1. Drop your 'white knight' armour at the door.
Yes, you could argue that women are more vulnerable than men on average. That women have, on average, experienced more harassment (usually sexual) at the hands of men, sometimes leading to assault or rape. Naturally, this would lead the inflicted women to seek someone for support; someone to be their ‘crutch’. A role which many men feel obliged to fill and provide a shoulder to cry on.
Not saying that I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to offer a shoulder to cry at times when I’m just feeling like throwing everything down and saying ‘fuck it’, but… it’d be pretty damn hard to look at a guy who was formerly known as a classic case of the ‘emotional crutch’ as someone who I’d want to ride till I cum.
2. Stop thinking that expressing basic human decency will earn you the key to get between my legs.
We get way too many of these kinds of posts here on GaG, but they’re littering the entire internet as well. Posts made by guys who are furious that they ‘wasted so much time being nice to so and so’, then she ended up being like ‘all those other sluts and not wanting to jump on my dick soon after’. Which in itself, is a contradiction. If she were a true ‘slut’, she’d be more than willing to jump on your dick.
But alas…
Looking at human interactions as a checkout counter at your local supermarket is indicative of your own lack of reasoning. Friendliness ≠ pussy pass. Perhaps it’s time you retake whichever level of elementary math that covers the basics of algebra if you’ve got a hard time understanding that concept.
M'lady, I implore you, believe when I say, that there are no evilish intentions on my side. I would never think of touching you inappropriately, this I swear on my fedora.
…But. But, if you don't want to bang me after I told you that, yer' a cunt and a skank, just like others. yer' not like my fleshlight-fitted Rainbow Dash toy, who really loves me.
3. Hoping for the best is cute. Interpreting her carrying on a conversation via texting for a couple of days as her wanting to get some vitamin D with the help of yours truly, is not.
So you were texting each other for a few days and she hasn’t written back for a few days. The thing is, things were SO great before this unannounced hiatus. She’d write back pretty promptly and all, conversation flowed with next to no effort.
What’s her deal? How on earth could a girl be so evil and misleading in having 100% platonic conversation with you over a few days, then no longer continuing it? She obviously had nothing better to do with her time than to plan exactly how to work you into a tailspin, eventually resulting in a broken heart. Why would she send SO MANY SIGNS that she was interested (like asking ‘what’s up?’, or saying ‘shame I didn’t see you last night!’) then go completely MIA.
4. Don’t count on women to be able to read your mind and know what you (…or more likely, what the head below your shoulders) want from them.
As I’m sure many of you have already noticed, many of the guys who classify themselves as ‘forever alone’ or ones who get ‘friend zoned all the time’ are also the ones who completely avoid mentioning or suggesting any sort of sexual/romantic interest in a girl they’re spending time with until after she meets another guy and gets into a relationship with him.
Escalation of a friendship into a romantic relationship requires sexuality, so the longer you keep your ‘white knight’ façade up, the longer you’ll continue essentially castrating yourselves. Trying as hard as you can to come across as if you’re not interested in getting between her legs when in reality, that’s all you really want, isn’t how it works.
5. If she says she's not interested... take it as the truth.
Closing your eyes while twirling around for 5 seconds while repeating some sort of chant that will hex her and get her to change her mind or something is no solution to count on.
Let’s say that your case is a bit of an outlier and you’ve actually told the object of your interest that you’re interested in taking your relationship to the next level. Her reply was something along the lines of ‘…by golly! I’m flattered but I’m not ready for a relationship at this time’.
This lack of interest may sting a bit for you, but it’s best to move on with your head held high. Just because she may have been a friend to whom you were attracted leaves her in no way obligated to date you. She has every right to reject you.
6. What should be your move from this point onwards?
Well… making yourself comfortable and waiting around in anticipation for her to change her mind and get into your horse-drawn carriage is not something I’d advise that you do. Can you imagine that she’s say that she ‘only likes you as a friend’ if she secretly wanted your dick inside of her and to meet your soul in nirvana?
Nope, neither can I. You’ve made your intentions with her crystal clear, putting the ball in her court. That kind of reply is generally nothing more than a stalling technique, and I wouldn’t anticipate getting the ball returned any time soon.
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