I hate taking pictures, in a long distance relationship, boyfriend asked to get pics everyday and I refused? Was I selfish?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and two months now.

We lived together the whole of last year which was from March to December.

In January this year he had to move because he found work in another city which is 17hours away.

We miss each other and we fight a lot more than we did last year. He recently asked if I could send him pics of myself everyday; meaning I would have to snap pics of myself everyday.

I hate taking pictures so much, I never take pics unless I take them with him or my family, feels less painful that way. So I told him I can't do it and he got mad and couldn't understand why I couldn't do such a 'simple' thing. He told me that it would make him really happy to be able to see me everyday; but I told him I just can't cause I absolutely hate it.

I even asked my sis about this and she also knows I hate taking pics; but she said 'you should do it for him'. I still can't do it.

We talked about it over the phone tonight and 'resolved' it but he is not understanding that I can't do it.

Am I a selfish and stubborn girlfriend?
Is he not understanding and stubborn?

I said I would send him pics when I feel like it.
He said he wouldn't ask anything else from me. Which sounds childish to me.
LDRs are hard! But I will also be working in the same city as him next year, so there is a plan.

Don't be selfish, send him pics of yourself everyday.

If you hate it that much don't even worry about it.

Try and send him pics every once in a while, compromise a bit.

Updates

+1 y

Ohk, should I compromise and do this though I really hate it, where in fact he couldn't compromise for me and kept pictures of women with big butts and boobs on his phone knowing that it made me very sad and made me feel inadequate?

Updates

+1 y

I discovered this last December; he had this picture of a girl with a huge butt on his phone's wallpaper, and a few others saved. I told him I don't like it one bit and he deleted the pics. He said he would never do it again.

[Masamii]

i think you should send pics of yourself, i really do. this is a hard time and you each are going to have to give and take a little from each other to make it work. think about if this situation were reversed and you wanted to wake up to a pic of him every morning, wouldn't that be nice? i know you really hate taking the pictures, but whats a picture every day to make your relationship last?

[lumos]

Yes, you're being a bit selfish. He just wants to see you. Why don't you use snapchat? Snapchat allows you to send pictures to each other, and after opening them they disappear after 1-10 seconds (depending on what timer you set it on). If not that, you could always use FaceTime or Skype and video chat with each other?

[Anonymous]

Think that you're on LDR and he loves you so much because he wants to see you everyday even through pic. As long as it is not nude or naked picture its okay. There's nothing wrong with it, be considerate with his feelings, relt'p is not just all about you. Understand his needs too.

[Anonymous]

A little selfish yes. It's long distance and it's hard. You can't be together so pictures and videos are the only way to go
If you want this to work oiut long distance, you're going to have to compromise a little bit even if it means going outside your comfort zone

[Drooogie4]

Do the pictures. Thats what me and my boyfriend did when we were long distance for 6 months. I'd do it for him, and he did it for me. It really does make a difference And its really not that hard

[Metal189]

yes, you're being selfish

[Asker]

Please read my updates first

Now while I was visiting him last month I saw on his phone that he had one pic of another woman with huge ass and boobs, he then deleted it later not knowing I had seen it. I then confronted him, he apologised and was embarrassed. Does he deserve having me compromise for him after that?

[Metal189]

yeah, he's basically saying, im going to do what i want, if you dont do what i want

[Asker]

But the thing with him and inappropriate pictures happened last year, before we got into this current situation.

[Metal189]

well, you didn't do it last year either

[Asker]

It wasn't needed because we lived together

[Metal189]

we get that

[Asker]

You don't understand.

[Metal189]

i do understand, you just dont want to be considered selfish

[Asker]

I will do it for him. He's one lucky bastard, I'd never do this for anyone else, ever...