don't mind it in women, and women do mind it in men.

    Why?

    Women are attracted to powerful men, and awkwardness usually suggests poor charisma/leadership etc.

    Secondly, women are -much more physically afraid- of men than vice versa. If a girl seems nervous, we don't worry 'she's nervous i'm gonna realize what a sick fuck she is and what she's gonna do to me as soon as we're alone'.

    That's a BIG reason why seeming cheerfully relaxed, which puts people at ease in general, is important with women.

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