Still helping my ex-girlfriend pay for her rent and certain bills, cable, electric, etc... is that ok?

[Anonymous]

Hello, my ex and I split up a little over a month ago and it was long distance. I don't expect many to understand but she is in a tough spot as a single mother. The advice of friends and family to her led to our breakup as we were distant. However that being said, she is a genuine person at heart and struggles a lot. She currently ignores me and we are not on talking terms, but in the same sense she has never told me to never contact her again or does not want me in her life. I know she has a lot on her plate as it is, especially recently being diagnosed with anxiety and depression, being a single mother of two. I just wanted everyone's view on this. She means the world to me and I deeply care for her and the kids and yes I do hope one day she will realize and contact me, but even then I still want to help her out because it doesn't change her situation... she needs it. Any input would be awesome, thank you!

[Kristenelizabethhhh]

I think you're such an honorable person for still supporting her and caring not only for her but her children. Hats off to you, but you also have to focus on your happiness as well. You can't continue to support her when the relationship is done and she has no contact with you at all. I understand if she's going through a tough time but remember we all go through those. The question you need to ask yourself is "would she do the same for me?" . It works both ways. Good luck! Xoxo

[Cmasterson]

I think it's okay for the mean time, if you genuinely care for her and want to help her, and don't feel like you NEED to then yes its okay to do this, based on your heart. If she takes advantage and expects you to in the future, forget it, as hard as it is to see her in this tough spot, don't make it last forever, unless you're okay with it. Like any person, she has to eventually get herself together and take on her responsibilities, all the best luck to you.

[MosaicMind]

I think you're being mature about this. Unless she does something against you I think you should continue helping her. She's in a tight spot and suffering, she's not an evil person so why not? The relationship didn't work out but you can still do the right thing.

good luck.

[Anonymous]

I never understand what is about men who wants to sleep with another man's (ex) wife and their kids...

[Anonymous]

Despite her problems I think if you've broken up you're not obliged to pay her way. I'd feel like she was using the tough time she's having to make me feel like I should help out based on my feelings for her.
She may indeed be having a tough time and you're taking some of the pressure off... I'd feel used and manipulated, I'd probably give her advanced warning that I was gonna stop, I won't be held to ransom forever.

[JackKerouac77]

You are being much more generous than a lot of people would be. Stay gold, Ponyboy.

[MoshingExec]

If you don't mind paying for her rent in the same place her new boyfriend is banging her.

[Billlewis]

Heck, that might be why he's doing it:)

[Billlewis]

I think that's wonderful. If you continue to pay her bills, do you think she'll consider getting back together with you?

[Neko_Chan]

Why do people keep repeating the same questions? Once is enough.

[WWLifeBegin]

Yeah its like you respond to them and they refuse to hear

[BrianSmith]

No. Have you lost your mind?