Extroverts are known as the social butterflies usually. On the other hand introverts are usually known as people who don't say much and keep to themselves. But,what if you have the blessing and curse of being both? That's how I explain myself. I am an ambivert. I am an NFP meaning I rely on my intuition,feeling,and perspective to help with my personality. But as far as being an introvert or extrovert I am in the middle. Here is what I mean.
I love to go out and have fun. But I do get bored easily if the situation is not interesting or becomes too awkward. Most times I just want to be out to meet new people and socialize. But,I also want to be by myself later and listen to music.
This has been a huge problem for me in the past. Especially in high school. I would try flirting but was always awkward or they thought I wasn't serious at doing it since I always usually complimented people on a regular basis. Even at one time I told a girl I liked her and she thought it was just regular conversation even though she had heard it from a lot of guys before if ya know What i mean.
I love to have conversations with people and get to know them, but most times I have to plan out and play in my mind what i'm going to say first. This dont mean Im fake. It just means I love to talk and an rather sociable. However I do get nervous sometimes and have to rehearse and plan out what I have to say. Even a lot of the times before I ask a question here on GAG I will study on it and anyalize it for a few minutes before I ask it to make sure I am asking it the right way. So yes even though I can be a talker, I do feel the need often to think about what to say.
This is common for me. Especially with people I really don't wanna waste my breath to. In the past I have been quiet around people I do not really like and are annoying they will say "Why don't you talk more"? It's usually all I can to to say I don't want to talk to you if you're going to be annoying and a jackass around me. Most times at work I can be rather introverted especially when I feel like im in a specific kind of zone to get to hopping on my work. Other times when we aren't so busy I am more talkative.
This is especially true. Half of the people that know me say I'm too quiet and never say a lot. Half of them say I talk too much. To me its really more or less how I feel in the situation at the moment whether I talk or not. If I feel out of place or not welcome then I will talk less. One example is church. Because most of the people there would rather talk about and get to know my religious beliefs which I am a Christian but have many non conservative views I usually keep my mouth shut. But, on the other hand if it's a conversation with people in a group or setting I feel open in I can talk more and be extroverted. It all depends on my comfort level and vibe I get from others.
So.... Being an ambivert is like being Jekyll and Hyde. There are two sides to your personality. One side you love to talk and be sociable. On the other hand you just wanna get the hell out of there and be alone either reading or listening to music. So yes I have the blessing and curse of being both. Hopefully I'm not the only ambivert. But I feel like I can relate to both sides equally.
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