Found out my boyfriend had a okcupid page should I breakup with him

[Anonymous]

I found my boyfriend had a OK Cupid that he is on constantly should I break up with him he said he is just on there to converse not looking for anything serious which I don't believe at all should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

What does his profile say? Every user on OkCupid can choose what they're looking for (friends, short-term dating, long-term dating, long distance penpals, casual sex). Also, is he listed as "single" or "seeing someone"?

In general, I'd say this is a very bad sign and I would not tolerate that my boyfriend has a profile on a dating site. I've been involved with guys in the past who had profiles on dating sites, and they all have the same excuse ("not looking for anything, just get on when I'm bored, bla bla") but yes, I'd say a guy who is in a relationship and is on a dating site is bad news.

[Asker]

He has seeing someone but some of the questions he has answered on there says he is looking for something else I made a fake one just to answer questions he has answered to see his responses I'm so confused and hurt

[Opinion Owner]

So he openly admitted that he's on there, and you didn't happen to just find him somehow? I still find it strange that he's on there, but if he told you without you even asking or finding him somehow, he might not be a complete ass. But I understand the being hurt and confused part. When I have a boyfriend the last thing on my mind are dating sites and talking to guys on said sites.

[Celeste96]

I have never heard anything more strange. Honestly, if he is on a DATING site, he is not just "mingling" with other women. He either is having video-sex or actually trying to meet someone. Either way it's weird and he cannot give a good excuse for doing so.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing by breaking up with him

[Asker]

Thank you

[aMuse]

So you are looking on OK Cupid and you happened to run into your boyfriend who is also looking on OK Cupid, and he's in the wrong for doing the same thing you are doing? hmmm... =S When you confronted him about it he was open about it and now you want to break up?

[Asker]

We had a conversation one night about Facebook and social networks and he said he was on okcupid at first I didn't even know what type of site it was so I googled it and that's when I find out it was a "dating" site

[aMuse]

So again, he was open with you about it, he told you what he does on there and you have a problem with him being open and honest with you. Go figure... Crazy sh*t.

[Asker]

Ughhhh it's always that one guy who tries to justify everything some men use the whole honesty thing as a scapegoat OK he was honest about it but that doesn't justify the fact why he's on there even after I told him I was uncomfortable with him having one. The bottom line is he is on there for other reasons from what I just recently found out today and he makes it seems like he is on there just out of "boredom" he can save that sh*t for his new girlfriend maybe she'll be OK with it but not me

[aMuse]

And you're on girlsaskguys. You know girls and guys do happen to talk here...

[aMuse]

Guess that's your little secret huh?

[bDizzie]

You might want to break up with him. He can get on Facebook if he wants to converse with people.

[Asker]

oh I did

[raptor]

There is more to that site than just being a dating site. True, dating is the foremost purpose of OKCupid, but it's also a way to find new people to talk to or to find others who share similar interests. They have various quizzes which can be a fun way to kill time. My point is that, unless you are sure, not suspicious of, but sure that he is using it as a dating site and is actively pursuing other women breaking up with him would be a bit foolish.

[Asker]

I know why he's on there so I kicked him to the curb :)

[Anonymous]

No, you should make one and request him. He'll freak.

[Asker]

no need he's not worth it anymore