My ex/current/pseudo girlfriend have been off and on for almost 3 years now. Back in the beginning of our relationship we both commented on how much her roommates smoking bothered her. And she complained to me and others for HOURS about how her best friend started smoking.I mean, this girl (when intoxicated) would occasionally take cigarettes out of people's mouths and stomp them out! But when we broke up for a period of time she started smoking, not hard-core cigs but those clove ones. She HATED smokers and told me how she couldn't stand anything with them and I always told her I would never date a smoker. She was horribly depressed but come on? It completely blows my mind how she could do that? Does she just have 0 self-respect or what? Just no back-bone?
(She's never smoked in front of me and lied to me about it for a while too)
- Frustrated Boyfriend
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I'm still a good girl and smoke, so does that make me a bad girl now? I can understand your concern for your girlfriend especially the health concerns, but is that what is really bothering you? her smoking, or the fact that she did not tell you and lied about it?
I have soo much self respect for myself, but yet I still smoke, it's called an addiction, it does not make you a bad person, maybe stupid (i'll admitt) but not bad! I don't respect myself any less because I smoke.
Hating smokers, is kinda strong? don't ya think? Your judging someone based on that? A little superficial don't ya think? Maybe you don't like smoke, or the effects of smoke, or don't want to be around it, but I think hating smokers is silly, that's like hating anyone with an addiction, and we all have them, so.
Talk to her, ask her why she is smoking, tell her what it will do to her, be supportive!
But again, I will go back to, I don't really think its the smoking that bothers you, I think it is the fact that you didn't know, that she was hiding it from you, you need to deal with that, sounds like a bigger issue, does she trust you? doesn't sound like it, why? that's a question you need to ask yourself, why didn't she tell me? Maybe if you were a more open minded person about things, she would of told you. Until you walk in someone's foot steps you can't judge them, and until you've experienced something you should not give anyone advise either. Everyone has there opinions, there like assholes, everyone's got one.
I hope you never have any addictions in your life time, and if you do, I hope you are surrounded by people you can trust and who support you.