Hello so this is for everyone feel free to answer?

[Anonymous]

So I’m dating this guy for past 1.5 years which i met him by accident and we started dating but later on i realized i didn't wanted to date but this guy kept telling me to date him i told him many times that Im not ready but he kept convincing me again & again & he did few stuff like he looks at women in the bus maybe by accident or maybe not who knows we had fight over this because this other girl also kept looking at me & this happened a lot of times but i tried to ignore & i never used to check his phone because i trusted him enough by 2-3 months ago i took his phone to do something & he started getting anxious & we had a fight over this and i noticed everytime i take his phone he gets v anxious & he told that he is anxious bc he doesn’t want me to see his guy friends groups bc they send weird stuff another thing is he follows a lot of girls on his insta i told him to unfollow them recently & he got mad after unfollowing maybe 1-2 girls & he even told me that he knows them more than he knows me & i felt genuinely bad and also i went thro his whatsapp & found that he still has his ex's contact and that he unblocked her while i was busy for few days and then he blocked her back on NYE eve and we had fight over it and i asked him and he said that he just wanted to look at her pfp bc it was a group picture and i asked why did he need to unblock her just to see her pfp so he said he did it by mistake and realized that she was unblocked later alsooo v last he said he is allergic to smoke but i recently found a video of him smoking cigar in his recently deleted pic & now i want to finish everythimg & he keeps begging me to give him a chance & says its unfair that i am leaving when there's no good reason.. when he came to convince me he kept convincing me until i said yes and then i started crying bc it was too stressful for me & he was literally sitting next to me & he didn't care if i was crying & left and later when i asked he said he wanted to give me space.

[devilish-cutie]

It sounds like you want to leave him and you should as your relationship doesn't sound healthy. He might just want to be with you to not be alone or he is fine with more superficial type of relationship than you want it. You need to do what is right for you, breaking up is generally hard, but there is not happiness in being guilt tripped to stay in one.

[Asker]

Well i agree but do you think what he did is cheating or lying bc im more hurt bc of that

[devilish-cutie]

I canot say for sure he cheated or lied as there is no clear evidence on that. He might want his privacy on his phone, maybe he watched weird porn or something so you cannot know. about ex and all the girls, if he gets mad he may think about his options or try to work out mentally how it was w an ex to help him w issues he has in this relationship with you, about other girls, if he knows them it might be they are just friends so he feels bad about unfollowing them or if he is not secure in relationship with you he doesn't want to remove his other options. As for leavingyou while crying, could be you are just different and he thought you want to be left alone and cry it out. So you really cannot tell, only you know if his is shady guy or he can be loyal.